Introvert - Extravert
Extraverted
is an
outgoing person who's
not shy in social situations and is not afraid to
express themselves
publicly. An
extravert could be
empathetic but
they can also be
egotistical. An
extravert is usually concerned with the
social and
physical environment,
and also concerned with
practical
realities more than with inner
thoughts and
feelings, like a person who is
free spirited.
Gregarious is seeking and enjoying the company of others
instinctively or temperamentally.
The relative
tendency or disposition to be sociable or associate with one's fellows.
Someone who does not like to be
alone. Animals that
are gregarious tend to form a group with others of the same species.
Plants that are gregarious grow in
groups that are
close together.
Introverted
is a person who tends to
shrink from social contacts and
is more
preoccupied with their own thoughts.
An introvert can also be a person who
prefers to work alone,
rather than deal with the
interference
or the
interruptions from
other people.
Being introverted does not mean that someone is
lonely,
they might just be
focused more on
listening,
thinking and
learning. They can be
single but still be connected.
Agoraphobia
-
Shy -
Personal Space -
Single -
Anti-Social -
Lonely -
Isolation -
Sigma -
Alpha
Ambiverted is having both extrovert and introvert
personality traits.
They can be
people smart,
self smart and
life smart.
There's a difference between being by yourself and being around other
people. Other people can
influence how
you feel and
influence how you think. Thinking is much more clearer when
you're alone then it is when you're trying to think when you're around
other people. Controlling your
feelings is
sometimes easier when you're alone, and not always easy when you're around
other people. This is not bad if you are aware of the differences between
being alone and being around other people. But if you're not aware of the
changes and
influences from being in different environments, then you will
limit your
abilities
to
control and
manage particular situations.
Having the ability
to be alone is a skill. When
you constantly feel lonely and feel that you can't be alone, or when you
feel that you need to be in a
relationship because you're afraid what people might think of you,
then you will always feel lonely and always feel
insecure. Being able to
self manage and being
intelligent
is the key, whether you're alone or with other people.
People become lonely for different reasons. Emotionally-
resilient
people who are more able to
adapt in
stressful situations, are less at risk of
loneliness at any age, and
outgoing middle-aged people are less likely to feel lonely.
You should
know the reasons why you do certain things, and you should know the
reasons why you don't do certain things. What is the real reason why you
did something?
Did
you feel like doing it? Or was it just the best decision that you
could make at that particular time? The main goal is to learn and to be
aware of your actions. Not taking an action is still an action. Not doing
something is still doing something. So what are you doing?
One Man Show is a
person who
does a lot of things themselves, or manages just about
everything in relation to their goals.
Solo Research - Flying Solo - DIY
- Working on Your
Own. Depending on the type of work that you're doing, you are
sometimes better off
working on your own, this is because you
can
concentrate better without any
distractions.
Plus, it also gives you more
flexibility. Some working relationships can do more harm than good,
especially when you don't have enough clear goals and directions. If you
have to
wear many hats in a particular venture, this means
that you will need
to
wear all the hats together at once and also wear them separately one at
a time, which could mean that you will have less time to do the things that you need to do.
But if
your work is important, then
you need to focus on that type of work.
When
trying to do too much yourself you might end up doing less or becoming less
productive.
But if you can
work with the right people, then you might be more
productive than just working on your own. A good relationship is when two
people realize they can be more productive together as a team, when
compared to going solo. But there is still no guarantee
that things will happen the way they should. So you still need to
be ready
when changes come, and changes will always come. I guess that is the only
guarantee in life, and that is "
things will always change", which is good,
but sometimes bad. Life was most likely designed to be like this, so that
life would never become dull. So here we go, into the wild blue yonder.
Remote Work -
Self Managing -
Loner -
Single
Rōnin
was a samurai
without a lord or master
during the feudal period (1185–1868) of Japan. A samurai became masterless
upon the death of his master or after the loss of his master's favor or
privilege. The word rōnin literally means "
wave
man". It is an idiomatic expression for "
vagrant"
or "
wandering man", someone who finds the
way without belonging to one place.
Kung Fu (1972 TV series) (wiki).
Solo
Climbing is a style of climbing in which the climber
climbs alone, without the assistance of
another person belaying. It is generally done on higher walls than
bouldering.
Free solo climbing, or free soloing, is a form of technical ice or
rock climbing where the climbers or free
soloists
climb alone without ropes, harnesses or other protective equipment,
forcing them to rely entirely on their own individual preparation,
strength, and skill.
Time to Think is Good, but if you don't expand your knowledge, then
all you'll be doing is using the same words over and over again. You have
to keep learning if you want to keep thinking, especially if you want to
think about big ideas and create some amazing things. Knowledge is key.
There is not one door in the entire universe that knowledge cannot open.
Having your own room and private space as a
kid can be beneficial in many ways. But having your own room in your home
can also be
lonely and
isolating. Everyone needs to learn how to use
Freedom effectively and
efficiently. Everything needs
instructions in order
to insure things are used properly.
Being alone and socializing with others each contributes differently to
personal growth. A combination of constructive alone and social
experiences best contributes to the
formation of
an integrated self. Time alone is reflected in people's thoughts as an
opportunity to think about past experiences and future plans, to
relax from the stress of social
interactions, and to engage in
self-selected leisure activities.
FOMO.
"It is far better
to be
alone, than to be in bad company."
