Praising - Fame - Popularity - Awarding - Punishing


We want to encourage people without giving people a false sense of accomplishment, like most schools do with testing. Reward-Based Learning is much more effective than punishment or being threatened with negative consequences. If learning is not rewarding, then you are not doing it right. Good grades are not always a reward, just like money is not always a reward. Drugs or temporary gratification is not always a reward, but eating healthy and exercising is rewarding because of the many lasting benefits. Being Good Has its own Reward, but you have to know why something is good and understand what the reward is. What's the incentive? Why is money sometimes a dangerous reward?

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Clapping Stimulation - Rewards - Punishment - Spoiling

Learning Methods - Teaching Methods

Reward-Based Learning - Incentives - Fame

Adolescents are more receptive to rewards than they are to punishments of equal value. 'I will give you a gift or privileges to do the dishes' might work better than saying 'I will take gifts or privileges from you if you don't do the dishes'. Reward-based approach is more likely to be effective. Learning needs to be its own reward so that learning creates its own motivation. Like the many rewards of understanding yourself more accurately and more fully, and understanding the world around you more accurately and more fully. Reality Based and Sustainable.

Taming is to influence good behavior by reward, punishment or discipline. To make something soft, less strong or less intense. To adapt a wild plant or unclaimed land to the environment. Domesticating (wiki) - Tame Animal (wiki). Animal Training (wiki).

Conditioning is a learning process in which an organism's behavior becomes dependent on the occurrence of a stimulus in its environment. Establish a conditioned response. Develop children's behavior by instruction and practice, especially to teach self-control.

The Computational Development of Reinforcement Learning during Adolescence.

Effects on Children Growing up - Spoiled - Attention - Praise

Immediate Rewards Boost Workplace Motivation. New research shows that immediate rewards increase enjoyment and interest in tasks more compared to rewards at the end of a task.

Reflex is an involuntary and nearly instantaneous movement in response to a stimulus. Instinct.

Affect is the experience of feeling or emotion. Affect is a key part of the process of an organism's interaction with stimuli. The word also refers sometimes to affect display, which is "a facial, vocal, or gestural behavior that serves as an indicator of affect"


Stimulating - Stimulus


Stimulus in physiology is a detectable change in the internal or external environment. The ability of an organism or organ to respond to external stimuli is called sensitivity. When a stimulus is applied to a sensory receptor, it normally elicits or influences a reflex via stimulus transduction. These sensory receptors can receive information from outside the body, as in touch receptors found in the skin or light receptors in the eye, as well as from inside the body, as in chemoreceptors and mechanorceptors. An internal stimulus is often the first component of a homeostatic control system. External stimuli are capable of producing systemic responses throughout the body, as in the fight-or-flight response. In order for a stimulus to be detected with high probability, its level must exceed the absolute threshold; if a signal does reach threshold, the information is transmitted to the central nervous system, where it is integrated and a decision on how to react is made. Although stimuli commonly cause the body to respond, it is the CNS that finally determines whether a signal causes a reaction or not.

Stimulus
is any stimulating information or event; acts to arouse an action or a reaction.

Stimulation is the action of various agents or forms of energy or stimuli on receptors that generate impulses that travel through nerves to the brain. There are sensory receptors on or near the surface of the body, such as photoreceptors in the retina of the eye, hair cells in the cochlea of the ear, touch receptors in the skin and chemical receptors in the mouth and nasal cavity. There are also sensory receptors in the muscles, joints, digestive tract, and membranes around organs such as the brain, the abdominal cavity, the bladder and the prostate (providing one source of sexual stimulation). Stimulation to the external or internal senses may evoke involuntary activity or guide intentions in action. Such emotional or motivating stimulation typically is also experienced subjectively (enters awareness, is in consciousness). Perception can be regarded as conceptualised stimulation, used in reasoning and intending, for example. When bodily stimulation is perceived it is traditionally called a sensation, such as a kind of touch or a taste or smell, or a painful or pleasurable sensation. This can be thought of as psychological stimulation, which is a stimulus affecting a person's thinking or feeling processes.

Stimulate
is to excite the feelings or emotions of someone or cause someone to be alert and energetic. Arouse feelings in someone or to disturb someone. To make someone or something act in a particular way or do a particular thing.

Stimulant
is something that stimulates, like a drug that temporarily quickens some vital process.

Stimulator
is a person, device or substance that stimulates.

Sensitive is being responsive to physical stimuli. Pain.

Sensitive Person is someone who feels things more strongly than other people do. Sometimes has difficulty adapting and may lack the skills to solve problems rationally. May have a low threshold for minor disturbances. Sometimes overreacts, which is not always bad, depending on the situation and the relevance. Adjustment Disorder occurs when an individual has significant difficulty adjusting to or coping with a significant psychosocial stressor. The maladaptive response usually involves otherwise normal emotional and behavioral reactions that manifest more intensely than usual (taking into account contextual and cultural factors), causing marked distress, preoccupation with the stressor and its consequences, and functional impairment. Susceptible to the attitudes, feelings, or circumstances of others. May lack patience and tolerance or self-control.

Sensory Substitution - Refractory Period - Body affects the Mind - Dopamine.

Stimulus Control Scale (PDF) - Liminal is a stimulus just strong enough to be consciously experienced.

Psychophysics quantitatively investigates the relationship between physical stimuli and the sensations and perceptions they produce. Psychophysics has been described as "the scientific study of the relation between stimulus and sensation" or, more completely, as "the analysis of perceptual processes by studying the effect on a subject's experience or behavior of systematically varying the properties of a stimulus along one or more physical dimensions". Psychophysics also refers to a general class of methods that can be applied to study a perceptual system. Modern applications rely heavily on threshold measurement, ideal observer analysis, and signal detection theory. Psychophysics has widespread and important practical applications. For example, in the study of digital signal processing, psychophysics has informed the development of models and methods of lossy compression. These models explain why humans perceive very little loss of signal quality when audio and video signals are formatted using lossy compression. Sound.

Priming in psychology is an implicit memory effect in which exposure to one stimulus (i.e., perceptual pattern) influences the response to another stimulus. Power of Disgust (gross).

Desensitization in psychology is defined as the diminished emotional responsiveness to a negative, aversive or positive stimulus after repeated exposure to it. It also occurs when an emotional response is repeatedly evoked in situations in which the action tendency that is associated with the emotion proves irrelevant or unnecessary. Sensationalism - Boredom.

A delayed response experiment might include placing a stimulus object inside one of several similar opaque containers while the subject is watching but is restrained, and then allowing the subject to search for the object after a certain period of delay. Delayed response experiments have been conducted in the psychological study of both animals and (usually very young) humans. Some psychologists believe that the ability to respond appropriately after a significant delay indicates the operation of some form of advanced mental functioning, and that investigations of delayed response are useful in the comparative psychological analysis of various species.

Frequency Following Response is an evoked potential generated by periodic or nearly-periodic auditory stimuli. Part of the auditory brainstem response (ABR), the FFR reflects sustained neural activity integrated over a population of neural elements: "the brainstem response...can be divided into transient and sustained portions, namely the onset response and the frequency-following response (FFR)". It is often phase-locked to the individual cycles of the stimulus waveform and/or the envelope of the periodic stimuli. It has not been well studied with respect to its clinical utility, although it can be used as part of a test battery for helping to diagnose auditory neuropathy. This may be in conjunction with, or as a replacement for, otoacoustic emissions.

Habituation is a form of learning in which an organism decreases or ceases its responses to a stimulus after repeated or prolonged presentations. Essentially, the organism learns to stop responding to a stimulus which is no longer biologically relevant. For example, organisms may habituate to repeated sudden loud noises when they learn these have no consequences. Habituation usually refers to a reduction in innate behaviours, rather than behaviours acquired during conditioning (in which case the process is termed "extinction"). A progressive decline of a behavior in a habituation procedure may also reflect nonspecific effects such as fatigue, which must be ruled out when the interest is in habituation as a learning process. The habituation process is a form of adaptive behavior (or neuroplasticity) that is classified as non-associative learning. Non-associative learning is a change in a response to a stimulus that does not involve associating the presented stimulus with another stimulus or event such as a reward or punishment. (Examples of associative learning include classical conditioning and operant conditioning). Habituation is the decrease of a response to a repeated eliciting stimulus that is not due to sensory adaptation or motor fatigue. Sensory adaptation (or neural adaptation) occurs when an organism can no longer detect the stimulus as efficiently as when first presented and motor fatigue occurs when an organism is able to detect the stimulus but can no longer respond efficiently. In contrast, habituation is a learned adaptation to the repeated presentation of a stimulus, not a reduction in sensory or motor ability. Some related phenomena to habituation include sensitization and stimulus generalization/discrimination. Sensitization is the opposite process to habituation, i.e. an increase in the elicited behavior from repeated presentation of a stimulus. There may also be an initial increase in response immediately prior to the decline (a sensitization process followed by a habituation process). Another related phenomenon is stimulus generalization, when habituation occurs in response to other stimuli that are similar to the original stimulus. The opposing process, stimulus discrimination, is when habituation does not occur to other stimuli that are dissimilar to the original stimulus. Habituation may also be clinically relevant, as a number of neuropsychiatric conditions, including Autism, Schizophrenia, Migraine, and Tourette's, show reductions in habituation to a variety of stimulus-types both simple (tone) and complex (faces).

Sensitization is a non-associative learning process in which repeated administration of a stimulus results in the progressive amplification of a response. Sensitization often is characterized by an enhancement of response to a whole class of stimuli in addition to the one that is repeated. For example, repetition of a painful stimulus may make one more responsive to a loud noise. Alarm Fatigue.

Event-Related Potential is the measured brain response that is the direct result of a specific sensory, cognitive, or motor event. More formally, it is any stereotyped electrophysiological response to a stimulus. The study of the brain in this way provides a noninvasive means of evaluating brain functioning. ERPs are measured by means of electroencephalography (EEG). The magnetoencephalography (MEG) equivalent of ERP is the ERF, or event-related field. Evoked potentials and induced potentials are subtypes of ERPs

Nature, meet nurture. Single-cell analysis reveals diverse landscape of genetic changes in the brain after a sensory experience.

Euphoria is an affective state in which a person experiences pleasure or excitement and intense feelings of well-being and happiness. Certain drugs, many of which are addictive, can cause euphoria, which at least partially motivates their recreational use. Similarly, certain natural rewards and social activities, such as aerobic exercise, laughter, listening to emotionally arousing music, music-making, and dancing, can induce a state of euphoria. Euphoria is also a symptom of certain neurological or neuropsychiatric disorders, such as mania. Romantic love and components of the human sexual response cycle are also associated with the induction of euphoria. According to Kent Berridge, an affective neuroscientist, intense euphoria occurs from the simultaneous activation of every hedonic hotspot within the brain's reward system.

