Introvert - Extravert


Extraverted is an outgoing person who's not shy in social situations and is not afraid to express themselves publicly. An extravert could be empathetic but they can also be egotistical. An extravert is usually concerned with the social and physical environment, and also concerned with practical realities more than with inner thoughts and feelings.

Gregarious
is seeking and enjoying the company of others instinctively or temperamentally. The relative tendency or disposition to be sociable or associate with one's fellows. Someone who does not like to be alone. Animals that are gregarious tend to form a group with others of the same species. Plants that are gregarious grow in groups that are close together.

Introverted is a person who tends to shrink from social contacts and is more preoccupied with their own thoughts. An introvert can be a person who prefers to work alone, rather than deal with the interference or the interruptions from other people. Being introverted does not mean that someone is lonely, they might just be focused more on listening, thinking and learning.

Ambiverted is having both extrovert and introvert personality traits. They can be people smart, self smart and life smart.

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Loner There's a difference between being by yourself and being around other people. Other people can influence how you feel and influence how you think. Thinking is much more clearer when you're alone then it is when you're trying to think when you're around other people. Controlling your feelings is sometimes easier when you're alone, and not always easy when you're around other people. This is not bad if you are aware of the differences between being alone and being around other people. But if you're not aware of the changes and influences from being in different environments, then you will limit your abilities to control and manage particular situations. Having the ability to be alone is a skill. When you constantly feel lonely and feel that you can't be alone, or when you feel that you need to be in a relationship because you're afraid what people might think of you, then you will always feel lonely and always feel insecure. Being able to Self Manage and being Intelligent is the key, whether you're alone or with other people. People become lonely for different reasons. Emotionally-resilient people who are more able to adapt in stressful situations, are less at risk of loneliness at any age, and outgoing middle-aged people are less likely to feel lonely.

You should know the reasons why you do certain things, and you should know the reasons why you don't do certain things. What is the real reason why you did something? Did you feel like doing it? Or was it just the best decision that you could make at that particular time? The main goal is to learn and to be aware of your actions. Not taking an action is still an action. Not doing something is still doing something. So what are you doing?

Solo Research - Flying Solo - DIY - Working on Your Own. Depending on the type of work that you're doing, you're sometimes better off working on your own because you can concentrate better without any distractions. Plus it also gives you more flexibility. Some working relationships can do more harm than good, especially when you don't have enough clear goals and directions. If you have to wear many hats in a particular venture, that means you will need to wear all the hats together at once and also wear them separately one at a time, which means lees time to do the things that you need to do. And if your work is important, then you need to focus on that type of work. Trying to do more might end up doing less and becoming less productive. But if you can work with the right people, than you might be more productive than just working on your own. But there is still no guarantee that things will happen the way they should. So you still need to be ready when changes come, and changes will always come. I guess that is the only guarantee in life, and that is "things will always change", which is good, but sometimes bad. Life was most likely designed to be like this, so that life would never become dull. So here we go, into the wild blue yonder. Remote Work (telecommuting).

Time to Think is Good, but if you don't expand your knowledge, then all you'll be doing is using the same words over and over again. You have to keep learning if you want to keep thinking, especially if you want to think about big ideas and create some amazing things. Knowledge is key. There is not one door in the entire universe that knowledge cannot open. Having your own room and private space as a kid can be beneficial in many ways. But having your own room in your home can also be lonely and isolating. Everyone needs to learn how to use Freedom effectively and efficiently. Everything needs instructions in order to insure things are used properly.

Being alone and socializing with others each contributes differently to personal growth. A combination of constructive alone and social experiences best contributes to the formation of an integrated self. Time alone is reflected in people's thoughts as an opportunity to think about past experiences and future plans, to relax from the stress of social interactions, and to engage in self-selected leisure activities. FOMO.

"It is far better to be alone, than to be in bad company." George Washington - Quotes

There's a big difference between someone having phobias about crowds or having a lack of confidence, then someone who is just showing careful forethought and avoiding excess. I'm concerned with the social and physical environment, so the question is, is what I'm doing the most productive and effective actions that are Logical, practical and positive? There has to be a balance between critical thinking and entertainment. Not to say that all social engagements are about entertainment, because some social activities actually provide great experiences filled with good information and useful knowledge. Of course not without Risk, but either way. Social engagements seem to be better when you have some kind of a plan or purpose, other then just going for the adventure, which I have done 100's of times. Not to say that all those adventures were necessary, I was just doing things and not really thinking about things, which was not all that bad because at that time I had few good things to think about, thanks to that sucky public education. I mostly felt the need for social activities without even knowing why. If I did nothing I felt like I just wasn't doing enough, and the embarrassment of doing nothing was too great, especially if your friends found out. I felt uncomfortable on Friday nights if no one called or if I failed to make plans, but for some reason on other days it was ok, not too much pressure. Some people shy away from social activities because they feel uncomfortable in crowds. But going with a friend sometimes helps, well most of the time anyway. Insecure maybe, Intuition maybe, maybe just tired, or maybe just not interested in interacting with other people at that moment. Is it a phobia about crowds, antisocial behavior, low self-esteem or just the fact that I have not learned enough about myself and the world around me? And how badly has this shyness affected you? Maybe your shyness was a good thing? I guess that depends on you, can you learn from it? Of course you can. There's a big difference between solitude and independent learning. And the important thing here is to keep learning. If you stop learning, then you are stuck with the knowledge you have, which is not enough, so keep learning. 

The Fear of Missing Out - What did I really miss?

Susan Cain: The Power of Introverts (youtube) - Here's to the underdogs.

Pro-Social Behavior is a social behavior that benefits other people or society as a whole, such as helping, sharing, donating, co-operating, working on jobs that make a difference, educating yourself and educating others, and volunteering.