George
Washington -
Quotes.
There's a big difference between someone having
phobias about crowds or
having a lack of
confidence, than someone
who is just
showing careful forethought and avoiding excess. I'm
concerned with the social and physical environment, so the
question is, is what I'm doing the most productive and effective
actions that are
logical, practical and
positive? There has to be a
balance between
critical thinking and entertainment. Not to say that
all social engagements are about entertainment, because some
social activities actually provide great experiences filled with
good information and useful knowledge. Of course not without
risk, but either way. Social engagements seem to be better when
you have some kind of a plan or purpose, other then just going
for the adventure, which I have done 100's of times. Not to say
that all those
adventures were necessary, I was just doing things and not
really thinking about things, which was not all that bad because
at that time I had few good things to think about, thanks to
that sucky public education. I mostly felt the need for
social activities without even knowing why. If I did nothing
I felt like I just wasn't doing enough, and the embarrassment of
doing nothing was too great, especially if your friends found
out. I felt uncomfortable on Friday nights if no one called or
if I failed to make plans, but for some reason on other days it
was ok, not too much pressure. Some people shy away from social
activities because they
feel uncomfortable in crowds. But going
with a
friend
sometimes helps, well most of the time anyway. Insecure maybe,
Intuition maybe, maybe just tired, or maybe just not
interested in interacting with other people at that moment. Is
it a
phobia about crowds,
antisocial behavior,
low self-esteem or just the fact that I have not learned
enough about myself and the world around me? And how badly has this
shyness affected you? Maybe your shyness was a good thing? I
guess that depends on you, can you learn from it? Of course you
can. There's a big difference between
solitude and
independent learning. And the important thing here is to
keep learning. If you stop learning, then you are stuck with the knowledge
you have, which is not enough, so keep learning.
The Fear of Missing Out - What
did I really miss?
Susan
Cain: The Power of Introverts (youtube) -
Here's to the underdogs.
Pro-Social Behavior
is a social behavior that
benefits other people or society as a whole, such as
helping,
sharing, donating,
co-operating,
working on
jobs
that make a difference,
educating yourself and
educating others, and
volunteering.
Break Out of Your Shell
is to effectively reduce your
phobias,
paranoia and
fears
and to start being more
confident with
being yourself. To
free yourself from
inhibitions
without being
reckless.
When you're thinking that
no one gets you, just remember, it
only means that you have never met
someone who does
get you. With so many people in the world, it's safe to say that there
are other people who do get you, it's just that you have never met them.
Someone out there in the world understands
where you are
coming from, and they may be
experiencing the same problem that you are, which is finding someone
who understands them. So you're not alone in the world because you can't
prove that you're alone. You haven't met everyone on the planet, and maybe
you haven't been
asking
the right questions. The
internet connects
more people in more ways than in any other time in human history. But the
internet has flaws and
vulnerabilities, and not everyone is connected to the internet, and
not everyone is using the internet effectively enough in order to make
real connections with other people, which could make isolation even more
confusing. But we are learning how to use our tools more effectively and
more efficiently, more and more each day. So it's just a matter of time
when everyone alive will have a real friend, someone who knows them,
someone who they can depend on, someone who they can
trust. This will
be when
human nature will
shine, and not just shine on earth, but shine through the entire universe.
Sociable introvert -
Can being too social take years off your life?
Morality -
Group Thinking -
Hormones affect Social Behavior
So what types of social interactions are healthy? And how many social interactions does a person need?
Anti-Social - Social Interaction Avoidance
Social Inhibition is a conscious or
subconscious avoidance of a
situation or
social interaction.
Asociality refers to the
lack of motivation to engage in social
interaction, or a preference for solitary activities. Asociality may be
associated with avolition, but it can, moreover, be a manifestation of
limited opportunities for social relations. Developmental psychologists
use the synonyms nonsocial, unsocial, and social uninterest. Asociality is
distinct from but not mutually exclusive to anti-social behaviour, in
which the latter implies an active misanthropy or antagonism toward other
people or the general social order. A degree of asociality is routinely
observed in introverts, while extreme asociality is observed in people
with a variety of clinical conditions. Asociality is not necessarily
perceived as a totally negative trait by society, since asociality has
been used as a way to express dissent from prevailing ideas. It is seen as
a desirable trait in several mystical and monastic traditions, notably in
Jainism, Catholicism, Eastern Orthodoxy, Buddhism and Sufism.
Divided.
Asocial is avoiding
association with others.
Hostile to or disruptive of normal standards of social behavior.
Avolition as a symptom of various forms of psychopathology, is the
decrease in the motivation to initiate and perform self-directed
purposeful activities. Such activities that appear to be neglected usually
include routine activities, including hobbies, going to work and/or
school, and most notably, engaging in social activities. A person
experiencing avolition may stay at home for long periods of time, rather
than seeking out work or peer relations.
Anti-Social Behavior are actions that harm or
lack
consideration for the well-being of others.
Antisocial Personality is a pervasive pattern of disregard
for, or violation of, the rights of others. An impoverished moral sense or
conscience is often apparent, as well as a history of crime, legal
problems, or impulsive and aggressive behavior.
Anti-Social Behavior Order was a civil order made in the
United Kingdom against a person who had been shown, on the balance of
evidence, to have engaged in anti-social behavior. It was designed to
address behavior like intimidation, drunkenness, and violence by
individuals and families, using civil orders rather than criminal
sanctions.