Inhibition - Gambling - Technology Addiction (Intermittent Rewards)

Pathological intoxication refers to an extremely exaggerated response to an intoxicant.

Path of Least Resistance is a survival mechanism of life. Low Entropy.

Reward System is a group of neural structures responsible for incentive salience (i.e., "wanting" or desire), pleasure (i.e., "liking" or hedonic value), and positive reinforcement. Reward is the attractive and motivational property of a stimulus that induces appetitive behavior – also known as approach behavior – and consummatory behavior.

Incentive Salience refers to the "wanting" or "desire" attribute given by the brain – specifically, by the nucleus accumbens shell – to a rewarding stimulus. Reward is the attractive and motivational property of a stimulus that induces appetitive behavior – also known as approach behavior – and consummatory behavior.

New Neurons in the Adult Brain are involved in Sensory Learning. Scientists have demonstrated that the new neurons produced in adults react preferentially to reward-related sensory stimuli and help speed up the association between sensory information and reward. Adult-born neurons therefore play an important role in both the identification of a sensory stimulus and the positive value associated with that sensory experience. The neurons generated shortly after birth are unable to perform this function.


Reinforcement - Positive Reinforcement Vulnerabilities


Reinforcement is a consequence that will strengthen an organism's future behavior whenever that behavior is preceded by a specific repeated stimulus.

Positive Reinforcement involves the addition of a reinforcing stimulus following a behavior that makes it more likely that the behavior will occur again in the future. When a favorable outcome, event, or reward occurs after an action, that particular response or behavior will be strengthened. Operant Conditioning.

Positive Reinforcer is a stimulus event for which the animal will work in order to acquire it. Verbal and physical reward is very useful positive reinforcement. Negative reinforcement or negative punishment?

Primary Reinforcer is a reinforcer that is not learned; it is "naturally" reinforcing. Conformity.

Secondary Reinforcer or conditioned reinforcer is learned; it is not a stimulus that is naturally reinforcing.

Bridge Reinforcer is learning or training using a sound like a click, whistle or word, which is needed to follow the desired behavior immediately after the behavior occurred (even a delay of a second or two could reduce performance).

Intermittent Reinforcement is a conditioning schedule in which a reward or punishment or reinforcement is not administered every time the desired response is performed.

Positive Reinforcement can be bad or harmful if misused, especially when it promotes or encourages bad behavior or influences false beliefs. Certain information can be maliciously created to encourage people to have false or inaccurate beliefs. And when people are deliberately exposed to others who share their point of view, it makes people feel better about having a false or inaccurate belief because they see other people who they perceive as having the same beliefs as you, which means that people will never confirm or validate the information themselves, because they pretend that they already understand enough and feel no need to learn more about it. It's a lazy persons way to having an excuse to live in a quasi reality.

Pleasure is not a Measure of Value. Just because you like something that makes you feel good, this doesn't mean that the thing you like is good for you, or good for other people or the world. Finding pleasure in things that are slowly killing you or slowly degrading the world, is a clear sign of a disease. Even though humans have learned to understand a lot of different diseases and have also learned how to control them, humans still have not yet learned how to control and minimize the diseases of the mind. Humans have made incredible advancements in many different areas in technologies and in medicines, but not in education.

Finding Pleasure in things that are known and confirmed to be good for you even when you don't enjoy them, will help you to experience more pleasures in life then ever before. But even then, life still needs balance. So you will still have to experience things that don't give you pleasure, like with some responsibilities. So you have to understand how important certain actions are even if there is no perceived pleasure in doing them. Focus on the known benefits. Try mixing exercise with music or Mixing foods that you do like with Foods that you don't like.

Incentives - Motivation - Being a Good Parent

Appetitive behavior is an activity that increases the likelihood of satisfying a specific need.

Avoidance Conditioning occurs where a subject learns behavior preventing the occurrence of an aversive stimulus.

Approach Behavior is a form of behavior in which an object or person is moved towards, avoidant behavior where there is movement away.

Consummatory is a behavior pattern that occurs in response to a stimulus and that achieves the satisfaction of a specific drive, as the eating of captured prey by a hungry predator (distinguished from appetitive behavior). Consummatory responses (eating, drinking, etc.) are the critical features of reinforcers. Demand curve - the relation between how much of a commodity is purchased and the price of the commodity.

Consummatory Behavior is a behavior pattern that occurs in response to a stimulus and that achieves the satisfaction of a specific drive.


Conditioning - Repeated Stimulus


Conditioning is a learning process in which an organism's behavior becomes dependent on the occurrence of a stimulus in its environment. Develop (children's) behavior by instruction and practice; especially to teach self-control. Establish a conditioned response. Specify as a condition or requirement in a contract or agreement; make an express demand or provision in an agreement

Operant Conditioning is a type of learning in which the strength of a behavior is modified by its consequences, such as reward or punishment, and the behavior is controlled by repeated carefully judged stimuli which come to signal those consequences. (also "instrumental conditioning"). Antecedent is a preceding occurrence or cause or event. Preceding in time or order. Anything that precedes or comes before something earlier in time.

Operant Conditioning Chamber or Skinner Box, is a laboratory apparatus used to study animal behavior. The operant conditioning chamber was created by B. F. Skinner while he was a graduate student at Harvard University. It may have been inspired by Jerzy Konorski's studies. It is used to study both operant conditioning and classical conditioning. Technology Addiction.

Classical Conditioning is a learning process in which an innate response to a potent stimulus comes to be elicited in response to a previously neutral stimulus (bell); Unlearned reflex response (e.g., salivation). This is achieved by repeated pairings of the neutral stimulus with the potent stimulus (food). (also known as Pavlovian or respondent conditioning).

Conditioned Response is a behavior that does not come naturally, but must be learned by the individual by pairing a neutral stimulus with a potent stimulus. The potent stimulus is one that does not require any learning or conditioning to respond to appropriately. Priming.

Unconditioned Stimulus is one that unconditionally, naturally, and automatically triggers a response. 4 For example, when you smell one of your favorite foods, you may immediately feel very hungry. In this example, the smell of the food is the unconditioned stimulus.

Psychological Effects - Affect in psychology is the experience of feeling or emotion. Affect is a key part of the process of an organism's interaction with stimuli. The word also refers sometimes to affect display, which is "a facial, vocal, or gestural behavior that serves as an indicator of affect" (APA 2006). 3 principal dimensions: valence, arousal, and motivational intensity. Emotional valence refers to the emotion’s consequences, emotion-eliciting circumstances, or subjective feelings or attitudes. Arousal is objectively measurable as activation of the sympathetic nervous system, but can also be assessed subjectively via self-report. Arousal is a construct that is closely related to motivational intensity but they differ in that motivation necessarily implies action while arousal does not. Motivational intensity refers to the impulsion to act; the strength of an urge to move toward or away from a stimulus. Simply moving is not considered approach (or avoidance) motivation without a motivational urge present.

Shaping in psychology is successive approximations, when an existing response is gradually changed across successive trials towards a desired target behavior by rewarding exact segments of behavior.

Valence in psychology means the intrinsic attractiveness (positive valence) or aversiveness (negative valence) of an event, object, or situation reward versus punishment. Emotions (moods).

Synesthesia (senses errors) - Brain Plasticity - Addictions - Clickbait

Extinction is observed in both operantly conditioned and classically conditioned behavior. When operant behavior that has been previously reinforced no longer produces reinforcing consequences the behavior gradually stops occurring. In classical conditioning, when a conditioned stimulus is presented alone, so that it no longer predicts the coming of the unconditioned stimulus, conditioned responding gradually stops. For example, after Pavlov's dog was conditioned to salivate at the sound of a metronome, it eventually stopped salivating to the metronome after the metronome had been sounded repeatedly but no food came. Many anxiety disorders such as posttraumatic stress disorder are believed to reflect, at least in part, a failure to extinguish conditioned Fear.

Event-Related Potential is the measured brain response that is the direct result of a specific sensory, cognitive, or motor event. More formally, it is any stereotyped electrophysiological response to a stimulus. The study of the brain in this way provides a noninvasive means of evaluating brain functioning.


Praise - Approval


Thumbs Up Praise refers to positive evaluations made by a person of another's products, performances, or attributes, where the evaluator presumes the validity of the standards on which the evaluation is based. The influence of praise on an individual can depend on many factors, including the context, the meanings the praise may convey, and the characteristics and interpretations of the recipient. Praise is distinct from acknowledgement or feedback, which are more neutral forms of recognition, and encouragement, which is more future oriented. In addition, while praise may share some predictive relationships (both positive and negative) with tangible rewards, praise tends to be less salient and expected, conveys more information about competence, and is typically given more immediately after the desired behavior.

Cheers is a cry or shout of approval. To give encouragement to someone especially by cheers and shouts. To express gratitude or good wishes by shouting. Cause somebody to feel happier or more cheerful. Expressing good wishes before drinking.

Applaud is to show approval or praise by clapping. Like Buttons - Validation by Proxy.

Applause is a form of ovation by the act of clapping, or striking the palms of the hands together, in order to create noise. Audiences usually applaud after a performance, such as a musical concert, speech, or play, as a sign of enjoyment and approval. Clapping nowadays is very popular and in most countries audience members clap their hands at random to produce a constant noise. It tends to synchronize naturally to a weak degree; in Russia, Norway and many northern and eastern European countries synchronized clapping is more popular than random clapping.

Clapping is the percussive sound made by striking together two flat surfaces, as in the body parts of humans or animals. Humans clap with the palms of their hands, often quickly and repeatedly to express appreciation or approval.

Standing Ovation is when a seated audience stands up and rises to their feet and applauses with exuberant appreciation after seeing an extraordinary performance.

Thumb Signals for Yes, No, Maybe Thumb Signal is a common hand gesture achieved by a closed fist held with the thumb extended. Thumbs Up is an indication of satisfaction or approval. Thumbs Down is showing disapproval, rejection or failure. Sideways Thumb indicates not sure or I don't know or maybe.  Like Button.

Approval is a message expressing a favorable opinion and acceptance. A satisfactory feeling of liking something or someone good.

Right On is a slang phrase used as an expression of strong support, approval, or encouragement, and that you agree completely with what someone has said or did. You Dig?

Commendable is someone worthy of high praise.

Kudos is praise and honor received for an achievement.

Recognized is to be generally approved of and accepted by others. To show approval or appreciation of someone or some action. An expression of thanks and gratitude for something positive you have accomplished. To have a reputation of being good and exceptional. Validation - Love.