When you're thinking that no one gets you, just remember, it only means that you have never met someone who does get you. With so many people in the world, it's safe to say that there are other people who do get you, it's just that you have never met them. Someone out there in the world understands where you are coming from, and they may be experiencing the same problem that you are, which is finding someone who understands them. So you're not alone in the world because you can't prove that you're alone. You haven't met everyone on the planet, and maybe you haven't been asking the right questions. The internet connects more people in more ways than in any other time in human history. But the internet has flaws and vulnerabilities, and not everyone is connected to the internet, and not everyone is using the internet effectively enough in order to make real connections with other people, which could make isolation even more confusing. But we are learning how to use our tools more effectively and more efficiently, more and more each day. So it's just a matter of time when everyone alive will have a real friend, someone who knows them, someone who they can depend on, someone who they can trust. This will be when human nature will shine, and not just shine on earth, but shine through the entire universe.

Sociable introvert - Can being too social take years off your life?

Morality - Group Thinking - Hormones affect Social Behavior

So what types of social interactions are healthy? And how many social interactions does a person need?


Anti-Social - Social Interaction Avoidance


Social Inhibition is a conscious or subconscious avoidance of a situation or social interaction.

Psychopathy is characterized by persistent antisocial behavior, impaired empathy and remorse, and bold, disinhibited, egotistical traits. Psychopaths.

Asociality refers to the lack of motivation to engage in social interaction, or a preference for solitary activities. Asociality may be associated with avolition, but it can, moreover, be a manifestation of limited opportunities for social relations. Developmental psychologists use the synonyms nonsocial, unsocial, and social uninterest. Asociality is distinct from but not mutually exclusive to anti-social behaviour, in which the latter implies an active misanthropy or antagonism toward other people or the general social order. A degree of asociality is routinely observed in introverts, while extreme asociality is observed in people with a variety of clinical conditions. Asociality is not necessarily perceived as a totally negative trait by society, since asociality has been used as a way to express dissent from prevailing ideas. It is seen as a desirable trait in several mystical and monastic traditions, notably in Jainism, Catholicism, Eastern Orthodoxy, Buddhism and Sufism. Divided.

Asocial is avoiding association with others. Hostile to or disruptive of normal standards of social behavior.

Avolition as a symptom of various forms of psychopathology, is the decrease in the motivation to initiate and perform self-directed purposeful activities. Such activities that appear to be neglected usually include routine activities, including hobbies, going to work and/or school, and most notably, engaging in social activities. A person experiencing avolition may stay at home for long periods of time, rather than seeking out work or peer relations.

Anti-Social Behavior are actions that harm or lack consideration for the well-being of others.

Antisocial Personality is a pervasive pattern of disregard for, or violation of, the rights of others. An impoverished moral sense or conscience is often apparent, as well as a history of crime, legal problems, or impulsive and aggressive behavior. Hating People.

Anti-Social Behavior Order was a civil order made in the United Kingdom against a person who had been shown, on the balance of evidence, to have engaged in anti-social behavior. It was designed to address behavior like intimidation, drunkenness, and violence by individuals and families, using civil orders rather than criminal sanctions.

Sociopath is a person with an antisocial personality disorder.

Sociopathy refers to a pattern of antisocial behaviors and attitudes, including manipulation, deceit, aggression, and a lack of empathy for others.


Social Anxiety - Nervous in Social Situations


Social Anxiety can be defined as nervousness in social situations. Some disorders associated with the social anxiety spectrum include anxiety disorders, mood disorders, autism, eating disorders, and substance use disorders. Individuals higher in social anxiety avert their gazes, show fewer facial expressions, and show difficulty with initiating and maintaining conversation. Trait social anxiety, the stable tendency to experience this nervousness, can be distinguished from state anxiety, the momentary response to a particular social stimulus. Nearly 90% of individuals report feeling a form of social anxiety or shyness at some point in their lives. Half of the individuals with any social fears meet criteria for social anxiety disorder. The function of social anxiety is to increase arousal and attention to social interactions, inhibit unwanted social behavior, and motivate preparation for social situations such as performance situations. Lacking Confidence.

Nervousness is the anxious feeling you have when you have the jitters. An uneasy psychological state. A sensitive or highly strung temperament.

Uncomfortable is feeling unease or awkwardness. Causing or feeling slight pain or physical discomfort.

Awkwardness is unskillfulness resulting from a lack of training or experience. The quality of an embarrassing situation.

Social Anxiety Disorder is characterized by a significant amount of fear in one or more social situations causing considerable distress and impaired ability to function in at least some parts of daily life. These fears can be triggered by perceived or actual scrutiny from others.

Separation Anxiety Disorder is an anxiety disorder in which an individual experiences excessive anxiety regarding separation from home or from people to whom the individual has a strong emotional attachment (e.g., a parent, caregiver, significant other or siblings).

Emotions - Trauma - Anxiety - Worry - Regret (embarrassment)

Agoraphobia is characterized by symptoms of anxiety in situations where the person perceives the environment to be unsafe with no easy way to get away. These situations can include open spaces, public transit, shopping malls, or simply being outside the home. Being in these situations may result in a panic attack. The symptoms occur nearly every time the situation is encountered and lasts for more than six months. Those affected will go to great lengths to avoid these situations. In severe cases people may become unable to leave their homes.

Xenophobia is the fear and distrust of that which is perceived to be foreign or strange.

Deipnophobia is a fear of dinner parties.

Avoidant Personality Disorder a pattern of social inhibition, feelings of inadequacy and inferiority, extreme sensitivity to negative evaluation, and avoidance of social interaction despite a strong desire to be close to others. Individuals with the disorder tend to describe themselves as uneasy, anxious, lonely, unwanted and isolated from others. The behavior typically begins by early adulthood, and occurs across a variety of situations.

Pervasive Refusal Syndrome is when children have abandoned their involvement in all phases of their life. It's characterized by refusal to eat, drink, talk, walk or self-care, and a firm resistance to treatment. PRS is very rare and its cause is unclear, but its severity makes it life-threatening. The disorder usually begins with a 'virus', or the child having a 'pain', that results in the need for consulting a doctor or going to the hospital, even though no substantial cause can be found. PRS starts slowly, but the child then worsens quickly becoming reluctant or not capable to do anything for themselves. They originally refuse to accept others caring for them, or helping them eat, and are very depressed and distraught. It is not guaranteed that recovery will take place, and it is a lengthy and complex process, involving specialist medical care. Nevertheless, once the patient is healthy, relapse is very infrequent.