Psychopathy is characterized by persistent antisocial
behavior,
impaired empathy and remorse, and bold,
disinhibited,
egotistical traits.
Psychopaths -
Hating PeopleSociopath is a
person with a personality disorder manifesting itself in extreme
antisocial attitudes and behavior and a
lack of conscience. They tend to
lie,
break laws, act
impulsively, and lack regard for their own safety or
lack regard for the
safety of others. A
mental health
condition in which a person consistently shows no regard for right and
wrong and
ignores the
rights and feelings of others. Someone who is Anti-Socialism.
Sometimes the symptoms may lessen with age.
Sociopathy refers to a pattern of antisocial behaviors and
attitudes, including manipulation, deceit, aggression, and a
lack of empathy for others.
Social Anxiety - Nervous in Social Situations
Social Anxiety
can be defined as nervousness in social situations. Some disorders
associated with the social anxiety spectrum include
anxiety disorders,
mood disorders, autism, eating disorders, and substance use disorders.
Individuals higher in social anxiety avert their gazes, show fewer facial
expressions, and show difficulty with initiating and maintaining
conversation. Trait social anxiety, the stable tendency to experience this
nervousness, can be distinguished from state anxiety, the momentary
response to a particular social stimulus.
Nearly
90% of individuals report feeling a form of social anxiety or
shyness at some point in their lives. Half of the individuals with any
social
fears meet criteria for social anxiety disorder. The function of
social anxiety is to increase arousal and attention to social
interactions, inhibit unwanted social behavior, and motivate preparation
for social situations such as performance situations.
Lacking Confidence.
Nervousness is the anxious feeling you have
when you have the jitters. An uneasy psychological state. A sensitive or
highly strung temperament.
Uncomfortable
is feeling unease or awkwardness. Causing or feeling slight pain or
physical discomfort.
Awkwardness is
unskillfulness resulting from a lack of training or experience. The
quality of an embarrassing situation.
Social Anxiety Disorder is characterized by a significant
amount of
fear in one or more social situations
causing considerable distress and impaired ability to function in at least
some parts of daily life. These fears can be triggered by perceived or
actual scrutiny from others.
Separation Anxiety Disorder is an anxiety disorder in which an
individual experiences excessive anxiety regarding separation from home or
from people to whom the individual has a strong emotional attachment
(e.g., a parent, caregiver, significant other or siblings).
Emotions -
Trauma -
Anxiety -
Worry -
Regret
(embarrassment)
Agoraphobia
is characterized by symptoms of
anxiety in
situations where the person
perceives the environment to be unsafe with
no
easy way to get away. These situations can include open spaces, public
transit, shopping malls, or simply being outside the home. Being in these
situations may result in a panic attack. The symptoms occur nearly every
time the situation is encountered and lasts for more than six months.
Those affected will go to great lengths to avoid these situations. In
severe cases people may become
unable to leave their homes.
Xenophobia is the
fear and distrust of that which is perceived to be foreign or strange.
Deipnophobia is a fear of dinner parties.
Avoidant Personality Disorder a pattern of social
inhibition, feelings
of inadequacy and
inferiority, extreme sensitivity to
negative evaluation,
and avoidance of social interaction despite a strong desire to be close to
others. Individuals with the disorder tend to describe themselves as
uneasy, anxious, lonely, unwanted and isolated from others. The behavior
typically begins by early adulthood, and occurs across a variety of
situations.
Wall Flower is a person
who has no one to dance with or who feels shy, awkward, or excluded at a
party.
Wet Blanket is a person who
spoils other people's fun by failing to join in with them or by
disapproving of their activities.
Pervasive Refusal Syndrome is when children have abandoned their
involvement in all phases of their life. It's characterized by refusal
to eat, drink, talk, walk or self-care, and a firm resistance to
treatment. PRS is very rare and its cause is unclear, but its severity
makes it life-threatening. The disorder usually begins with a 'virus', or
the child having a 'pain', that results in the need for consulting a
doctor or going to the hospital, even though no substantial cause can be
found. PRS starts slowly, but the child then worsens quickly becoming
reluctant or not capable to do anything for themselves. They originally
refuse to accept others caring for them, or helping them eat, and are very
depressed and distraught. It is not guaranteed that recovery will take
place, and it is a lengthy and complex process, involving specialist
medical care. Nevertheless, once the patient is healthy, relapse is very
infrequent.
Learned Helplessness occurs where the subject endures repeatedly
painful or otherwise aversive stimuli which it is unable to escape or
avoid. After such experience, the organism often fails to learn or accept
"escape" or "avoidance" in new situations where such behavior would likely
be effective. In other words, the organism learned that it is helpless in
situations where there is a presence of aversive stimuli, has accepted
that it has lost control, and thus gives up trying. Such an organism is
said to have acquired learned helplessness.
Close ties with Fathers help Daughters Overcome Loneliness
Selective Mutism is when a person who is normally capable of
speech
does not speak in specific situations or to specific people.
Selective mutism usually co-exists with shyness or social anxiety. People
with selective mutism stay silent even when the consequences of their
silence include shame, social ostracism or even punishment.
Temperament
refers to those aspects of an individual's personality, such as
introversion or extroversion, that are often regarded as innate rather than learned.