Recognition is the public acknowledgement of a person's status or merits, achievements, virtues or service.  The state or quality of being recognized or acknowledged. The process of recognizing something or someone by remembering. Acknowledgement, praise or respect for something, e.g. having a quality, producing something, doing something, etc. An acceptance (as of a claim) as true and valid.

Hero's Welcome is an enthusiastic welcome for someone who has done something brave or praiseworthy. A very enthusiastic reception from a group of people who show their admiration for something good that you have done.

Attention is a courteous act indicating that you care about someone and listen with respect. A positive feeling of liking. Focused Attention.

Laud is to praise, glorify, or honor.

Congratulate is to say something to someone that expresses praise. To be proud of someone for their accomplishments.

Rooting for You means to wish someone the best in an endeavor or an activity. To encourage, support, or cheer someone on. To be a fan of someone.

Fan is an ardent follower and admirer of someone and an enthusiastic devotee.

Everyone Needs Attention. But it's knowing how to give attention to someone and understanding why someone needs attention. There are dangers when getting too much Praise or Stimulation. Be careful, Spoiling a Child can sometimes do more harm then good, and may end up becoming a form of abuse. When children receive special treatment, they could become narcissistic or egotistical, and they may also believe that they deserve more, and that they are also more superior to others. There are the dangers from having too much Fame and Popularity?

Pygmalion Effect is the phenomenon whereby others' expectations of a target person affect the target person's performance. High expectations lead to better performance and low expectations lead to worse performance. Being a Good Example.

Bragging is to speak with excessive pride and self-satisfaction about one’s achievements, possessions, or abilities.

Envy is when a person lacks another's superior quality, achievement, or possession and either desires it or wishes that the other lacked it.

We want to give encouragement to someone, but not if the encouragement causes someone not to become better because they think that they're good. They might not see room for improvement, and thus, not improve or get better when they could if they practice and learn more.

Grading - Assessments - Laugh Track

You have to know the differences between reinforcement and rewarding someone, there are different effects. What are you reinforcing? Most people have no idea of the dangers that comes from manipulating someone's behavior. Operant Conditioning is something that you need to fully understand, because if you don't, you could easily damage people. Brain Hacking.


Fake Praise


Laugh Track is a separate soundtrack for a recorded comedy show containing the sound of audience laughter. In some productions, the laughter is a live audience response instead; in the United States, where it is most commonly used, the term usually implies artificial laughter (canned laughter or fake laughter) made to be inserted into the show. Propaganda.

Artificial Crowd Noise is the simulation of live sound of spectators. This is done by mixing pre-recorded live samples and matching them with the actual live events. Mixing can either be done automated or manually. Crowds Replaced by Artificial Intelligence.

Sweetening refers to "juicing up" the audio portion of a film, play, computer game software or any other multimedia project. Its origin may have been old-time radio, which produced visual detail with sound effects such as people walking, horses galloping, doors opening and closing, gunshots, "body slams," etc. Importance being Exaggerated.

Heat can refer to both crowd reactions and real-life animosity between those involved in a professional wrestling angle, or match.

Overzealous Sports Commentator gives a running commentary of a game or event in real time, usually during a live broadcast, traditionally delivered in the historical present tense. Radio was the first medium for sports broadcasts, and radio commentators must describe all aspects of the action to listeners who cannot see it for themselves. In the case of televised sports coverage, commentators are usually presented as a voiceover, with images of the contest shown on viewers' screens and sounds of the action and spectators heard in the background. Television commentators are rarely shown on screen during an event, though some networks choose to feature their announcers on camera either before or after the contest or briefly during breaks in the action. What would live sports sound like without commentators or fans? Do you need to make things so dramatic? Do you need to sensationalize violence? And why do you need to make it about nationalism?



Rewards - Prizes - Medals


Trophy Reward is the benefit resulting from some event or action. An act performed to strengthen approved behavior. Some form of payment made in return for a service rendered. To recompense for worthy acts, or retribution for wrongdoing. Dopamine is sometimes released in the brain when there is an anticipation of a reward. Gratification - Stimulus.

Award is a tangible symbol signifying approval or distinction. Something given for victory or winning or superiority in a contest or competition. Give as judged due or on the basis of merit. Award is something given to a person, a group of people, or an organization to recognize their excellence in a certain field; a certificate of excellence. Awards are often signified by trophies, titles, certificates, commemorative plaques, medals, badges, pins, or ribbons. An award may carry a monetary prize given to the recipient; for example, the Nobel Prize for contributions to society or the Pulitzer Prize for literary achievements. An award may also simply be a public acknowledgment of excellence, without any tangible token or prize of excellence. Measuring Success.

Medal is a small, flat, and round (at times, ovoid) piece of metal that has been sculpted, molded, cast, struck, stamped, or some way marked with an insignia, portrait, or other artistic rendering. A medal may be awarded to a person or organization as a form of recognition for sporting, military, scientific, academic, or various other achievements.

Trophy is a artistic crafted object that is a reminder of a specific achievement, and serves as recognition or evidence of merit.

Prize is a thing given as a reward to the winner of a competition or in recognition of an outstanding achievement.

Consolation Prize is a prize given to a competitor who narrowly fails to win or who finishes last. An award given to persons or groups of people who do not win an event but are worthy of recognition.

Crown is a wreath or garland worn on the head to signify victory. The award given to the champion. Invest with regal power; enthrone. Crown can also mean the highest or extreme point of something, like a mountain or a hill. Crowning Achievement.

Pay Dirt is a reward that is usually in the form of money. Pay dirt was an old term that described ground that contained ore in sufficient quantity that it would be profitable if extracted.

Merit is to be worthy or deserving. Any admirable quality or attribute. The quality of being deserving.

laurel wreath symbol Laureate is someone who is worthy of the greatest honor or distinction. Someone honored for great achievements and figuratively crowned with a laurel wreath.

Feather in your Cap is an English idiomatic phrase believed to have derived from the general custom in some cultures of a warrior adding a new feather to their head-gear for every enemy slain, or in other cases from the custom of establishing the success of a hunter as being the first to bag a game bird by plucking off the feathers of that prey and placing them in the hat band. The phrase today has altered to a more peaceful allusion, where it is used to refer to any laudable success or achievement by an individual that may help that person in the future.

Graduation is the award of a diploma or academic degree, or the ceremony that is sometimes associated with it, in which students become graduates. The date of graduation is often called graduation day. The graduation ceremony itself is also sometimes called: commencement, convocation or invocation. Alumnus of a college, university, or other school is a former student who has either attended or graduated in some fashion from the institution.

Accolades are a tangible symbol signifying approval or distinction. An award or privilege granted as a special honor or as an acknowledgment of merit. Recognition.

Reinforcement Learning is an area of machine learning inspired by behaviorist psychology, concerned with how software agents ought to take actions in an environment so as to maximize some notion of cumulative reward.

An Upside to Reward Sensitivity: The Hippocampus Supports Enhanced Reinforcement Learning in Adolescence.

Sincere Complements - Being Good is it own reward.

Performance Appraisal - Performance Review - Performance Evaluation

List of Prizes known as the Nobel of a Field (wiki)
List of Awards in Intellectual Freedom (wiki)
List of Prizes, Medals, and Awards for Women in Science (wiki)
List of Orders, Medals, Prizes, and other Awards, of Military, Civil and Ecclesiastical Conferees (wiki)
List of Medals, Prizes, and other Awards in the fields of Science, Technology, Engineering and Social Science (wiki)
List of Sport Awards (wiki)
List of Honorary Societies (wiki)
Journalism Awards - Writing Awards

Medal For the Salvation of the Drowning was a state decoration of the Soviet Union awarded to citizens of any nationality for courage and resourcefulness in rescuing people from drowning. It was established on February 16, 1957 by decree of the Presidium of the Supreme Soviet of the USSR. Its statute was twice amended by further decrees of the Presidium of the Supreme Soviet of the USSR, first on August 1, 1967 and lastly on July 18, 1980. The medal ceased to be awarded following the December 1991 dissolution of the Soviet Union; an interim design with "Russia" replacing the "USSR" on the reverse was awarded a few times until it was replaced in 1994 by the Russian Federation's Medal "For Life Saving".

Order of the Badge of Honour was a civilian award of the Soviet Union that was established on 25 November 1935, and was conferred on citizens of the USSR for outstanding achievements in production, scientific research and social, cultural and other forms of social activity; for promotion of economic, scientific, technological, cultural and other ties between the USSR and other countries; and also for significant contribution to basic and applied research. The order was awarded 1,574,368 times.

Right Livelihood Award is an international award to "honour and support those offering practical and exemplary answers to the most urgent challenges facing us today.

Lifetime Achievement Award is an award that recognizes the contributions over the whole of someone's career, rather than or in addition to single contributions. Making creative contributions of outstanding artistic significance to their field.

Constructive Feedback is information-specific, issue-focused, and based on observations. It comes in two varieties: Praise and criticism are both personal judgments about a performance effort or outcome, with praise being a favorable judgment and criticism, an unfavorable judgment. You can learn from criticism as long it's not a judgment, only an Observation.

Pros and Cons - For or Against - Pluses and Minuses - Good or Bad - Positive and Negative Attributes - Good Points and Bad Points - Side by Side Comparison.

Opinion - Observation Errors - Odds

Research - Decision-Making - Public Opinion Surveys

There is only so much you can learn from your Experiences.

Building Self-Confidence is not as important as having people understand Inferiority Complex and Impostor Syndrome.

Why telling kids to Dream Big can be a big con, but only if you don't explain it correctly.

Prizes and awards are almost becoming insulting and embarrassing these days. We know for a fact that 100's of other accomplishments have happened, so why don't they get the same recognition? Are we commodifying knowledge? Are we putting a price tag on each other's lives using only money? And who in the hell is deciding what is valuable and important?

Should you high five someone every time they do something you like? Can you High 5 too much? Is High Five Abuse real?

Good Job” may be two of the most Harmful Words in the English Language. Not really, but you get the point. And the point is not to give someone a false impression that greatness has been achieved. And you don't necessarily need to push someone to greatness, you need to show someone how to push themselves. And show them that greatness is achieved by putting in the time and the effort. And to remind them that they need to seek out the most valuable knowledge and information that they can find, and seek out the experts to help explain this knowledge and information to them. Good Coaching is extremely valuable, but so is knowing how to coach yourself, train yourself, practice yourself and to teach yourself

Sometimes a nice compliment can be taken the wrong way, and end up causing more harm than good.

Compliment is a remark (or act) expressing praise and admiration.