Learned Helplessness occurs where the subject endures repeatedly painful or otherwise aversive stimuli which it is unable to escape or avoid. After such experience, the organism often fails to learn or accept "escape" or "avoidance" in new situations where such behavior would likely be effective. In other words, the organism learned that it is helpless in situations where there is a presence of aversive stimuli, has accepted that it has lost control, and thus gives up trying. Such an organism is said to have acquired learned helplessness.

Close ties with Fathers help Daughters Overcome Loneliness

Selective Mutism is when a person who is normally capable of speech does not speak in specific situations or to specific people. Selective mutism usually co-exists with shyness or social anxiety. People with selective mutism stay silent even when the consequences of their silence include shame, social ostracism or even punishment.

Temperament refers to those aspects of an individual's personality, such as introversion or extroversion, that are often regarded as innate rather than learned.


Only Go Out at Night


Nocturnality is an animal behavior characterized by being active during the night and sleeping during the day. The common adjective is "nocturnal", versus diurnal meaning the opposite. Nocturnal creatures generally have highly developed senses of hearing, smell, and specially adapted eyesight. Some animals, such as cats and ferrets, have eyes that can adapt to both low-level and bright day levels of illumination (see metaturnal). Others, such as bushbabies and (some) bats, can function only at night. Many nocturnal creatures including tarsiers and some owls have large eyes in comparison with their body size to compensate for the lower light levels at night. More specifically, they have been found to have a larger cornea relative to their eye size than diurnal creatures to increase their visual sensitivity: in the low-light conditions. Nocturnality helps wasps, such as Apoica flavissima, avoid hunting in intense sunlight. Diurnal animals, including squirrels and songbirds, are active during the daytime. Crepuscular species, such as rabbits, skunks, tigers, and hyenas, are often erroneously referred to as nocturnal. Cathemeral species, such as fossas and lions, are active both in the day and at night. 

Nocturnal is being more active during the night or coming out only at night.

Night Owl a person who is habitually active or wakeful at night. Night Owl is a person who tends to stay up until late at night, or the early hours of the morning.

Larks are early risers. Their molecular biological body clock runs faster than the actual time of day. Larks already have their most productive phase before midday. Instead, they already get tired early in the evening. Lark Songbird.

We Only Come Out At Night - Smashing Pumpkins (youtube) - We only come out at night, The days are much too bright.

Party All Night and Sleep All Day - Sean Kingston (youtube)- We like to sleep all day, and party all night, This is how we like to live our life.

Night Walker is a person who walks around at nighttime or roves about at night. Flex Time.

Night Watchman is a person whose job is to guard a building at night for security.

Night Shift is the period of time that employees work during the night or are scheduled to work at night, as in a factory or other institution.

The Night Shift is an American medical drama television series that ran on NBC from May 27, 2014, to August 31, 2017, for four seasons and 45 episodes.

Shift Work is an employment practice designed to make use of, or provide service across, all 24 hours of the clock each day of the week (often abbreviated as 24/7). The practice typically sees the day divided into shifts, set periods of time during which different groups of workers perform their duties. The term "Shift Work" includes both long-term night shifts and work schedules in which employees change or rotate shifts. (2nd shift and 3rd shift). There are around 225 million shift workers in the U.S.
Some shift workers can have an increase in human errors from the lack of sleep. They may also experience health problems like obesity.

Night Crawler or earth worms breathe through their skin. It's imperative for them to stay cool and moist in order to continue breathing. If they came out during the day the sun would dry them out and they would not be able to breathe. Earthworms' bodies are made up of ring-like segments called annuli. These segments are covered in setae, or small bristles, which the worm uses to move and burrow. They typically reach 20 to 25 cm in length. Night crawlers are so named because they are usually seen feeding above ground at night. They also have a habit of copulating on the surface at night, making it more visible than most other earthworms.

Plants can be Larks or Night Owls just like us. Plants have the same variation in body clocks as that found in humans, according to new research that explores the genes governing circadian rhythms in plants. The research shows a single letter change in their DNA code can potentially decide whether a plant is a lark or a night owl. The findings may help farmers and crop breeders to select plants with clocks that are best suited to their location, helping to boost yield and even the ability to withstand climate change.

'Night Owls' Perform Worse at Work, Study Finds. Overall, "night owls" were twice as likely as "early birds" to underperform at work, the new study found. Folks who stayed up late also ran a heightened risk of health-related early retirement.

Chronotype is the behavioral manifestation of underlying circadian rhythms of myriad physical processes. A person's chronotype is the propensity for the individual to sleep at a particular time during a 24-hour period. Eveningness (delayed sleep period) and morningness (advanced sleep period) are the two extremes with most individuals having some flexibility in the timing of their sleep period. However, across development there are changes in the propensity of the sleep period with pre-pubescent children preferring an advanced sleep period, adolescents preferring a delayed sleep period and many elderly preferring an advanced sleep period. The causes and regulation of chronotypes, including developmental change, individual propensity for a specific chronotype, and flexible versus fixed chronotypes have yet to be determined. However, research is beginning to shed light on these questions, such as the relationship between age and chronotype. There are candidate genes (called clock genes) that exist in most cells in the body and brain, referred to as the circadian system that regulate physiological phenomena (hormone levels, metabolic function, body temperature, cognitive faculties, and sleeping). With the exception of the most extreme and rigid chronotypes, regulation is likely due to gene-environment interactions. Important environmental cues (zeitgebers) include light, feeding, social behavior, and work and school schedules. Additional research has proposed an evolutionary link between chronotype and nighttime vigilance in ancestral societies. Humans are normally diurnal creatures, that is to say they are active in the daytime. As with most other diurnal animals, human activity-rest patterns are endogenously controlled by biological clocks with a circadian (~24-hour) period. Chronotypes have also been investigated in other species, such as fruit flies and mice. Normal variation in chronotype encompasses sleep–wake cycles that are two to three hours later in evening types than morning types. Extremes outside of this range can cause a person difficulty in participating in normal work, school, and social activities. If a person's "lark" or (more commonly) "owl" tendencies are strong and intractable to the point of disallowing normal participation in society, the person is considered to have a circadian rhythm sleep disorder.