Only Go Out at Night - Nocturnal
Nocturnality is
an animal behavior characterized by being
active
during the night and
sleeping during the
day. The common adjective is "nocturnal", versus diurnal meaning
the opposite. Nocturnal creatures generally have highly developed senses
of hearing, smell, and specially adapted eyesight. Some animals, such as
cats and ferrets, have eyes that can adapt to both low-level and bright
day levels of illumination (see metaturnal). Others, such as bushbabies
and (some) bats, can function only at night. Many nocturnal creatures
including tarsiers and some owls have large eyes in comparison with their
body size to compensate for the lower light levels at night. More
specifically, they have been found to have a larger cornea relative to
their eye size than diurnal creatures to increase their visual
sensitivity: in the
low-light conditions. Nocturnality helps wasps, such
as Apoica flavissima, avoid hunting in intense sunlight. Diurnal animals,
including squirrels and songbirds, are active during the daytime.
Crepuscular species, such as rabbits, skunks, tigers, and hyenas, are
often erroneously referred to as nocturnal.
Cathemeral species, such as
fossas and lions, are active both in the day and at night.
Nocturnal is being more
active during the night or coming out only at night.
Night Owl a person who is habitually active
or
wakeful at night.
Night Owl is a person who tends to stay up until late at night, or the
early hours of the morning.
Larks
are early risers. Their molecular
biological body clock runs faster than the actual
time of day. Larks already have their
most productive phase before midday. Instead, they already get tired early
in the evening.
Lark Songbird.
We Only Come
Out At Night - Smashing Pumpkins (youtube) - We only come out at
night, The days are much too bright.
Party All Night and
Sleep All Day - Sean Kingston (youtube)- We like to sleep all day, and
party all night, This is how we like to live our life.
Night Walker is a person who walks around at
nighttime or roves about at night.
Flex Time -
Sleep Phases Night
Watchman is a person whose job is to guard a building at night for
security.
Night
Shift is the period of time that employees work during the night or
are scheduled to work at night, as in a factory or other institution.
The Night Shift is an American medical drama television series that
ran on NBC from May 27, 2014, to August 31, 2017, for four seasons and 45
episodes.
Shift
Work is an employment practice designed to make use of, or provide
service across, all 24 hours of the clock each day of the week (often
abbreviated as
24/7). The practice typically sees the day divided into
shifts, set periods of time during which different groups of workers
perform their duties. The term "
Shift Work" includes both
long-term night
shifts and work schedules in which employees change or rotate shifts. (2nd shift and 3rd shift).
There are around 225 million shift workers in the U.S.. Some shift
workers can have an increase in human errors from the
lack of sleep. They may
also experience health problems like obesity.
Heart health of shift workers linked to body clock. Working hours that
deviate from an individual's natural body clock are associated with
greater cardiovascular risk, according to recent research.
Night Crawler or
earth worms breathe through their skin. It's imperative for them to
stay cool and moist in order to continue breathing. If they came out
during the day the sun would dry them out and they would not be able to
breathe. Earthworms' bodies are made up of ring-like segments called
annuli. These segments are covered in setae, or small bristles, which the
worm uses to move and burrow. They typically reach 20 to 25 cm in length.
Night crawlers are so named because they are usually seen feeding above
ground at night. They also have a habit of copulating on the surface at
night, making it more visible than most other earthworms.
Plants can be Larks or Night Owls just like us. Plants have the same
variation in
body clocks as that
found in humans, according to new research that explores the genes
governing circadian rhythms in plants. The research shows a single letter
change in their DNA code can potentially decide whether a plant is a lark
or a night owl. The findings may help farmers and crop breeders to select
plants with
clocks that are
best suited to their location, helping to boost yield and even the ability
to withstand climate change.
'Night Owls' Perform Worse at Work, Study Finds. Overall, "night owls"
were twice as likely as "early birds" to underperform at work, the new
study found. Folks who stayed up late also ran a heightened risk of
health-related early retirement.
Birds Sleep When Flying
-
Half Asleep
Chronotype is the
behavioral manifestation of underlying
circadian rhythms of myriad physical processes. A person's chronotype
is the propensity for the individual to sleep at a particular time during
a 24-hour period.
Eveningness (delayed
sleep period) and
morningness (advanced
sleep period) are the two extremes with most individuals having some
flexibility in the timing of their sleep period. However, across
development there are changes in the propensity of the sleep period with
pre-pubescent children preferring an advanced sleep period, adolescents
preferring a delayed sleep period and many elderly preferring an advanced
sleep period. The causes and regulation of chronotypes, including
developmental change, individual propensity for a specific chronotype, and
flexible versus fixed chronotypes have yet to be determined. However,
research is beginning to shed light on these questions, such as the
relationship between age and chronotype. There are candidate genes (called
clock genes)
that exist in most cells in the body and brain, referred to as the
circadian system that regulate physiological phenomena (hormone levels,
metabolic function, body temperature, cognitive faculties, and sleeping).
With the exception of the most extreme and rigid chronotypes, regulation
is likely due to gene-environment interactions. Important environmental
cues (zeitgebers) include light, feeding, social behavior, and work and
school schedules. Additional research has proposed an evolutionary link
between chronotype and nighttime vigilance in ancestral societies. Humans
are normally diurnal creatures, that is to say they are active in the
daytime. As with most other diurnal animals, human activity-rest patterns
are endogenously controlled by biological clocks with a circadian
(~24-hour) period. Chronotypes have also been investigated in other
species, such as fruit flies and mice. Normal variation in chronotype
encompasses sleep–wake cycles that are two to three hours later in evening
types than morning types. Extremes outside of this range can cause a
person difficulty in participating in normal work, school, and social
activities. If a person's "lark" or (more commonly) "owl" tendencies are
strong and intractable to the point of disallowing normal participation in
society, the person is considered to have a circadian rhythm sleep disorder.