Everyone wants recognition and to be given credit when credits due. People also want to be appreciated, Valued and to be Respected. But people should not rely on these factors when measuring the worth of their actions. People should also not use medals, trophies or awards when measuring their worth. A persons value is measured by their character, by their behavior and by how they value other people, and also how they value life and the world in which we live. You need healthy Criticism as well as Rejection if you want to understand the world correctly and also to be prepared for the reality of life. So don't get caught up in your need to be recognized for that could fill you with a false sense of security, which could have negative impacts on your personality instead of benefiting you.

A Fair Reward Ensures a Good Memory. By deciphering the neural dialogue between the brain's reward and memory networks, a new study demonstrates that the lasting positive effect of a reward on the ability of individuals to retain a variety of information. research team demonstrated that the average accumulation of reward should be neither too small nor too large. By ensuring an effective neural dialogue between the reward circuit and the memory circuit, this delicate balance allows the proper encoding of memories in our brain. In the brain, memory is primarily managed by the hippocampus, a region of the brain responsible for encoding and storing memories. When a reward is involved, however, another region is activated, the ventral tegmental area, which is involved in the reward system and responsible for the release of dopamine related to the satisfaction of obtaining a reward. It is the dialogue between these two brain areas that helps maintain motivation, improve learning, and consolidate memories, even over time. This experiment shows the importance of motivation in memory and learning, but also the subtle, and probably individual-specific, balance that should be instituted. These lessons are particularly useful in the school environment, with the idea of creating learning contexts that would foster this motivation according to the needs of children.

Acceptance - Expectation - Repression - Power - Motivation - Morals

Young children would rather explore than get rewards. Study finds their exploration is not random. Researchers found that when adults and 4- to 5-year-old children played a game where certain choices earned them rewards, both adults and children quickly learned what choices would give them the biggest returns. But while adults then used that knowledge to maximize their prizes, children continued exploring the other options.


Winning - Losing


Winning is succeeding with great difficulty and acquiring something through effort. To attain success or to reach a desired goal. Being the winner or being victorious in a contest or competition. To score more points, to be faster, to be more accurate, to be luckier, to be a good person.

Won is to acquire something through effort. Be the winner in a contest or competition. Attain success or reach a desired goal. Obtain advantages, such as points. Victory or victorious. Not subject to defeat.

Pass is to be superior or better than some standard. Accept or judge as acceptable. Go successfully through a test or a selection process. Success in satisfying a test or requirement. Allow to go without comment or censure. Grant authorization or clearance for. Any authorization to go somewhere. A document indicating permission to do something without restrictions.

Triumph is a successful ending of a struggle or contest. Prove to be superior in some way. To express great joy. Dwell on with satisfaction.

Victory is a successful ending of a struggle or contest. Victory denotes success achieved in personal combat. Tactical victory may refer to a victory that results in the completion of a tactical objective as part of an operation or a result where the losses of the "defeated" outweigh those of the "victor" despite the victorious force having failed to meet its original objectives. Victoria is the Latin word for 'victory' and is used as the feminine form corresponding to the name Victor. In Roman mythology, Victoria was the name of the goddess of victory, corresponding to the Greek goddess Nike.

Lose is to not reach a desired goal. Losing is failing to keep something or maintain something. Cease to have something, either physically or in an abstract sense.

Loss is the disadvantage that results from losing something. The gradual decline in amount or activity. The act of losing something. The amount by which the cost of a business exceeds its revenue. The experience of losing a loved one.

Defeat is an unsuccessful ending to a struggle or contest. The feeling that accompanies an experience of being disappointingly unsuccessful in attaining your goals.

Lost is something no longer in your possession or control; unable to be found or recovered. Having lost your bearings; confused as to time, place or personal identity. Not gained or won.

Game is a contest with rules to determine a winner. An amusement or pastime with a feeling of delight at being entertained or pleasantly occupied.

Opponent is a contestant that you are matched against. Someone who offers you a challenge so that you can compare your abilities with other people who have the same skill level as you.

Contestant is a person who participates in competitions.

Matched is to be equal to in quality or ability. To make equal, uniform, corresponding, or matching. To be compatible, similar or consistent; coincide in their characteristics. Bring two objects, ideas, or people together. Harmonize.

Win-Win Game is game theory which is designed in a way that all participants can profit from the game in one way or the other. In conflict resolution, a win–win strategy is a collaborative strategy and conflict resolution process that aims to accommodate all participants. In economics, it is a voluntary transaction where both parties gain wealth, as in the double thank-you of capitalism. Win-Win Situation or outcome is where everyone comes away happy.

Game Theory is the study of mathematical models of strategic interaction among rational decision-makers. It addressed zero-sum games, in which each participant's gains or losses are exactly balanced by those of the other participants.

Zero-Sum Game is a mathematical representation of a situation in which each participant's gain or loss of utility is exactly balanced by the losses or gains of the utility of the other participants. Diplomacy.

if the only way for you to win is for someone else to lose, then what are you winning? You should not value the prize more than the experience. If the joy of winning is more important than the experience itself, then you didn't really win anything, and you really didn't experience anything meaningful either. The same thing goes for losing. If losing diminishes your experience or takes away from what you have learned fro your experience, then you lost a lot more than a game. Be careful what you wish for.

Loss Aversion refers to people who hate to lose more than just winning. People will work harder to save a dollar than they will to earn a dollar. Sometimes it feels better to not lose $5 than it is to find $5. But people with lots of money don't seem to care as much. Some people have a tendency to prefer avoiding losses to acquiring equivalent gains. Winning is good just as long as you don't lose. Winning is better than losing because losing sucks. What distinguishes loss aversion from risk aversion is that the utility of a monetary payoff depends on what was previously experienced or was expected to happen. Some studies have suggested that losses are twice as powerful, psychologically, as gains. Loss aversion implies that one who loses $100 will lose more satisfaction than another person will gain satisfaction from a $100 windfall. Playing it safe can also be a risk.

Inequity Aversion is the preference for fairness and resistance to incidental inequalities. Humans are sensitive to inequities in favor of as well as those against them, and that some people attempt overcompensation when they feel "guilty" or unhappy to have received an undeserved reward, the "willingness to sacrifice potential gain to block another individual from receiving a superior reward". Inequity aversion is broadly consistent with observations of behavior in three standard economics experiments: Dictator game – The subject chooses how a reward should be split between himself and another subject. If the dictator acted self-interestedly, the split would consist of 0 for the partner and the full amount for the dictator. While the most common choice is indeed to keep everything, many dictators choose to give, with the second most common choice being the 50:50 split. Ultimatum game – The dictator game is played, but the recipient is allowed to veto the entire deal, so that both subjects receive nothing. The partner typically vetoes the deal when low offers are made. People consistently prefer getting nothing to receiving a small share of the pie. Rejecting the offer is in effect paying to punish the dictator (called the proposer). Trust game – The same result as found in the dictator game shows up when the dictator's initial endowment is provided by his partner, even though this requires the first player to trust that something will be returned (reciprocity). This experiment often yields a 50:50 split of the endowment, and has been used as evidence of the inequity aversion model.

Present Bias is the tendency to rather settle for a smaller present reward than to wait for a larger future reward, in a trade-off situation. It describes the trend of overvaluing immediate rewards, while putting less worth in long-term consequences. The present bias can be used as a measure for self-control, which is a trait related to the prediction of secure life outcomes. Counting the things that Matter.


Sore Losers


Sore Loser is a person who is easily angered by losing a game or contest and complains or blames other people for their loss or some other misfortune or bad luck. Sometimes quitting because they are behind, or yelling because they didn't win.

Why do you feel bad when someone finds something first before you do, or does something first before you do? Why do you sometimes feel angry and want to attack the other person as if they cheated you? Why do you want to downplay another persons achievements just so that you can feel good about yourself? Why do you lie sometimes and say that you were first? Is it just so that you don't look like a loser? Or is it just because you're ignorant about a lot of things? Competition is supposed to be fun, and working together is supposed to be beneficial for everyone. So why does this have to be all about you? You're not the only person alive. Winning isn't everything.

Temper Tantrums are unpleasant and disruptive behaviors or emotional outbursts. They often occur in response to unmet needs or desires. Tantrums are more likely to occur in younger children or others who cannot express their needs or control their emotions when they are frustrated. Tantrum is an emotional outburst, usually associated with those in emotional distress, that is typically characterized by stubbornness, crying, screaming, violence, defiance, angry ranting, a resistance to attempts at pacification, and, in some cases, hitting, and other physically violent behavior.

Acting Out are actions performed that are destructive to the self or disturbing to others, usually in response to a difficult situation, where the person tries to ignore a problem by running away form it or by making the problem worse by doing something that does more harm than good.

Unsportsmanlike Conduct is verbal abuse or taunting of an opponent, an excessive celebration following a scoring play, or feigning injury.

Disturbing the Peace - Finding Pleasure in other Peoples Suffering - Ego

Cheating is various actions designed to break the rules in order to obtain unfair advantages over other people who are following the rules, and get away with committing a crime. No one wants to play with the kid who cheat.

Sportsmanship is showing fair and generous behavior or treatment of others, especially in a sports contest. It's expressing  proper consideration for fairness, ethics, respect, and a sense of fellowship with one's competitors. Always congratulate the winners, and always show appreciation and respect towards the losing team, because without someone losing, you can't be the winners. So understand the objective of the game, which is measuring your abilities against one another in a fun way. Don't just focus on winning, focus on your effort as well. Remember that winning is just one detail. You should always ask yourself after each game, "what are the most valuable things I learned from this competition and experience?" You should always walk away with something, even if it's just your pride.

Fair Play principles of the Fair Play programme can be summarised as follows: Play fair (no diving), Play to win but accept defeat with dignity, Observe the laws of the game, Respect opponents, teammates, referees, officials and spectators, Promote the interests of football, Honour those who defend football's good reputation, Reject corruption, drugs, racism, sexism, violence, gambling and other dangers to our sport, Help others to resist corrupting pressures, Denounce those who attempt to discredit the sport, Use football to make a better world.

International Fair Play Committee is a not for profit international non-governmental organization which serves to foster sportsmanship in international competition. It presents awards annually at the World Fair Play Awards to recognize acts of fair play carried out by sportspeople or teams. The awards ceremony is held in France and has been broadcast on television in Europe. Since 1965, three types of trophy have been given at the World Fair Play Awards in recognition of different achievements. Pierre de Coubertin World Fair Play Trophy – awarded for gestures of fair play in which an athlete impedes their own performance to aid a fellow competitor. Jean Borotra World Fair Play Trophy – awarded to recognise athletes who have displayed fair play throughout their careers. Willi Daume World Fair Play Trophy – awarded to a person or organisation that has promoted the spirit of fair play. Further to these annual trophies, the CIFP gives out diplomas and letters of congratulations to other sportspeople and organizations who have shown exceptional good sportsmanship.