Shy - Reserved - Hesitant


Demure is being shy and reserved. Affectedly modest or shy especially in a playful or provocative way.

Shyness is the feeling of apprehension, lack of comfort, or awkwardness especially when a person is around other people. This commonly occurs in new situations or with unfamiliar people. Shyness can be a characteristic of people who have low self-esteem. Stronger forms of shyness are usually referred to as social anxiety or social phobia. The primary defining characteristic of shyness is a largely ego-driven fear of what other people will think of a person's behavior. This results in a person becoming scared of doing or saying what he or she wants to out of fear of negative reactions, being laughed at or humiliated, criticism, and/or rejection. A shy person may simply opt to avoid social situations instead. Shyness Help.

Diffidence is modesty or shyness resulting from a lack of self-confidence.

Modest is having freedom from vanity or conceit. Simplicity; Having a humble opinion of yourself. Exhibiting restrained good taste. Body Image - Physical Health.

Reserved is the trait of being uncommunicative; not volunteering anything more than necessary.

Treating Depression with a Virtual Space Station.

Self-Esteem reflects a person's overall subjective emotional evaluation of his or her own worth. It is a judgment of oneself as well as an attitude toward the self. Self-esteem encompasses beliefs about oneself, (for example, "I am competent", "I am worthy"), as well as emotional states, such as triumph, despair, pride, and shame. Confidence.


Single - Alone but not Lonely


There's around 124.6 Million Single American adults, about 50.2 percent. 62% of unmarried U.S. residents 18 and older in 2013 have never been married. Another 24 percent were divorced, and 14 percent were widowed. There were 18 million unmarried U.S. residents 65 and older in 2013. For first time in 130 years, more young adults live with parents than with partners. Americans ages 18-34 are more likely to live with their parents than in any other living situation. Though many children are taking care of their aging parents.

Single is existing alone or consisting of one entity or part or aspect or individual. Not married or related to the unmarried state. Characteristic of or meant for a single person or thing. Not divided among or brought to bear on more than one object or objective. The smallest whole number or a numeral representing this number.

Single Person is someone who is unmarried or not part of a civil union or not in a serious committed relationship. In common usage, the term 'single' is often used to refer to someone who is not involved in any type of serious romantic relationship, including long-term dating, engagement, marriage, or someone who is 'single by choice'. Single people may participate in dating and other activities to find a long-term partner or spouse.

Self-Partnered is an alternative for the word single as a relationship status. To be empowered and be in a good place on your own. I'm dating myself and I'm in Love.

Dating - Relationships - Population Growth

Parasite Single is a single person who lives with their parents beyond their late 20s or early 30s in order to enjoy a carefree and comfortable life. Parasitism as a social offense is when a person lives at the expense of another person. Not the same as welfare where the input and output are not clearly defined.

Single people are one of the world's greatest resources. Being single should be looked upon as a honorable life choice. Single people can dedicate themselves to the world and provide a great service that helps the needy and helps the uneducated to become educated. This way families can focus more time and energy towards their family instead of having to spend precious time away from their family to combat the worlds problems that are over whelming families. As of 2012, there's about 32.7 million Americans living Alone.


Alone


Alone is being without other people or being included or involved with other people. Being alone is being isolated from others and lacking companions or companionship. By oneself; apart from, or exclusive of, others; Without outside help.

Solo is any activity that is performed alone without assistance. Without anybody else or anything else. fly alone, without a co-pilot or passengers. Solo in music is composed or performed by a single voice or instrument. A musical composition for one voice or instrument, with or without accompaniment.

Being Alone does not mean that you are Lonely. And being lonely does not mean that you are insecure.

Loneliness is a complex and usually unpleasant emotional response to isolation or lack of companionship. Loneliness can be felt even when surrounded by other people, even in marriages, relationships, families, veterans and successful careers.

Rental Family Service or professional stand-in service provides clients with actors who portray friends, family members, or coworkers for social events such as weddings, or to provide platonic companionship. The service was first offered in Japan during the early 1990s. Behind Japan's Fake-Family Industry | ASIAN BOSS (youtube).

Greater wisdom is associated with greater happiness, health, and well-being, which would naturally reduce the depression and anxiety associated with loneliness.

Depression - Non-Physical Pain - Anxiety - Routines

Sociable introvert - Quiet Schools Network - Introvert's Reaction To The Coronavirus (video)

Incel are self-identifying members of an online subculture who define themselves as unable to find a romantic or sexual partner despite desiring one, a state they describe as inceldom or Involuntary Celibate. Self-identified incels are mostly white, male, and heterosexual.

Social Bonding - Relationships - Divided

Wisdom can protect against loneliness. Wisdom has several components, such as empathy, compassion, self-reflection and emotional regulation.

Belongingness is the human emotional need to be an accepted member of a group. Whether it is family, friends, co-workers, a religion, or something else, people tend to have an 'inherent' desire to belong and be an important part of something greater than themselves. This implies a relationship that is greater than simple acquaintance or familiarity. The need to belong is the need to give, and receive attention to, and from, others.


Space - Some Room - Personal Time - Freedom to Think - Be Oneself


Personal Space or Proxemics is the study of human use of space and the effects that population density has on behavior, communication, and social interaction.

Personal Boundaries are guidelines, rules or limits that a person creates to identify reasonable, safe and permissible ways for other people to behave towards them and how they will respond when someone passes those limits. They are built out of a mix of conclusions, beliefs, opinions, attitudes, past experiences and social learning. Privacy.

Avoid is to stay clear of something or to keep away from someone. Refrain from doing something or prevent something from happening.