Shy - Reserved - Hesitant
Shyness is the feeling
of apprehension, lack of comfort, or awkwardness especially when a person
is around other people. This commonly occurs in new situations or with
unfamiliar people. Shyness can be a characteristic of people who have low
self-esteem. Stronger forms of shyness are usually referred to as social
anxiety or social phobia. The primary defining characteristic of shyness
is a largely
ego-driven
fear of what other people will think of a person's
behavior. This results in a person becoming scared of doing or saying what
he or she wants to out of fear of negative reactions, being
laughed at or
humiliated,
criticism, and/or
rejection. A shy person may simply opt to
avoid social situations instead.
Shyness Help.
Body Image -
Self-Conscious -
Low Confidence -
Physical Health
Diffidence is modesty or shyness resulting
from a lack of
self-confidence.
Demure is being shy and reserved. Affectedly modest or shy especially in a
playful or provocative way.
Modest is having freedom from
vanity or
conceit. Having a humble
opinion of yourself. Exhibiting restrained good taste. Having
simplicity in life.
Reserved is the trait of being uncommunicative;
not volunteering anything
more than necessary.
Passive.
Taciturn
is someone who doesn't talk much and is quiet, or is habitually reserved
and uncommunicative.
Passive.
Treating Depression with a Virtual Space Station.
Shyness could impact young children's performance on language tests,
study reveals
Child
Development.
Self-Esteem
reflects a person's overall subjective
emotional evaluation of his or her
own
worth. It is a
judgment of oneself as well as an attitude toward the
self. Self-esteem encompasses beliefs about oneself, (for example, "I am
competent", "I am worthy"), as well as emotional states, such as triumph,
despair, pride, and shame.
Younger workers feel stressed, lonely and undervalued. Nearly
one-third of U.S. workers prefer working with people their own age.
Younger workers are struggling with feelings of loneliness and a lack of
appreciation at work and tend to feel more comfortable working with people
their own age, according to a recent survey.
Single - Alone but not Lonely
There's around
124.6 Million Single
American adults, about 50.2 percent.
62% of
unmarried U.S. residents 18 and older in 2013
have
never been married.
Another
24 percent were divorced, and 14 percent were widowed.
There were 18 million unmarried U.S. residents
65 and older in 2013. For first
time in 130 years, more young adults live with parents than with
partners. Americans ages 18-34 are more likely to live with their parents
than in any other
living situation. Though many children are
taking care of their aging parents.
Single is existing alone
or consisting of
one entity or part or aspect or
individual. Not married or related
to the unmarried state. Characteristic of or meant for a single person or
thing. Not divided among or brought to bear on more than one object or
objective. The smallest whole number or a numeral representing this
number.
Single Person is someone who is unmarried or not part of a
civil union
or not in a serious committed
relationship. In common usage, the term
'single' is often used to refer to someone who is not involved in any type
of serious romantic relationship, including long-term dating, engagement,
marriage, or someone who is 'single by choice'. Single people may
participate in dating and
other activities to find a long-term partner or
spouse.
Monogamy
-
Single Parents
-
Childless Self-Partnered is an alternative
for the word single as a relationship status. To be empowered and be in a good
place on your own. I'm dating myself and I'm in Love.
Party of One is a reservation for one
person.
Dating
-
Relationships -
Population Growth
Parasite Single is a
single person who lives with their parents beyond their late 20s or
early 30s in order to enjoy a carefree and comfortable life.
Parasitism as a social offense is when a person
lives at the
expense of another person. Not the same as
welfare where the input and
output are not clearly defined.
Adolescents today are more satisfied with being single. Researchers
compare the satisfaction with being single in three age groups over two
differing time periods. Young people aged 14 to 20 years are nowadays more
satisfied with being single than their counterparts ten years ago.
Single people are one of the
world's greatest resources.
Being single should be looked upon as a honorable life
choice. Single people can
dedicate themselves to the world and
provide a great service that helps the needy and helps the
uneducated to become educated. This way families can focus more
time and energy towards their family instead of having to spend
precious time away from their family to combat the worlds
problems that are over whelming families. As of 2012, there's
about
32.7 million Americans living
Alone.
Love is to become one, but still
remain two individuals.
Sharing -
Sigma -
Alpha.
Benefits from having a
relationship are many. Having
the
love and
support of
another person has many physical benefits as well as
mental benefits. But that's only if
you're with
the right
person. The wrong person can cause
havoc. A partner can be an
accessory or be
passive to bad behavior,
thus a person may never change or never outgrow
bad behavior. Relationships could cause
your ignorance to persist if your partner doesn't make you aware of your
ignorance, or worse, agrees with your ignorance.
Benefits of
Being Single:
Being single is having
control over your
living space. The
freedom to establish your own
routine. You're able to
take your time when
doing things and you don't have to rush things. Being single is living by
your own rules without any
judgments.