What did you Really Lose? Your Mind or a Game?


Winning could give you a false sense of security. And losing could give you a false sense of failure. Life will test you in many ways and mistakes will happen. So did you pass the test?

Teaching children about losing is hard, especially knowing that many adults can't handle losing. You can't win all the time, but try explaining that to the adults who can't handle losing. Children need Attention, but children also need help understanding themselves and the world around them.

Without losers there would be no winners. Competition is about measuring our abilities against other people with the same skill level and who have the same desire to play their best. Winning is fun, but you can't win unless someone loses. And you can't lose unless someone wins.

Losing your Mind is way worst than losing a game or an opportunity. It's a Game. But its more than just a game. You can learn some things and you can also test yourself, and you can also get some good exercise. And don't forget, someone won, so all is not lost. You did your part. Now move on. Why Fans Celebrations sometimes turn violent?

Don't let Losing Beat you Twice. Don't let a lose take away from your ability to live. Life is filled with loses and gains. It is the cycle of life. You Win Some and You Lose Some. You are not measured by the moments where things did not turn out the way you hoped for, you are measured by all the moments you do after that. It's what you do next that will be the most important thing that you do. Being able to stand tall and smile after a defeat is more valuable than winning itself. This is why it's important to always have goals, this way you will always have something to reach for. Don't Fret, because it will just waste time and distract you from your potential and also discourage you from making more progress in your life. You Live, You Learn, You Love and You Progress. Time to raise the sails, your journey is far from over.


Spoiled Brat - Coddling - Protective Instinct


Spoiled Child is someone who exhibits behavioral problems as a result from being pampered or from receiving too much unearned attention that was irrelevant or misplaced. Behavioral problems such as narcissism or egocentrism are common with people who are spoiled or privileged. Giving too much praise to someone, or giving someone everything that they want, will just make them expect more and more from people. A child will learn if they cry hard enough or scream loud enough, they will get what they want, but not necessarily what they need. If a child is overindulged by their parents,they will become use to it and will always depend on others for their needs, instead of learning how to fulfill their own needs.

Spoilt is to be harmed by pampering or excessive attention. Enabling - Dependency

Affluenza is an inability to understand the consequences of one's actions because of financial privilege and the lack of a good education and good parenting.

White Privilege - Power Trip - Selfishness - Passive Consumption

Entitled is believing oneself to be inherently deserving of privileges or special treatment. Not the same as entitlement.

Indulgence is an inability to resist the gratification of whims and desires. A disposition to yield to the wishes of someone. Foolish or senseless behavior.

Indulging is to give free rein to. Enjoy to excess.

Coddling is to treat with excessive indulgence.

Just because you allow your kids to fail, or give them freedom, this does not mean they will automatically learn the right things from their experiences. Children still need guidance, and they still need valuable and important knowledge and information about the world and about human life. You don't want children to waste time like you did, or suffer from the same mistakes that you did. But you still need to teach them about those mistakes and about how you wasted time. And tell them how to avoid wasting time and how to avoid making costly mistakes. This means teaching them problem solving, decision making, communication, information literacy and learning, to name just a few. Attention in the form of knowledge.

Halo Effect is a cognitive bias in which an observer's overall impression of a person, company, brand, or product influences the observer's feelings and thoughts about that entity's character or properties.

Lawnmower parents or bulldozer parents are easily willing to drop everything to fulfill their child's wants and demands no matter how small. These parents often have good intentions and are motivated by not wanting their children to experience struggle.

Effects of maternal investment, temperament, and cognition on guide dog success. More intense mothering early in life was associated with guide dog program failure. But active mothering is still better than no mothering.

Attentiveness is the trait of being considerate and thoughtful of others. The trait of being observant and paying attention.

Favoritism is an inclination to favor some person or group. Unfair treatment of a person or group on the basis of prejudice. The practice of giving unfair preferential treatment to one person or group at the expense of another.

Favorite is something regarded as being special and something you like. Something preferred above other things and treated with partiality or bias.

Partiality is a predisposition to like something. An inclination to favor one group or view or opinion over alternatives. Bias.

Discriminatory is being biased or having a belief or attitude formed beforehand. Containing or implying a slight or showing prejudice. Capable of making fine distinctions. Manifesting partiality.

Prejudice is the influence (somebody's) opinion in advance. A partiality that prevents objective consideration of an issue or situation.

Emotional Freedom Technique Giving Recognition EFT Training (youtube)

Evaluate Personal Attributes

Objective is emphasizing or expressing things as perceived without distortion of personal feelings, without bias, without insertion of fictional matter or interpretation. Undistorted by emotion or personal bias. Not to influence in an unfair way.

Praise is to express approval of. An expression of approval and commendation. Offering words of homage as an act of worship. Acceptance as satisfactory. A message expressing a favorable opinion.

To Give Someone Props is an act of congratulations and an expression of joy in the success or good fortune of another. An expression of approval and commendation. The act of acknowledging that someone has an occasion for celebration. .Props is short for "propers" as in, "proper respect".

kudos is praise and honor received for an achievement. Compliments or congratulations.

Commendation Medal is a mid-level United States military decoration which is presented for sustained acts of heroism or meritorious service.


Attention Seeking - Fake Crying and Manipulation


Attention Seeking is to act in a way that is likely to elicit attention, usually to elicit validation from others. People are thought to engage in both positive and negative attention seeking behavior independent of the actual benefit or harm to health. Most behavior that is motivated by attention seeking is considered to be driven by self-consciousness and thus an externalization of personality rather than internal and self-motivated behavior. This type of influence on behavior can result in a potential loss of a person's sense of agency, personality disorder and the behavior associated with these conditions. Enjoying the attention of others is socially acceptable in some situations. In some instances, however, the need for attention can lead to new difficulties and may highlight underlying, preexisting ones. However, as a tactical method, it is often used in combat, theatre (upstaging) and it is fundamental to marketing. One strategy used to counter various types of attention-seeking behavior is planned ignoring. (When you ignore some misbehaviors, you can make it less likely your child will do the behavior again.) - Baby Crying - Intervention.

Attentiveness is paying particular notice to children or helpless people. The trait of being considerate and thoughtful of others. Attentive is giving close and thoughtful attention. Awareness.

Everyone needs attention, just like every child needs attention and praise and reinforcement. Everyone wants to be recognized, and everyone should be recognized. But not everyone understands how to give recognition or how to receive recognition. So before you give attention to someone or receive attention from someone, you should understand why. This type of information that is being communicated is complex and very important. It's like understanding the influences of having power. Understanding something is controlling that something, not understanding that something is letting that something control you.

Belonging (acceptance) - Like Buttons - Validation by Proxy

Everyone has different reasons for wanting attention. And everyone has their own way of getting attention or attracting attention. Some ways of getting attention are good and some ways of getting attention are bad. Everyone wants to belong, but not everyone understands the ways that can help make their interactions with other people more pleasant, and not everyone understands the ways that hurt their interactions with other people and make them unpleasant.

Exhibitionist is someone who deliberately behaves in such a way as to attract attention. Performer.

The Boy Who Cried Wolf is a story about a shepherd boy who repeatedly tricks nearby villagers into thinking a wolf is attacking his flock of sheep. But when a wolf actually does appear and the boy again calls for help, the villagers believe that it is another false alarm so they ignore his calls for help and the sheep are eaten by the wolf. Always giving false alarms or making false claims will eventually make people stop listening. Alarm Fatigue - Playing the Victim.

Obsequious is attempting to win favor from influential people by flattery. Attentive in an ingratiating or servile manner or submissive or fawning in attitude or behavior.

Attentive Adults increase Children's ability to Empathize. For human beings to function socially, they need to be able to perceive, understand, and talk about others' mental states, such as beliefs, desires and intentions. Things that Influence Children. (being a good example).

Unattended Children can be brainwashed by the TV or adversely affected by other abnormal behavior that comes from various sources. Attention is only good as the person giving the attention. And the person receiving the attention can only truly benefit from the attention when they accurately understand the attention. Being attended to is only as good as the attender. If the attender needs attending to, that means that no one is being attended to and no one can be sure what is happening, so the attention being received may not be genuine or factual.

Attend is to pay particular notice or pay close attention to someone. To be present and take charge of a circumstance. To accompany or follow as a result.

Attender is someone who listens attentively. Someone who waits on or attends to the needs of another. A person who is present and participates in a meeting.


Punishment - Discipline


Stand in the CornerPunishment is a painful and unpleasant abuse that is inflicted on a person for not following the rules or because they did something bad or wrong, or made a horrible mistake. Punishment is a type of revenge and a painful consequence of an action or a condition that the penalty inflicted. Punishment is rough treatment inflicted on someone or suffered by a person or thing. Punishment is the infliction or imposition of a penalty or fine as retribution for an offense. To compensate for a wrongdoing, especially for a crime.

Punishment is not the same as discipline. Punishment can have negative effects on young people. Getting angry with someone because of their ignorance does not help them understand their mistakes, it may make someone aware of a problem, but it does not necessarily solve the problem.

Unhealthy Criticism - Lack of Empathy - Effects on Children

Penalty is the disadvantage or painful consequences of an action or condition. Something that someone is made to do to compensate for a wrongdoing or crime, such as imprisonment or paying a fine. The act of punishing. A payment required for not fulfilling a contract. Penalty in games is a handicap or disadvantage that is imposed on a competitor or a team for an infraction of the rules of the game.

Fine is money extracted as a penalty. Issue a ticket or a fine to as a penalty. Fine (apperence).

Discipline is a system of rules of conduct or method of practice. The trait of being well behaved. A type of training to improve strength or self-control. To develop children's behavior by instruction and practice, especially to teach self-control. Discipline can also mean to punish in order to gain control or enforce obedience.

Patience - Tolerance

Dunce Cap was a form of punishment for schoolchildren who were forced to wear a pointy hat and stand in the corner or sit on a stool in the corner in front of the class. It was used to shame or embarrass unruly and misbehaving children. Class clowns were frequently admonished with the dunce cap. Dunce was a person who was considered incapable of learning or was a trouble maker with little self-control or discipline.

Overbearing is expecting unquestioning obedience. Having or showing arrogant superiority to and disdain of those one views as unworthy.

Tough Love is when someone treats another person harshly or sternly in the belief that they are teaching someone a lesson or some how teaching them self-control. Love.