Learning to Set Boundaries with others can be a challenging process, but it's crucial for healthy relationships. Personal boundaries help to define an individual by outlining likes and dislikes and subjects and words that are off limits. You need to be clear with your partner who you are and what you want. Explain your beliefs, your values and your limits on physical touch, and your need for personal space. Establishing healthy boundaries in a relationship allows both partners to feel comfortable and develop positive self-esteem and is the key to ensuring relationships are mutually respectful, supportive and caring. Setting boundaries can also help protect you from exploitative relationships and help you avoid getting too close to people who don't have your best interests at heart. Emotional boundaries are the property lines that separate your thoughts and feelings from those of other people. Unhealthy boundaries involve a disregard for your own and others values, wants, needs, and limits. Setting clear personal boundaries can help protect yourself from being manipulated, used, or violated by others. Name your limits and be direct. How to Set Boundaries (ehow).

Sovereignty (self governing) - Silence is Golden - Right to Silence - Distractions - Social Distancing

Solitude is the state or situation of being alone in a solitary place. A state of social isolation. Solitude is a state of seclusion or isolation, i.e., lack of contact with people. It may stem from bad relationships, loss of loved ones, deliberate choice, infectious disease, mental disorders, neurological disorders or circumstances of employment or situation. Short-term solitude is often valued as a time when one may work, think or rest without being disturbed. It may be desired for the sake of privacy. A distinction has been made between solitude and loneliness. In this sense, these two words refer, respectively, to the joy and the pain of being alone.

Solitary is one who lives in solitude. Lacking companions or companionship. Being the only one. Single and isolated from others. Characterized by or preferring solitude.

The Quiet Revolution - Start With Hello Week - Outer Space (the void)

You should be more worried about feeling lonely than being afraid of being alone.

Being alone means that you can do what you want, when you want, and think what you want, without having to accommodate other peoples needs, or deal with distractions or any pressure or outside influences. But being able to do what you want and when you want without restrictions can be dangerous, especially if you have no control, or don't have knowledge of the causes and effects of your actions. You need to have certain responsibilities when you're alone as well as when you're with other people. Both can be rewarding, and both can have their dangers. Freedom is only beneficial when you can do beneficial things.

Mistakenly Seeking Solitude: Nicholas Epley and Juliana Schroeder - University of Chicago (PDF)

Is being alone a form of meditation?

What are some of the benefits of being alone and having time to yourself? Self-Analyzing is a skill that everyone should learn. Reality.

Overcoming Fear of Being Alone Meditation - How to Overcome the Fear of Being Single (youtube)

Solitude should be about replacing neuroticism with learning and creative thinking, so that processing new information encourages new brain cell growth, as well as increased understanding of the self and the world around you.

Immune System can effect Social Behavior.

Solipsism holds that knowledge of anything outside one's own mind is unsure; the external world and other minds cannot be known and might not exist outside the mind. As a metaphysical position, solipsism goes further to the conclusion that the world and other minds do not exist.

Mal de Coucou is a phenomenon in which you have an active social life but very few close friends—people who you can trust, who you can be yourself with, who can help flush out the weird psychological toxins that tend to accumulate over time—which is a form of acute social malnutrition in which even if you devour an entire buffet of chitchat, you’ll still feel pangs of hunger.

Sonder is a dream that each random passerby is living a life as vivid and complex as your own—populated with their own ambitions, friends, routines, worries and inherited craziness—an epic story that continues invisibly around you like an anthill sprawling deep underground, with elaborate passageways to thousands of other lives that you’ll never know existed, in which you might appear only once, as an extra sipping coffee in the background, as a blur of traffic passing on the highway, as a lighted window at dusk. We are the background and in the foreground at the same time and at all times. It's just how you look at it, and it's what you choose to focus on, and it's how much you understand, and how much you know.

Everyone needs someone in their life to share life with, even if it's only for a moment. You can live by yourself and still be social once in a while, so that you do not lose contact.

Everyone thinks a little differently and sometimes sees things in their own way, and in those differences is where we learn more about ourselves and learn more about the world around us. We need each other to learn, and sharing what we have learned is natural to life. That is how humans have survived and thrived for thousands of years, and also how life survives. Everyone exploring the world in their own way is like Bees scattering to find food for the hive, because it's more effective to have bees searching in multiple places, And bees never forget where the hive is or forget where they found food. So, I will tell you what I found if you tell me what you found. Choices, Options, Actions - Learn, Love, Live, Prosper, Repeat.

Ivory Tower is a metaphorical place—or an atmosphere—where people are happily cut off from the rest of the world in favor of their own pursuits, usually mental and esoteric ones. From the 19th century, it has been used to designate an environment of intellectual pursuit disconnected from the practical concerns of everyday life. Most contemporary uses of the term refer to academia or the college and university systems in many countries.


Isolation - Living Alone By Choice or by Chance


Isolation is to be cut off or left behind. To be separated physically or socially. Isolate is to cause a person or thing to be or remain alone or apart from others. To place a person or animal in quarantine as a precaution against infectious or contagious disease. To identify something and examine or deal with it separately.

Recluse is a person who lives in voluntary seclusion from the public and society. (Shut-In).

Hermit is a person who lives in seclusion from society.

Solitary Confinement (prison) - Quarantine (forced isolation) - Isolationism - Discrimination

Isolation Tank - Space Travel - Isolation Dangers - Devolve - Boredom

One of the dangers of being alone and Isolated is becoming Alienated. Alienation is Killing Americans and Japanese. Almost a quarter of Japanese men and a tenth of Japanese women over age 60 say there is not a single person they could rely on in difficult times. The American crisis may not be so dissimilar from the Japanese one. Almost no connections with the world around him: no job, no relationships with neighbors, no spouse or children who care to be in contact. It’s the person who, when they take something out, they don’t put it back; when something breaks, they don’t fix it; when a relationship falls apart, they don’t repair it.” The New York Times analyzed over 60 million death certificates collected by the CDC and found that the mortality rates for all white people between the ages of 25 and 54 had increased since 1999.

Alienated is the absence of love, affection, or friendliness. To make people withdrawn or isolated or emotionally dissociated from other people.

Estranged - Being ignored is a type of isolation. Refugee.

Divided - When Ignorance becomes a Prison - Information Bubble

Forced Alienation is to keep people divided, because when people are fighting among themselves they become weak, powerless and distracted, which makes them easier to control and manipulate.