You don't have to worry about
lifestyle compatibility
or having your
intellectual pursuits
questioned or sacrificed. Being single is being able to
simplify your life
without having to make things more complicated than they need to be. So
your life has less clutter, less burden, less stress, less chaos,
less drama with more
control, more focus and more positivity. Being single means that you don't
always have to do things for your partner, which can be physically and
mentally draining and stressful. Being single means that you can also have
a better mental space and a clearer mind with more awareness and more
mindfulness. Being single is having more
privacy and
independence and more
opportunities to
discover
things and to be your
true self. Being single is having more
uninterrupted time with
less noise and
less
disturbances, so it's easier
to
relax and find peace and quite.
Being single means you don't have to
compromise on
TV Shows, and you're able to listen to your kind of
music without
feeling selfish. Being single means that you're able to
think freely and
to be
spontaneous and
creative. Being single is
having more time to learn
self-reliance.
Being single means that you have the ability to maintain a clean living space at your own pace,
and the
freedom to host
gatherings whenever you like, and having no need to
share
your food or
other personal items because you feel guilty or
selfish. Being single means that you're able to
help
other people when needed, without having to ask for permission first.
Some things
are just better as a fantasy than they are a reality, like marriage.
"I care what you
think, just as long as you care what I
think. Thinking is
similar to the truth, the
truth is
debatable and relative."
The Meaning of
Life.
"Two is sometimes better than one, and one is sometimes
better than two, and one can sometimes better than none. One can be fun,
but two can have twice the fun and see twice the beauty. So whether it's
one or two, always love the one you're with.
More is less and
less is more. Let
relevance keep the score."
Alone - Solo
Alone is being
without other people or being included or involved
with other people. Being alone is being
isolated from others and lacking
companions or companionship. By oneself; apart from, or exclusive of,
others;
Without outside
help.
Solo is any activity that
is
performed alone without assistance or without anybody else or anything
else. Solo is to fly alone without a co-pilot or passengers. Solo in
music is
composed or performed by a single voice or instrument. A musical
composition for one voice or instrument, with or without accompaniment.
Loner is a person who is usually
alone or
independent
and enjoys their own company.
Lone Wolf is a very
independent person
who prefers to
work alone
and act or operate alone, and sometimes
live alone if needed. A lone wolf
is
self-reliant and often prefers
to
make decisions on their
own and solve problems independently. A lone wolf can still be social,
but they prefer to spend time alone and
find solace in their own company.
People in power hate lone wolves because
independent people are
harder to manipulate and control. But some lone wolves can still be
vulnerable to
manipulations, especially when they
lack a good second
opinion or
lack a truth confirmation. The term lone wolf comes from
observations of individual
wolves who go solo and leave the pack that they were born into. A
wolf's decision to leave a pack and strike out alone is quite common. Lone
wolves become independent and dominant and rule over their territory.
Lone Star -
Sigma -
Alpha -
Solo WorkThere are
36 million solo dwellers
in 2021 and together they make up 28 percent of U.S. households.
Being Alone does not mean that you are
lonely. And being lonely does not mean that you are
insecure.
Loneliness is a
complex and usually unpleasant
emotional response
to isolation or
lack of companionship. Loneliness can be felt even when
surrounded by other people, even in marriages, relationships, families,
veterans and even people with successful careers.
How to reduce loneliness. Having
meaningful activities
with a purpose can improve health and
well-being. A new study demonstrated that engaging in
meaningful,
challenging activities during free time can reduce people's loneliness and
increase their positive feelings.
Fighting loneliness by finding purpose. A sense of purpose in life --
whether it's a
high-minded quest to make a difference or a simple hobby with personal
meaning -- can offer potent protection against loneliness, according to
new research.
A
sense of purpose is this general perception that you have something
leading and directing you from one day to the next.
Self Measures for Loneliness and Interpersonal Problems (PDF)
The global pandemic has deepened an epidemic of loneliness in America.
Our report suggests that 36% of all Americans—including 61% of young
adults and 51% of mothers with young children—feel “
serious
loneliness.” Loneliness appears to have increased substantially
since the outbreak of the global pandemic. Costs of loneliness, including
early mortality and a wide array of serious physical and emotional
problems, including depression, anxiety, heart disease, substance abuse,
and domestic abuse, dementia, and sleep disturbances. U.S. Surgeon General
Vivek H. Murthy pointed to a 2018-2020 survey that revealed 60% of
Americans struggle with loneliness; that figure climbs to 75% among
younger people. Loneliness poses real threats to both mental and physical
health.
Rental Family Service or professional stand-in service provides
clients with actors who portray friends, family members, or coworkers for
social events such as weddings, or to provide platonic companionship. The
service was first offered in Japan during the early 1990s.
Behind Japan's
Fake-Family Industry | ASIAN BOSS (youtube).
Greater wisdom is
associated with greater happiness, health, and well-being, which would
naturally reduce the depression and anxiety associated with loneliness.
Depression
-
Non-Physical Pain -
Anxiety -
Routines
Sociable introvert -
Quiet Schools Network -
Introvert's Reaction To The Coronavirus (video)
Incel
are self-identifying members of an online subculture who define themselves
as unable to find a
romantic or
sexual partner
despite desiring one, a state they describe as inceldom or Involuntary
Celibate. Self-identified incels are mostly white, male, and heterosexual.
Social Bonding -
Relationships
-
Divided
Wisdom can protect against loneliness. Wisdom has several components,
such as empathy, compassion, self-reflection and emotional regulation.