Strict is being incapable of compromise or flexibility. Making severe and unremitting demands and rules that are stringently enforced without explaining the reasons why.

Child Abuse - Torture - Fear Mongering

Fear is not a good teaching method, what other methods can help make someone aware of danger without using scare tactics?

Physical Abuse and Punishment impact Children’s academic Performance. A Penn State researcher and her collaborator found that physical abuse was associated with decreases in children’s cognitive performance, while non-abusive forms of physical punishment were independently associated with reduced school engagement and increased peer isolation.

Evidence against physically punishing kids is clear, researchers say. A conclusive narrative review has found physical punishment of children is not effective in preventing child behavior problems or promoting positive outcomes and instead predicts increases in behavior problems and other poor outcomes over time. Caregivers in many parts of the world use physical punishment as a response to children's perceived misbehavior: 63% of children between the ages of 2 and 4 worldwide -- approximately 250 million children -- are regularly subjected to physical punishment by caregivers.

Punishing or rewarding are not effective ways to teach or learn, unless of course you are a dog. People who hit dogs and yell at dogs constantly will most likely do the same with children, which both are crimes of abuse.

Motivation through Punishment may not always work. Parents who scold their children to correct their behavior can have the opposite effect.

Animal Cruelty is causing of harm or suffering.

Prisons and Punishment has negative effects on Society.

Negative Effects of Power and Authority.

Spanking is a type of corporal punishment involving the act of striking the buttocks of another person to cause physical pain, and sometimes mental humiliation. Generally done with an open hand (more commonly referred to in some countries as slapping or smacking). More severe forms of spanking, such as switching, paddling, belting, caning, whipping, and birching, involve the use of an implement instead of a hand. Stop Hitting.

Caning is a form of corporal punishment consisting of a number of hits (known as "strokes" or "cuts") with a single cane usually made of rattan, generally applied to the offender's bare or clothed buttocks (see spanking) or hand(s) (on the palm). Caning on the knuckles or shoulders is much less common. Caning can also be applied to the soles of the feet (foot whipping or bastinado). The size and flexibility of the cane and the mode of application, as well as the number of the strokes, vary greatly — from a couple of light strokes with a small cane across the seat of a junior schoolboy's trousers, to 24 very hard, wounding cuts on the bare buttocks with a large, heavy, soaked rattan as a judicial punishment in some Southeast Asian countries.

Discipline Versus Punish to Parent In the Smart Zone (youtube)

Tiger Parenting is strict or demanding parenting. Tiger parents push and pressure their children to attaining high levels of academic achievement or success in high-status extra-curricular activities such as music, using authoritarian parenting methods

Tiger Mother is Child Abuse.

Spanking may affect the brain development of a child. A new study linking spanking and child brain development shows spanking could alter a child's neural responses to their environment, in similar ways to a child experiencing more severe violence. The group found that children who had been spanked had a greater neural response in multiple regions of the prefrontal cortex (PFC), including in regions that are part of the salience network. These areas of the brain respond to cues in the environment that tend to be consequential, such as a threat, and may affect decision-making and processing of situations. We know that children whose families use corporal punishment are more likely to develop anxiety, depression, behavior problems, and other mental health problems, but many people don't think about spanking as a form of violence.

Nature versus Nurture relates to the relative importance of an individual's innate qualities ("nature" in the sense of nativism or innatism) as compared to an individual's personal experiences ("nurture" in the sense of empiricism or behaviorism) in causing individual differences, especially in behavioral traits.

Being a Good Parent - Good Example - Reinforcement - Nurture

The more children are spanked, the more likely they are to defy their parents and to experience increased anti-social behavior, aggression, mental health problems and cognitive difficulties, according to a new meta-analysis of 50 years of research on spanking by experts at the University of Texas at Austin and the University of Michigan.

Journal of Family Psychology

It really means nothing if you can't say it nicely. I'm always disappointed in myself when I use Harsh Words and Angry Tones when Communicating. Because I know that it's really not an effective way to communicate. I'm trying to convey an idea, so why do I need emotion? Only babies should scream, I'm an adult now, I can find the words, and so I shall. If you can't communicate true meaning, you're wasting time and offering nothing of value? Information is supposed to be insightful, not confusing.

Corporal Punishment (prisons)

We restrict people when we are not educated enough to give them good directions. I'm not saying that discipline should never be used, I'm just saying if that's all you use is punishment, then you are condemning yourself to have to repeat the punishment, and also deal with all the side effects that come from abuse.

Adolescence and Parental Favoritism

Triple P: Positive Parenting Program is a parenting intervention with the main goals of increasing the knowledge, skills, and confidence of parents and reducing the prevalence of mental health, emotional, and behavioral problems in children and adolescents. The program was originally specifically tailored for at risk children and parents, but there are now different levels of Triple P designed to work together as a broad, universal, public health approach. This program is based on principles of community psychology.

Paying Attention without Spoiling (being a good example)

Shame (regret) - Confidence vs. Ego

Child Development - Behavior

Contingent Reinforcement Use (ehow) - Learning Methods

When you discipline a child about something that you perceive to be wrong or bad, don't forget to discipline yourself in learning the current facts about all the dangers in this world. If you are going to educate your child about the dangers of drug abuse, don't forget to mention all the drugs in all their forms, including foods, because poor nutrition kills more people and cost billions of dollars more in healthcare costs then all drugs combined.

A person who makes bad decisions and bad choices is not necessarily a Bad Person. Some people are just really Complicated and sometimes just a little Confused. Mostly because of their upbringing and how they were raised and how they were educated. There are many things that happens in a persons life that can cause a persons Perception to be altered and changed. Sometimes theses changes in a persons Perception are good and sometimes they are bad. What ever it is, some people will always need more patience and more understanding then usual.

We should not look at parents as savors or know it all's, look at your parents as children, children who were never given a chance to grow up, or given a chance to learn as much as they should have. You have to see yourself as the one who must be the adult, you're the one who must keep it together, you're the one that everyone is counting on, you are the one. But don't be overwhelmed by all the responsibilities, keep your life balanced, and keep learning, because valuable information and knowledge will ultimately become your most trusted advisor. Embrace the future.

You shouldn't punish people for their mistakes. We should only figure out why someone made the mistake so that we can help avoid the mistake from repeating itself again in the future. The only punishment from making a mistake is when you don't learn from the mistake, so the punishment from the mistake is usually self inflicted. But sometimes your mistake harms and injures other people. So when other people suffer from your repeated mistakes, then it is up to people to stop you you from making that mistake again, which is what justice system is supposed to do, but not always, so sometimes people have to help solve this problem accordingly, with the help of the justice system, or on their own.



Fame - Being Well Known but Known Well


Hollywood Star Fame is being well-known by a lot of people and having a favorable public reputation that is spoken about often; the quality of being famous.

Sometimes celebrity attention is a lot easier when it's just a fantasy. Be careful what you wish for. Popularity has its dangers and beauty can be a liability for some people. False Advertising - Charm.

If too much attention can make you dysfunctional, and not enough attention can make you dysfunctional, then what is the correct amount of adoration a person should have? Can you still be alienated or isolated even when you have lots of friends? Instead of sucking up you should be bucking up.

Ego-Big Headed - Over Confidence

What's the difference between being popular and being famous? Not all famous people are popular, and not all popular people are famous. Journalists.

Not all people who do great things become famous or popular. So many seemingly little things that average people do never get the recognition they deserve. People need to understand that value is not measured by fame or popularity. History.

Performance Artist is a performance presented to an audience within a fine art context, traditionally interdisciplinary. Performance may be either scripted or unscripted, random or carefully orchestrated; spontaneous or otherwise carefully planned with or without audience participation. The performance can be live or via media; the performer can be present or absent. It can be any situation that involves four basic elements: time, space, the performer's body, or presence in a medium, and a relationship between performer and audience. Performance art can happen anywhere, in any type of venue or setting and for any length of time. The actions of an individual or a group at a particular place and in a particular time constitute the work.

Celebrity is a widely known person who is famous and spoken about. Someone who receives public attention by the media. Celebrity status is often associated with wealth, fame and fortune, while fame often provides opportunities to make money. A-List Celebrity is one at the very top of their field. It may be a bankable movie star, a major recording artist, an international sports star, a social media personality, or a film director, mogul, or an international TV broadcaster. The A-list is part of a larger guide called The Hot List that has become an industry-standard guide in Hollywood.

Stresses of Being a Celebrity (PDF)

Trend is something popular at a given time that has a tendency to Influence opinions or actions.

The Influences of Power and how it controls. Conformity - Social Status - Too Much Praise

Fad is any form of collective behavior that develops within a culture, a generation or social group and which impulse is followed enthusiastically by a group of people for a finite period of time. Similar to habits or customs but less durable, fads often result from an activity or behavior being perceived as emotionally popular or exciting within a peer group or being deemed "cool" as often promoted by social networks. A fad is said to "catch on" when the number of people adopting it begins to increase to the point of being noteworthy. Fads often fade quickly when the perception of novelty is gone.


Popularity - Admired by Strangers


Popular is being liked, admired, or enjoyed by many people or by a particular person or group. Someone or something regarded with great favor, approval or affection by the general public.

Popularity is the quality of being widely admired or accepted or sought after.


Popularity can Distort Reality


Popularity is Not an Accurate Measurement of how valuable something is, or how truthful something is. Popularity is not a measurement of how important someone is, or how important some thing is. Be careful who you follow, especially knowing that you can be easily fooled when information is skewed. The TV can lie and mislead you, so you need to be careful. The assumption that "Likes", Retweets, or Views indicate value is a vulnerability of an undereducated mind. Don't use popularity as your only measurement to determine how true something is or how important something is. Don't conform and don't get addicted, and never stop learning.

False Consensus - Crowd Influence - Confirmation Bias - Naive - Conformity - Passive Learning

Three Men make a Tiger refers to an individual's tendency to accept absurd information as long as it is repeated by enough people.

Truth by Consensus is the process of taking statements to be true simply because people generally agree upon them.

When people hear other people say the same stupid things that they say or think, then those people will ignorantly believe that this confirms that their thinking is somehow magically correct, which it is not. But those people will never know how wrong they are because they will never seek the truth, because they ignorantly believe that they already know the truth.

Consensus Theory of Truth is the process of taking statements to be true simply because people generally agree upon them.

Argument from Authority is a common type of argument which can be fallacious, such as when an authority is cited on a topic outside their area of expertise or when the authority cited is not a true expert.

Social Proof is a psychological phenomenon where people assume the actions of others in an attempt to reflect correct behavior for a given situation. This effect is prominent in ambiguous social situations where people are unable to determine the appropriate mode of behavior, and is driven by the assumption that surrounding people possess more knowledge about the situation.