Hikikomori are reclusive adolescents or adults who withdraw from society and seek extreme degrees of isolation and confinement. Hikikomori refers to both the phenomenon in general and the recluses themselves. Hikikomori have been described as loners or "modern-day hermits". Estimates suggest that half a million Japanese youths have become social recluses, as well as more than half a million middle-aged individuals. "pulling inward, being confined", i.e., "acute social withdrawal".

Withdrawn is to lose interest or to pull back and move away from active participation in society and instead seek solitude and remove yourself from earlier commitments or activities. Sometimes to withdraw is to just take some time to think deeply and carefully about some of your thoughts, and to observe and examine in details previous actions and behaviors that you have experienced. Withdrawing from the world is usually just temporary, because you can never be totally disconnected from the world anyway, especially when everything is connected in life and the environment. And over 7 billion humans live on the same planet as you. So the problems that the rest of the world is experiencing can easily effect your quality of life anywhere you are on the planet. So it's a good idea not to burn bridges that you need to live, or is it a good idea to lose contact with the outside world that you need to warn you of dangers that are approaching. Sometimes when you withdraw it may be because certain relationships become toxic or unproductive. That's when you may want to replace some of your old friends with some new friends, friends that may have a better understanding of you and the world.

Loner is a person who avoids or does not actively seek human interaction or relationships. There are many reasons for their solitude, intentional or otherwise. Intentional reasons include being introverted, spiritual, mystic, having religious considerations, or personal philosophies. Unintentional reasons involve being highly sensitive, shy, past trauma or events, or having various mental disorders. Lone Wolf is a person who avoids the company or assistance of others.

Castaway is a person who is cast adrift or ashore. While the situation usually happens after a shipwreck, some people voluntarily stay behind on a deserted island, either to evade captors or the world in general. A person may also be left ashore as punishment (marooned). The provisions and resources available to castaways may allow them to live on the island until other people arrive to take them off the island. However, such rescue missions may never happen if the person is not known to still be alive, if the fact that they are missing is unknown, or if the island is not mapped. These scenarios have given rise to the plots of numerous stories in the form of novels and film.

There is a big difference between Solitude and forced Solitary Confinement.

A recent study from the United Kingdom reveals some surprising info that one person in 10 people has no close friends, so as many as 5 million people in the U.K. might be friendless, so you see, finding a good friend is not easy, but not impossible.

There are some 700,000 Hikikomori in Japan, young people who are completely isolated and afraid to reintegrate into society. People should not feel alone, even though loneliness is perceived to be real and the emotions are definitely felt, I believe that we are more connected then we realize, so loneliness seems to be more of an illusion. Just like something that you use to be afraid of, but now you're not. So even fear is created from a lack of information, just like most of our emotions. Many of us are somewhere between being connected and being disconnected. So when everyone together finally realizes that we are all connected, that's when we will finally reach our full potential.

Kodokushi refers to a Japanese phenomenon of people dying alone and remaining undiscovered for a long period of time. The phenomenon was first described in the 1980s. Kodokushi has become an increasing problem in Japan, attributed to economic troubles and Japan's increasingly elderly population. The Ministry of Health, Labour and Welfare reported there were 3,700 “unaccompanied deaths” in Japan in 2013, but some researchers estimate that because of significant under-counting, the true figure is closer to 30,000.

Too much Fame or Attention can be as bad as being isolated or alienated.

Social Isolation refers to a self-imposed state of complete or near-complete lack of contact between an individual and society. It differs from loneliness, which reflects a temporary lack of contact with other humans. Social isolation can be an issue for individuals of any age, though symptoms may differ by age group.

Bystander Effect

Evaporated People. Every year, nearly one hundred thousand Japanese vanish without a trace. Known as the johatsu, or the “evaporated,” they are often driven by shame and hopelessness, leaving behind lost jobs, disappointed families, and mounting debts. Missing Persons.

Runaway is a minor or a person under a specified age, who has left their parents or legal guardians without permission. Statistics show that females are more likely to run away than males.

Solitude is a state of seclusion or isolation, i.e., lack of contact with people. It may stem from bad relationships, loss of loved ones, deliberate choice, infectious disease, mental disorders, neurological disorders or circumstances of employment or situation.

Seclusion is shutting out or keeping apart from society, or the state of being secluded, or a place that facilitates it (a secluded place). A person, a couple, or a larger group may go to a secluded place for privacy, or because the place is quiet. Seclusion of a single person is also called solitude.

Isolationism - Separatism

Loneliness and Risk of Alzheimer Disease - Alzheimer Disease

Scientists show what loneliness looks like in the brain. Neural 'signature' may reflect how we respond to feelings of social isolation. A new study shows a sort of signature in the brains of lonely people that make them distinct in fundamental ways, based on variations in the volume of different brain regions as well as based on how those regions communicate with one another across brain networks.

Asceticism is refusing worldly pleasures in the hope of achieving a high spiritual or intellectual state. Rigorous self-denial and active self-Restraint. Monks.

Deprivation is the damaging lack of material benefits considered to be basic necessities in a society. The lack or denial of something considered to be a necessity. Big 5 Needs.

Researchers discover a specific brain circuit damaged by social isolation during childhood. Researchers have identified specific sub-populations of brain cells in the prefrontal cortex, a key part of the brain that regulates social behavior, that are required for normal sociability in adulthood and are profoundly vulnerable to juvenile social isolation in mice. Researchers found that juvenile isolation led to both reduced excitability of the prefrontal neurons projecting to the paraventricular thalamus and increased inhibitory input from other related neurons, suggesting a circuit mechanism underlying sociability deficits caused by juvenile social isolation. The paraventricular thalamus is an interface for brain reward circuits, with input signals arising from structures, such as prefrontal cortex. The thalamus is composed of different nuclei that each serve a unique role, ranging from relaying sensory and motor signals, as well as regulation of consciousness and alertness. World Without Words.

Shut In is a person confined indoors, especially as a result of physical or mental disability.

Cooped Upped is when you live in a small place or are kept in a place which is too small. A place that does not allow much freedom because it's a small closed space, from which you cannot escape. Agoraphobia Anxiety.