Feeling lonely? What we want from our relationships can change with
age. Older people in particular may have certain
relationship expectations
that have gone overlooked in efforts to measure and
fight loneliness. Not feeling the holiday cheer this year? The gap
between
expectations
and reality can leave people feeling lonely. But older people in
particular may have certain relationship
expectations that have
gone overlooked in efforts to measure and fight loneliness,
exerts say.
Belongingness is the human
emotional need to be an accepted
member of a group. Whether it is
family,
friends, co-workers,
a
religion, or something else,
people tend to have an 'inherent' desire to belong and be an important
part of something greater than themselves. This implies a relationship
that is greater than simple acquaintance or familiarity. The need to
belong is the need to give, and receive attention to, and from, others.
Space - Some Room - Personal Time - Freedom to Think - Be Oneself
Proxemics are the
relative distances between people or the
interpersonal distances of humans. The four
distinct zones are
Intimate Space, Personal
Space,
Social Space and
Public Space.
Proxemics is the study of
human use of
space and the effects that
population density has on
behavior,
communication, and
social interaction.
Personal Space is the region
surrounding a person which they regard as
psychologically theirs. Entering
somebody's personal space is normally an indication of familiarity and
sometimes intimacy. The
amygdala is
suspected of processing people's strong reactions to
personal space
violations since these are absent in those in which it is damaged and it
is activated when people are physically close.
"Its amazing what
people can do when they are given the
space and given the
time to think and
do things,
especially when they don't have to worry their
space and their
time being
intruded or
interrupted."
Creative people enjoy idle time more than others.
Creative people are more likely
to make the most of their
downtime during a typical day by
exploring their mind,
letting
one idea lead to another,
thinking more
associatively,
thoughts naturally arise and unfold over time in unprompted contexts,
people often generated some of their
best ideas during
idle
time and also feel
less bored when
they
sat alone in a room. They
spoke more words
overall, which indicated that their
thoughts were more
likely to move freely.
Freedom of Thought.
Personal Boundaries are guidelines,
rules or
limits that a
person creates to identify reasonable,
safe and
permissible ways for other
people to
behave towards them and how they will respond when someone
passes those limits. They are built out of a mix of conclusions, beliefs,
opinions, attitudes, past experiences and
social learning.
When asserting values and boundaries, communications should be present,
appropriate, clear, firm, protective,
flexible, receptive, and
collaborative. Without values and boundaries our identities become
diffused and often controlled by the definitions offered by others. A
person with soft boundaries merges with other people's boundaries. Someone
with a soft boundary can easily become a victim of
psychological
manipulation. People with spongy boundaries are unsure of what to let in
and what to keep out. A person with rigid boundaries is closed or
walled
off so nobody can get close either physically or emotionally. This is
often the case if someone has been the victim of physical, emotional,
psychological, or sexual abuse. A person should decide what to let in and
what to keep out, and should be resistant to emotional contagions and
psychological manipulation, so they can be more difficult to exploit.
Establishing and maintaining values and boundaries will improve the sense
of security, stability, predictability and order. Boundaries encourage a
more relaxed, nonjudgmental atmosphere. The presence of boundaries need
not conflict with the need for maintaining an understanding atmosphere.
Privacy -
Agency -
Autonomy -
Compartmentalization -
Life Skills -
Feeling Boxed In -
Private Sleeping
SpaceHow do you know when you're intruding on someone's
personal space or overstepping someone's boundaries? Watch for non-verbal
cues that someone is uncomfortable, be receptive, be empathetic, learn
about other people’s experiences, and apologize when you violate someone’s
boundaries.
Comfort Zone is a psychological state in which things feel familiar to
a person and they are at ease and (perceive they are) in control of their
environment, experiencing low levels of anxiety and stress. In this zone,
a steady level of performance is possible.
Living Alone -
Isolation
-
Tiny Homes
Avoid is to stay clear of something or to
keep away from someone. Refrain from
doing something or prevent something from happening.
Learning to Set Boundaries with others can be a
challenging process, but it's crucial for
healthy relationships. Personal
boundaries help to define an individual by outlining likes and dislikes
and subjects and words that are off limits. You need to be clear with your
partner who you are and what you want. Explain your beliefs, your values
and your limits on physical touch, and your need for personal
space.
Establishing healthy boundaries in a relationship allows both partners to
feel comfortable and develop positive self-esteem and is the key to
ensuring relationships are mutually respectful, supportive and caring.
Setting boundaries can also help protect you from exploitative
relationships and help you avoid getting too close to people who don't
have your best interests at heart. Emotional boundaries are the property
lines that separate your thoughts and feelings from those of other people.
Unhealthy boundaries involve a disregard for your own and others values,
wants, needs, and limits. Setting clear personal boundaries can help
protect yourself from being manipulated, used, or violated by others. Name
your limits and be direct.
How
to Set Boundaries (ehow).
Sovereignty -
Silence is Golden -
Right to Silence -
Distractions -
Social Distancing
Solitude is the state or situation of
being alone in a solitary place. A state of social
isolation.
Solitude
is a state of
seclusion or isolation, i.e., lack
of contact with people. It may stem from bad relationships, loss of loved
ones,
deliberate choice, infectious disease, mental disorders,
neurological disorders or circumstances of employment or situation.