A book on NY Times best sellers list does not mean you should read that book, because everything is relative, and ratings can be subjective.

Psychology of the Like Button, the dopamine feedback loop. The like button can boost your ego or shatter your ego.

Like Button is a feature on websites where the user can express that they like, enjoy or support certain content, without explaining why. Some websites also include a dislike button, so the user can either vote in favor, against or neutrally. Other websites include more complex Web content voting systems, for example five stars or reaction buttons to show a wider range of emotion to the content. Like Button is a vote for something, and most people don't understand what they're voting for.

1 million unique views with 7.8 billion people in the world. What was the cost, what were the benefits? 1 billion views with multiple views by the same people. What was the cost, what were the benefits? Fans.

Our Social Networks Need an Upgrade. Looking for Attention shouldn't be Dangerous. And our need to feel like we belong shouldn't be dependent on technology or be dependent on fake praise.

Followers: Having thousands of followers on a social network is not the same thing as being a leader who cares about the people they represent. Friending and Following is the act of adding someone to a list of "friends" on a social networking service. The notion does not necessarily involve the concept of friendship. It is also distinct from the idea of a Fan, which is a person who is enthusiastically devoted to something or somebody.

Argumentum ad Populum is assuming something is true because many or most people believe it: "If many believe so, it is so."

Just because a video has millions of views, this does not make it valuable or important. Just because something was Retweeted, this also does not make it valuable or important. Social Network Dangers.

Ratioed means that a tweet has a high ratio of responses to re-tweets. Often, a ratio like this means that a tweet was controversial and had a lot of people jumping on the OP and each other. It's similar to on Reddit where you can tell that there's probably an argument in the comments of a post when it has more comments than up-votes.

Bandwagon Effect is having a tendency to prefer what’s popular. It’s easy to conform to popular ideas without checking the evidence, especially when we get our information from others. Bias.

Mere-Exposure Effect is a psychological phenomenon by which people tend to develop a preference for things merely because they are familiar with them. In social psychology, this effect is sometimes called the familiarity principle. The effect has been demonstrated with many kinds of things, including words, Chinese characters, paintings, pictures of faces, geometric figures, and sounds. In studies of interpersonal attraction, the more often a person is seen by someone, the more pleasing and likeable that person appears to be.

Filter Bubbles - Echo Chambers - Creeping Normality

Reinforcement is a stimulus that strengthens or weakens a particular behavior. An act performed to strengthen a behavior, even though that behavior has not yet been determined whether it's wrong or bad or right or good.

Convincing is causing one to believe the truth of something, sometimes without proof or facts.

False-Consensus Effect is when people tend to see their own behavioral choices and judgments as relatively common and appropriate to existing circumstances. In other words, it is perceivers’ tendency to assume that their personal qualities, characteristics, beliefs, and actions are relatively widespread through the general population in any given situations. A attributional type of cognitive bias whereby people tend to overestimate the extent to which their opinions, beliefs, preferences, values, and habits are normal and typical of those of others (i.e., that others also think the same way that they do). This cognitive bias tends to lead to the perception of a consensus that does not exist, a "false consensus".

Fundamental Attribution Error is the tendency for people to place an undue emphasis on internal characteristics of the agent (character or intention), rather than external factors, in explaining another person's behavior in a given situation. This contrasts with interpreting one's own behavior, where situational factors are more easily recognized and can be taken into account.

Attention Seeking is behaving in a way which is in pursuit of attention from others. The attention they receive gives them a good feeling and boosts their self-esteem and self-worth. Where such behavior is excessive and inappropriate, the term is often used pejoratively in regard to children's behavior in front of peers or to negative domestic interactions.

Spotlight Effect happens when we think other people are noticing us much more than they actually are. We feel that others evaluate our appearance and behavior intensely, when often it’s not true at all. - Social Influences.

Consensus Reality is that which is generally agreed to be reality, based on a consensus view. Group Decisions.

Validity (confirming accuracy) - Validation - Groupthink (social influences) - Stereotypes

Just because you have a fan base or have people interested in what you can provide for them, this should not be a reason for you to do something. Just like money should not be a reason to do something. What you do should be defined by purpose and need. And the value you provide should be measurable with a clear understanding of the cause and effects of your actions. When people egg you on, it's not because you're popular, it's mostly because they would rather transfer the risk and the work on to you in the form of entertainment, this way your fans can live through you vicariously. But entertainers should not excuse people from having their own life. We need to separate these worlds so that the line that separates them never becomes blurred or undefined. Entertainment is great, and it's a great way to express ourselves, but we can't allow ourselves to slip into a quasi reality, because when we do, Reality will slowly deteriorate to a point where neither reality or Fantasy could survive, you would become lost in a dream and forever in a coma. If you want real entertainment, reality and knowledge has more entertainment then any other art form, it's limitless, it's mind-blowing, and it's wonderful. Try it Mikey, you'll like it (youtube).


Famous - Widely Known


Famous is something or someone widely known and esteemed. 

Adoration is respect, reverence, strong admiration or devotion in a certain person, place, or thing. The term comes from the Latin adōrātiō, meaning "to give homage or worship to someone or something".

Being famous is not a measurement of value. Who made someone famous? And why are they popular

Charismatic is possessing an extraordinary ability to attract attention. Having compelling charm which inspires devotion in others.

Charisma is compelling attractiveness or charm that can inspire devotion in others.

Charm
is having attractiveness that interests, pleases or stimulates. Superficial Charm - Influencers.

Cult of Personality is a person who's persona is sold to the public using mass media techniques in order to create an idealized, heroic and worshipful image of a leader. A country's regime may also use other influencing techniques such as propaganda, exploitation of patriotism and the arts, as well as, government-organized demonstrations and rallies, that are well orchestrated in order to create a big lie spectacle that a lot of people will fall for. A cult of personality is fraudulently elevated in the publics eyes as a model of excellence or perfection, often through unquestioning flattery and praise. Usually one-party states or dominant-party states use modern social engineering techniques to sell their puppet to the public so they can increase their control over a country and also use their personal demagogue to commit crimes and undermine the democracy of a country.

Hero Worshiping is when you have excessive admiration of someone and a belief that they are special or perfect.

Celebrity Worship Syndrome is an obsessive addictive disorder in which a person becomes overly involved with the details of a celebrity's personal and professional life. Psychologists have indicated that though many people obsess over film, television, sport and pop stars, the only common factor between them is that they are all figures in the public eye. This is commonly found on sites such as Twitter and Instagram. Influencers.

Idol is someone who is adored blindly and excessively. Worship or Idolize is to admire, revere, or obsessively love someone greatly or excessively.

Superstar is someone who has great popular appeal and is widely known, prominent, or successful in their field. Celebrities referred to as "superstars" may include individuals who work as actors, musicians, athletes, and other media-based professions

Heartthrob is a male celebrity who is known for his good looks. An object of infatuation.

Femme Fatale an attractive and seductive woman, especially one who is likely to cause distress or disaster to a man who becomes involved with her.

Diva is a celebrated female singer; a woman of outstanding talent in the world of opera, and by extension in theatre, cinema and popular music.

Apotheosis is the elevation of a person as to the status of a god. Model of excellence or perfection of a kind; one having no equal.

Idealized is someone consider as ideal. Exalted to an ideal perfection or excellence.

Exalted is to praise, glorify, or honor someone. Raise in rank, character, or status of someone who is elevated in nature or style. Someone of high moral or intellectual value.


Groupie is an enthusiastic young fan especially a young woman, who regularly follows a pop music group or other celebrity in the hope of meeting or getting to know them. Public Displays.

Fan is an enthusiastic devotee of sports. An ardent follower and admirer.

Fandom is a subculture composed of fans characterized by a feeling of empathy and camaraderie with others who share a common interest. Fans typically are interested in even minor details of the objects of their fandom and spend a significant portion of their time and energy involved with their interest, often as a part of a social network with particular practices (a fandom); this is what differentiates "fannish" (fandom-affiliated) fans from those with only a casual interest. A fandom can grow around any area of human interest or activity. The subject of fan interest can be narrowly defined, focused on something like an individual celebrity, or more widely defined, encompassing entire hobbies, genres or fashions. While it is now used to apply to groups of people fascinated with any subject.

Halo Effect occurs when we let a single personality trait spill over so that it influences our overall perception of a person. In other words, traits in one area affect our general view. Don't judge a book by its cover.

Para-Social Relationships are one-sided relationships, where one person extends emotional energy, interest and time, and the other party, the persona, is completely unaware of the other's existence. Parasocial relationships are most common with celebrities, media personas, television stars or organizations such as sports team. One-Sided Relationships.

Parasocial Interaction refers to a kind of psychological relationship experienced by an audience in their mediated encounters with performers in the mass media, particularly on television. Viewers or listeners come to consider media personalities as friends, despite having limited interactions with them. PSI is described as an illusionary experience, such that media audiences interact with personas (e.g., talk show host, celebrities, fictional characters, social media influencers) as if they are engaged in a reciprocal relationship with them.

Contrarian is a person who opposes or rejects popular opinion, going against current practice. Critical Thinking.

Contrary is very opposed in nature or character or purpose. Of words or propositions so related that both cannot be true but both may be false. Contradiction - Lie.

au contraire is a French phrase that's used when someone is incorrect, wrong or says something that is the opposite of the truth. Meaning to the contrary.

Urban Legend is a form of modern folklore consisting of fictional stories, often with macabre elements deeply rooted in local popular culture.

Fame - Irene Cara (youtube)

Media Literacy - What is Success?

Body Image - Self-Smart - Over Confidence can be Dangerous

Everyone will experience fame and power to a certain degree and level sometime during their life. We need to teach about the effects that power and fame has on the mind, and how it can control our behavior and also warp our view of ourselves and our view of the world. We also need to teach the effects of rejection and paranoia.

"You don't have to experience things the exact same way as others do in order to learn from them or benefit from them. You just need to understand the lessons and the purposes of these lessons. You don't need to be a professional basketball player in order to understand the game or enjoy the game. You just need to be aware of the skills and the knowledge that is gained from these types of interactions. The skill level in which you achieve in a particular sport, or in a particular art, is not as important as your level of understanding. What's the point at being great at something if you never become a great person."

"Don't worry about people knowing you, just make yourself worth knowing."