Cabin Fever is when a person experiences irritability, listlessness, and similar symptoms resulting from long confinement or isolation indoors during the winter. Cabin fever isn't a recognized psychological disorder, but that doesn't mean that the feelings aren't real to certain people. The distress can be real. It can make fulfilling the requirements of everyday life difficult. Cabin Fever refers to the distressing claustrophobic irritability or restlessness experienced when a person, or group, is stuck at an isolated location or in confined quarters for an extended period of time. A person may be referred to as stir-crazy, derived from the use of stir to mean 'prison'. A person may experience cabin fever in a situation such as being isolated within a vacation cottage out in the countryside, spending long periods underwater in a submarine, or being otherwise isolated from civilization. During cabin fever, a person may experience sleepiness or sleeplessness, have a distrust of anyone they are with, or have an urge to go outside even in adverse conditions such as poor weather or limited visibility. The concept is also invoked humorously to indicate simple boredom from being home alone for an extended period of time. Cabin fever is not itself a disease and there is no prognosis. However, related symptoms can lead the sufferer to make irrational decisions that could potentially threaten their life or the life of the group with whom they are confined. Some examples would be suicide or paranoia, or leaving the safety of a cabin during a terrible snow storm that one may be stuck in.


Solitude is a Skill - Some People have Lived Alone For Years


Agafia Lykova born 16 April 1944, is a Russian Old Believer, part of the Lykov family, who survived alone in the Taiga for most of her life. Lykova became a national phenomenon in the early 1980s when Vasily Peskov published articles about her family and their extreme isolation from the rest of society. Lykova is the sole surviving member of the clan and has been mostly self-sufficient since 1988, when her father died. In 2014, she wrote a letter that was published online, requesting anyone to come to her home to be her helper as her "health is waning".

Richard Proenneke (wiki)
Alone in the Wilderness (youtube)
10 Stories of People Who Shunned Civilization for Years.
Christian Monasticism (wiki)

Proxemics is the study of human use of space and the effects that population density has on behaviour, communication, and social interaction.

Personal Space (alone time) - Quarantine (forced isolation)

Mennonites (wiki) - Amish (wiki) - Conformity

Uncontacted Tribes are communities who live, or have lived, either by choice or by circumstance, without significant contact with global civilization. Few peoples have remained totally uncontacted by global civilization. Indigenous rights activists call for such groups to be left alone, stating that it will interfere with their right to self-determination. Borneo Death Blow - full documentary (youtube).

He Spent 40 Years Alone in the Woods, and Now Scientists Love Him | Short Film Showcase video of Gothic, Colorado—one of the coldest places in the United States. This ghost town has been abandoned since the 1920s, but there is at least one person who still calls it home. For more than 40 years, current resident Billy Barr has lived in a small cabin, recording data about the snowpack to pass the time. In this short film, Morgan Heim of Day’s Edge Productions profiles the legendary local who inadvertently provided scientists with a treasure trove of climate change data.

Christopher Thomas Knight is a former recluse and burglar who lived without human contact for 27 years between 1986 and 2013 in the North Pond area of Maine's Belgrade Lakes. He is also known as the North Pond Hermit. During his seclusion, Knight lived within a mile of summer cabins in a crude camp he built in a well-drained woodland obscured within a cluster of glacial erratic boulders. Having entered the woods with almost no possessions, he set up a camp composed entirely of items stolen from nearby cabins and camps. He survived by committing approximately 1,000 burglaries against houses in the area, at a rate of approximately 40 per year, to be able to survive during the harsh winters of Maine. Apart from the fear and notoriety his many burglaries created in the local area, Knight's unusual life also attracted widespread international media reports upon his capture. Journalist Michael Finkel wrote an in-depth story about the incident for GQ magazine, and later wrote a book titled The Stranger in the Woods: The Extraordinary Story of the Last True Hermit. Christopher Knight entered the woods in 1986 at 20 years of age, saying goodbye to no one.[6] His parents never reported him missing to the police. In an interview, Knight said, "I had good parents", and "We're not emotionally bleeding all over each other. We're not touchy-feely. Stoicism is expected." At the time of his notoriety, a neighbor who lived near Knight's childhood home reported that for fourteen years, they had exchanged no more than a few words with Knight's mother. Knight survived the bitterly cold Maine winters (with temperatures dipping as low as −25 °F [−32 °C] by waking up during the coldest part of the night and pacing his camp until warm. He regularly took cold sponge baths, shaved, and cut his hair, in part to avoid suspicion in the event he was spotted by others. He avoided building smoky fires which might reveal the location of his camp, but relied upon a propane camp stove to cook and melt snow for drinking and bathing. Stolen propane cylinders were transported in canoes borrowed from vacant camps. He quietly paddled along the shadowy shoreline in the pre-dawn hours to avoid being silhouetted on open water. Knight concealed thefts by sprinkling pine needles over the canoes he had used when he returned them, presumably to make them appear to have been undisturbed. He stockpiled supplies to remain in his camp from November through March to avoid revealing his location by footprints on snow-covered ground. Many have expressed admiration for Knight's outdoor survival skills, especially in the harsh Maine winters. Some also expressed doubt, saying that Knight might have broken into and taken refuge in vacant cabins. At the time of his arrest, Knight claimed there was only one instance during his 27 years of solitude in which he spoke with another human: at some point in the 1990s, he exchanged the word "hi" with a hiker whom he encountered on a lightly traveled path. Biographer Michael Finkel later reported that around February 2013, a fisherman named Tony Bellavance (along with his son and grandson) had discovered Knight in his camp, two months before he was apprehended by police. Knight later admitted to having been discovered by the fishermen, but had not mentioned it to police at the time of his arrest because the group swore a pact to not tell anyone of their meeting (after the anglers learned that Knight simply wanted to be left alone). Knight was captured by game warden Sergeant Terry Hughes on April 4, 2013, while burgling the Pine Tree Camp in Rome, Maine. He was sentenced to seven months in jail on October 28, 2013, of which he had already served all but a week while awaiting sentencing. In addition to the jail sentence, Knight paid $2,000 in restitution to victims, completed a Co-Occurring Disorders Court Program (designed for people with substance abuse problems and mental health disorders), and completed three years of probation. Knight has described deep-felt ethical misgivings about the burglaries committed, saying that stealing is wrong. Even the prosecutor said a longer sentence would have been cruel. Judge Nancy Mills believes it is very unlikely that Knight will re-offend. After release, Knight met with the judge every week, avoided alcohol, and secured a job with his brother. Journalist Michael Finkel met with Knight for nine one-hour sessions while he was in jail. This was the genesis for first an article in GQ magazine in August 2014, and then the book The Stranger In The Woods, published in March 2017. Knight was largely reluctant to express any inkling of motives or insights gained through his experience, but he did offer that "solitude bestows an increase in something valuable ... my perception. But ... when I applied my increased perception to myself, I lost my identity. There was no audience, no one to perform for ... To put it romantically, I was completely free." Finkel compared this observation to similar statements by Ralph Waldo Emerson, Charles de Foucauld, and Thomas Merton.