"Everyone wants to be Loved, admired and appreciated, it's an amazing and beautiful feeling that is soothing to the soul. It's a confirmation that says that you are good enough to be loved, that you are worthy, and that you are special. But there is a risk because you could accidentally create a False Sense of Security. And when it comes to Human Emotions, and their vulnerabilities, we have to be very careful that we don't allow ourselves to be consumed or manipulated to a point where we lose total awareness of ourselves. Some people even have a tendency to stop maturing and become content with what they know. And if you stop learning and growing, you will sacrifice your potential and end up finding yourself lost. But don't worry, it's happens to a lot of people, learn from it and move on, the ride is far from over."


Famous for the Wrong Reasons


What if you couldn't stop fame from happening? What if you can't stay anonymous? You can try to stay unknown, but some ignorant people will pretend to know you, which is worse than no one knowing you at all. Because some people just make up sh*t and spread rumors, and there are plenty of ignorant people who are just ignorant enough to believe the sh*t they here. This is when history becomes totally distorted. So sometimes you have no choice but to let yourself be known. This way you can have a better chance to control what the truth is and hopefully communicate to people who you really are. This way when as*holes talk sh*t about you, you can reply to these ignorant morons who make assumptions and just say, where's the evidence d*ck face? What's your motive and what's your goal? And do you even have a f*cking clue about what you're saying? Everyone needs to fully understand, I will listen to anyone who has information that is useful and information that will also help us progress and improve our lives and our situation. But if all you have is just stupid sh*t filled with crazy assumptions, or just plain hatred, then let it go. We have a lot of work to do. You want to talk sh*t about someone, then look in the f*cking mirror a*shole. I'm not perfect, but I want to be perfect, and I also want to be intelligent, so if you got any better plans then that, then speak up. But this time, know what you're saying, and don't waste a good chance to speak just to speak down on someone, because that's going in the wrong f*cking direction. If you want to truly know someone, then you have to listen to that person speak and you have to ask them questions, and stop pretending that you know the difference between your a*s and your face.

Infamous is someone widely known, usually unfavorably.

Infamously is in an infamous manner or degree; scandalously; disgracefully; shamefully.

Infamy is a a state of extreme dishonor, Evil fame or public reputation.

"I'm not sure what's worse, people hating me for all the wrong reasons, or being loved for all the wrong reasons?"

When you become popular, it becomes hard to protect your privacy. Even if you don't have anything that people could Blackmail you for or Bribe you for, you can still be attacked in many different ways. So you need to be extremely careful and not let your guard down. But it doesn't always stop ignorant people from spreading rumors, or does it stop the criminals from exploiting weaknesses in your defenses.

"Great minds had rather deserve contemporaneous applause, without obtaining it, than obtain, without deserving it; if it follow them, it is well, but they will not deviate to follow it. With inferior minds the reverse is observable." Charles  Caleb Colton (wiki).


I Don't Need to be Famous, I just need to be right and good.


I don't need fame, I don't need to be popular and I don't need a lot of money. I just want an opportunity to make a positive difference in peoples lives and to make a positive difference to the planet, a planet we all share. I feel more comfortable in a supporting role than the lead role, though I may eventually have to take the leading role. But till then, I would rather be just like everyone else, ambiguously blending in with all the people around me without unneeded attention or unwarranted distractions. I want to live a respectable life, and to fall in love. Of course there is more to life, but we shouldn't let the details of our responsibilities diminish our lives or cloud us from the miracle of life itself. We have a job to do, but we also have a life to live. For now, I'm anonymously saving the world, just like millions of people have done in the past, and like the millions who are presently saving the world today. I seek no glory, because the reward is the preservation of life itself. Ending the burdens that millions of people suffer from that are the result of ignorant people, is my job. An ignorant mind is its own worst enemy. And the ignorant minds of the so called educated and wealthy, are the most damaging enemy of innocent people all around the world. Ignorance is not anyone's fault, but it is our fault if we don't educate people more than we do now.

I am nice person who is well liked, and fun to be with. I get along with almost everyone, and I'm friendly and respectable, which is why I have had many friendships, with some being lasting friendships. But being good and popular can also make you a target for criticism. And being more out going and communicative than most people has its own risks. But I except those risks on the grounds that my intentions are good, and if they are not, I am willing to listen and adapt my behavior to be more accurate and be more honest, for that is my goal and my true nature. I make mistakes just like everyone else does. Sometimes people can be envious, jealous or they sometimes just misunderstand you and are in disagreement with you in some way. And sometimes people will talk shit behind your back instead of talking to you directly. I know that I have done some stupid insensitive things that were wrong or bad, and always felt regret for hurting people. So I'm not here to judge or to be judged, I'm here to learn. So let knowledge be thy judge.

I am extremely lucky to have avoided most of the negative influences that come from having lots of money, power, or privileges, or any desired feature that would have disrupted my life or altered my life in a negative way. I know this now because I have more knowledge and information, and I also realized how ignorant I was, and how little I knew about myself and the world around me. I can look back on my life and thank God for not giving me the things that I desired, like wealth, fame or popularity, because, it would have killed me. I would have made so many disastrous mistakes that I would not be here today to talk about it. Is it that I'm just lucky, or am I part of someone's genius plan, or does it even matter? For now, I have to focus on reality. If I try to figure out life on a grander scale or scheme, I might miss out on life itself. So I will just have to wait for that final surprise, and that's if there is one, or, if there's anyone their to witness it? I yield the remainder of my time to my constituents.

Constituent is being a part of something or part of a physical structure. Something determined in relation to something that includes it. An artifact that is one of the individual parts of which a composite entity is made up; especially a part that can be separated from or attached to a system. An abstract part of something. A member of a constituency; a citizen who is represented in a government by officials for whom he or she votes.

"People might block our attempts to live out our purpose. They might initially block our actions. But, they cannot block our intentions or our dispositions. Our goal is to help people. We aren't to try to control them or change them. When they obstruct our proper tasks, they become irrelevant to us. When we have proper intentions, or when we're disposed to act virtuously, our mind will accommodate and adapt to the hindrance. The obstacle will activate creativity in devising a new way to help people—a new way to live as nature requires and achieve our goal rightly oriented toward the logos. The impediment to action advances action. What stands in the way becomes the way. Our business is with things that matter. Do your duty and despise cowardice." - Marcus Aurelius (Meditations 5.20).

"I understand the admiration, for I too have admiration for others. Just don't let your admiration blind you from knowing how incredible you are. I admire you, and you admire me, we admire each other, we admire the world, so admiration is OK, just don't forget we are all in this together.


Movies about the Dangers of Fame


Albert Einstein and Charlie Chaplin When Albert Einstein met Charlie Chaplin in 1931, Einstein said, “What I admire most about your art is its universality. You do not say a word, and yet the world understands you." “It's true.” Replied Chaplin, "But your fame is even greater. The world admires you, when no one understands you."

I love watching documentaries about bands who became really famous. I love how it shows that most people just start out with simple and normal lives. And then one day their abilities come in line with an opportunity of a life time, and just by chance their lives are changed forever. Of course these documentaries never show a complete story, these are only a few particular moments in a persons life, so we have no idea who they are, or who they could have been if their lives would have been different. I myself think it's better to dream about these experiences then to have them come true. Because I would hate to live a dream that I was unable to wake up from, that would suck. But of course you don't have to be famous to be at that crossroad like that, because everyone has to make decisions. And what ever those decisions were, or how bad some of those decisions were, you have to find a way to live through those decisions no matter what, because you are here for a reason, so you have to find that reason, because it may not find you. If you're not looking for it, you may never find it. But be careful where you look, if you're not looking in the right places at the right time, you may find more trouble then success. Remember, life is a double edge sword, but it's your sword, so being dull on one side might be a little safer. But this is your life, not mine.

AA to Zeplin the story of Led Zeplin 2004 - This insightful documentary chronicles the band's history from their 1968 formation to their reign as 1970s hard-rock giants through rare photographs, archival footage, and interviews with both the band members and those who worked with them. Aired: 06/08/2004 |  55 min. - Led Zeplin (wiki).

Kurt and Courtney (1998) - Beginning as an observation of the music of Kurt Cobain and his Seattle/Portland contemporaries, Kurt and Courtney took a different turn when Courtney Love intervened. Directed by Nick Broomfield. Aired: 02/28/1998 | 1 hr. 35 min. - Music Knowledge.


Stay True to Yourself


In those unique moments when you have to make a decision, don't abandon everything that you have learned, and don't throw away everything that is close to you, like family and friends. If you are about to do something that you would not normally do, or if something goes against your good judgment or contradicts your beliefs, then this is the moment when you need to stay true to yourself. But in those moments when you go against everything that you believe in, and everything that you know, you better have a good reason, because those are the kind of mistakes that are the most painful and the most dangerous to make.


The Middle - Jimmy Eat World (youtube)
Hey, don't write yourself off yet.
It's only in your head, you feel left out
Or looked down on.
Just try your best, try everything you can.
Don't you worry what they tell themselves
When you're away.
It just takes some time,
Little girl you're in the middle of the ride,
Everything, everything will be just fine.
Everything, everything will be alright. (alright)
Hey, you know they're all the same.
You know you're doin' better on your own,
So don't buy in.
Live right now, just be yourself.
It doesn't matter if it's good enough,
For someone else.
It just takes some time,
Little girl you're in the middle of the ride,
Everything, everything will be just fine.
Everything, everything will be alright. (alright)
Woooohhh!
Hey, don't write yourself off yet.
It's only in your head, you feel left out
Or looked down on.
Just do your best, (do your best)
Do everything you can (do everything you can)
Don't worry what their bitter hearts
Are gonna say
It just takes some time,
Little girl you're in the middle of the ride,
Everything, everything will be just fine.
Everything, everything will be alright. (alright)
It just takes some time,
Little girl you're in the middle of the ride,
Everything, everything will be just fine.
Everything, everything will be alright.


Watching The Wheels - John Lennon - 1980
People say I'm crazy, Doing what I'm doing
Well, they give me all kinds of warnings
To save me from ruin.
When I say that I'm okay, well they look at me kinda strange
"Surely, you're not happy now, you no longer play the game"
People say I'm lazy, Dreaming my life away
Well they give me all kinds of advice
Designed to enlighten me
When I tell them that I'm doing fine watching shadows on the wall
"Don't you miss the big time boy, you're no longer on the ball?"
I'm just sitting here watching the wheels go round and round
I really love to watch them roll
No longer riding on the merry-go-round
I just had to let it go
Ah, people ask me questions
Lost in confusion
Well, I tell them there's no problem
Only solutions
Well, they shake their heads and they look at me, as if I've lost my mind
I tell them there's no hurry, I'm just sitting here doing time
I'm just sitting here watching the wheels go round and round
I really love to watch them roll
No longer riding on the merry-go-round
I just had to let it go, I just had to let it go, I just had to let it go.



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