Isolation is a frame of mind and not just the lack of contact. Having a person to talk to can make a big difference, especially if that person is a friend who you can trust and relate too. But you must have a strong mind either way. And the only way to have a strong mind is from learning, and also by having access to the knowledge and information that you need. So it seems that loneliness is not just the lack of human contact and friendship, but loneliness is also the lack of knowledge and information. So what would you choose, to always have a friend to talk to, or choose to have all the knowledge and information that you can get your hands on? Just don't end up like Henry..Time Enough at Last (youtube) The End of Time Enough at Last was an episode from The Twilight Zone series (1959-1964). Even the smallest addictions can do more harm then good.

The 'Most Elusive' Man in North America (youtube) - maintains hiking trails.

Masafumi Nagasaki | The naked Japanese alone on a desert island for 29 years (youtube)

Living Off the Grid in Paradise. Warrick Mitchell lives deep in one of the world's most remote locations: Fiordland, New Zealand.

The Rainforest Hermit who stepped out of the wild | Australian Story (youtube)

French Artist Abraham Poincheval emerges after spending week inside a 12-ton limestone boulder hollowed out inside. Air entered the Rock through holes. Poincheval was supplied with water, soup and dried meat for the ordeal.

Biosphere 2 is an Earth systems science research facility located in Oracle, Arizona. It has been owned by the University of Arizona since 2011. Its mission is to serve as a center for research, outreach, teaching, and lifelong learning about Earth, its living systems, and its place in the universe. It is a 3.14-acre (1.27-hectare) structure originally built to be an artificial, materially closed ecological system, or vivarium. It remains the largest closed system ever created. Biosphere 2 was originally meant to demonstrate the viability of closed ecological systems to support and maintain human life in outer space, defining mission one as eight humans for two years.

Hawai’i Space Exploration Analog and Simulation

Living in Siberia #Nomad - BBC Documentary (youtube)

Survival Tips (emergencies)

If people want to live in isolation they should be paid to document their surroundings and perform some basics science measurements. Then we can air lift a small cabin and then make periodic food drops using drones when necessary.


Quotes About Solitude


Staying Home is sometimes better "The best thinking has been done in solitude." ~ Thomas A. Edison

"Without great solitude no serious work is possible." ~ Pablo Picasso

"What a lovely surprise to finally discover how unlonely being alone can be." ~ Ellen Burstyn

"Solitude is the great teacher, and to learn its lessons you must pay attention to it." ~ Deepak Chopra

"When we cannot bear to be alone, it means we do not properly value the only companion we will have from birth to death, which is ourselves." ~ Eda LeShan

"Talent is nurtured in solitude … A creation of importance can only be produced when its author isolates himself, it is a child of solitude." ~ Johann Wolfgang Von Göethe

"Every kind of creative work demands solitude, and being alone, constructively alone, is a prerequisite for every phase of the creative process." ~ Barbara Powell

"To have never known oneself is to have never known anyone." "Sometimes there are more scary things inside of us than there is outside of us"

Reinvent Yourself to be Yourself.

"There is no I, or You, or Them. You're me, I'm you, and we're everyone. A branch is not separate from the tree, the branch is the tree."

"I'm my own best friend, and just like most friendships, I sometimes ignore myself and disrespect myself, good friendships are never perfect."

I've Seen All Good People - Your Move by Yes (youtube) - Don't surround yourself with yourself.

"People are sometimes more about what they hide, than what they show."


Songs About Being Alone


One Is The Loneliest Number - Three Dog Night (Lyrics) (youtube)
One - Aimee Mann - different version of the song above (youtube)
Here I Go Again - Whitesnake 1987 (youtube) - Like a drifter I was born to walk alone.
Boulevard of broken dreams - Green Day (youtube) - I walk a lonely road, the only one that I have ever known, don't know where it goes, but it's only me, and I walk alone.
Another Saturday Night - Cat Stevens (youtube) - Another Saturday night and I ain't got nobody, I've got some money cause I just got paid, Now how I wish I had someone to talk to, I'm in an awful way.
All by Myself - Eric Carmen (youtube) - Don't want to be all by myself anymore.
All By Myself (Hidden Track) Green Day (youtube)
Only The Lonely - Roy Orbison (youtube) Only the lonely (dum-dumb-dummy doo-wah, ooh yay, yay, yay, yeah).
Only The Lonely - The Motels (youtube) - It's like I told you only the lonely can play.
Don't Bother Me - The Beatles (youtube) - Since she's been gone I want no one to talk to me, So go away, leave me alone, don't bother me, I've got no time for you right now, don't bother me.
Miss Me More - Kelsea Ballerini (youtube) - I thought I'd miss you, But I miss me more, I miss my own beat, to my own snare drum, I miss me more.
Love The One You're With - Crosby, Stills & Nash - if you can't be with the one you love, Love the one you're with.


Related Subjects - Being Single - Relationships - Solitary Confinement - Over Isolated - People who have lived Alone in Isolation - Self-Management (Sovereignty) - Technology Addiction - Inner Monologue - Brain Plasticity - Praise - Punishment - Assessments can be Flawed - Awareness - Phobias - Personality - Identity - It can't be just about you?



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