Short-term solitude is often valued as a time when one may work, think or
rest without being disturbed. It may be desired for the sake of
privacy. A distinction has
been made between solitude and
loneliness. In this
sense, these two words refer, respectively, to the joy and the pain of
being alone.
Self
Soothing.
Solitary is one who
lives in solitude. Lacking companions or companionship. Being the only
one. Single and
isolated from others.
Characterized by or preferring solitude.
The
Quiet Revolution -
Start With Hello Week -
Outer Space (the void)
Solitude can help you regulate your mood, especially when using the time
alone to
think, to
learn and to educate
yourself.
Meditation and
contemplation.
You should be more worried
about feeling lonely than being afraid of being alone.
Being alone means that you can do what you want, when you want, and
think what you want, without having to accommodate other peoples needs,
beliefs or
hang-ups, or
deal with distractions or any pressure or outside influences. But being
able to do what you want and when you want without restrictions can be
dangerous, especially if you have no control, or don't have knowledge of
the causes and effects of your actions. You need to have certain
responsibilities when you're alone as well as when you're with other
people. Both can be rewarding, and both can have their dangers. Freedom is
only beneficial when you can do beneficial things.
Mistakenly Seeking Solitude: Nicholas Epley and Juliana Schroeder -
University of Chicago (PDF)
Is being alone a form of
meditation?
What are some of
the benefits of being alone and having time to yourself?
Self-Analyzing is a skill that everyone
should learn.
Reality.
Overcoming
Fear of Being Alone Meditation - How to Overcome the Fear of
Being Single (youtube)
Escaping from Karma - Nikon Photo Contest 2020-2021 (youtube) - The
plot is about trying to break free from the various constrictions of
society, while dealing also with issues of feminism, race, and
nationality. The COVID-19 pandemic has forced drastic changes in our
lives. What we took for granted can no longer be taken for granted, and
what we thought were unshakable have become increasingly uncertain. I
created this film based on the notion that perhaps there will be
liberation if the colossal systems that have been built up are
transformed, or if we can escape from them. "Nothing would make me happier
than for my video to reach as many people as possible and help to free
them from the oppression of our era."
Solitude should be about replacing
neuroticism with
learning
and
creative
thinking, so that processing new information encourages
new brain
cell growth, as well as increased understanding of the self
and the world around you.
Immune System can effect Social Behavior.
Solipsism holds that knowledge
of anything outside one's own mind is unsure; the external world
and other minds cannot be known and might not exist outside the
mind. As a metaphysical position, solipsism goes further to the
conclusion that the world and other minds do not exist.
Mal de Coucou is a phenomenon in which
you have an active social life but very few close friends—people
who you can trust, who you can be yourself with, who can help
flush out the weird psychological toxins that tend to accumulate
over time—which is a form of acute social malnutrition in which
even if you devour an entire buffet of chitchat, you’ll still
feel pangs of hunger.
Sonder is a
dream that each random
passerby is living a life as vivid and complex as your
own—populated with their own ambitions, friends, routines,
worries and inherited craziness—an epic story that continues
invisibly around you like an anthill sprawling deep underground,
with elaborate passageways to thousands of other lives that
you’ll never know existed, in which you might appear only once,
as an extra sipping coffee in the background, as a blur of
traffic passing on the highway, as a lighted window at dusk.
We are the background and in the
foreground at the same time and at all times. It's just how you
look at it, and it's what you choose to focus on, and it's how
much you understand, and how much you know.
Everyone needs someone in their life to share life with, even if
it's only for a moment. You can live by yourself and still be social once
in a while, so that you do not lose contact.
Everyone thinks a little
differently and sometimes sees things in their own way, and in those
differences is where we learn more about ourselves and learn more about
the world around us. We need each other to learn, and sharing what we have
learned is natural to life. That is how humans have survived and thrived
for thousands of years, and also
how life survives. Everyone exploring the world in their own way is
like Bees scattering to find food for the hive, because it's more
effective to have bees searching in multiple places, And bees never forget
where the hive is or forget where they found food. So, I will tell you
what I found if you tell me what you found. Choices, Options, Actions -
Learn, Love, Live, Prosper, Repeat.
Alone in Our Heads
Humans are designed
to have their own inner world. Humans need a
private secluded place
to
think, to
imagine and to
dream. This place needs to be separate from
the outside world. To have
consciousness and a
conscience
is important. Our
introspection and our
ability to look inward is necessary. To have
autonomy is
necessary. Our inner world is made up of many things such as our thoughts,
our feelings,
our memories, our beliefs, our values, our desires, and more. People are
alone in their
own little
worlds. Even when people have lots of friends and family, people are
alone, but not really, because we are all
connected,
even when we don't feel connected.
Dying Alone.
When I'm sitting quietly and someone asks me "
what
you are thinking?" All I can say is, do you think that I could
explain my thoughts? If I wanted to share my thoughts with you, I would
just think out load, instead of just thinking to myself. It's weird enough
knowing that my mind can say words just like my mouth can, but my mind is
silent, and that only I can hear the words in my head, unless God can hear
my thoughts too, then my thoughts are not private. Which means that I hope
that God will not tell anyone about my crazy thoughts. My only defense
would be that I thought that no one was listening. So I thought that it
didn't matter what I was thinking, because my thoughts were mostly just
random stuff that know one was paying attention to. So I guess I have to
be careful now about what I think about, and not just be careful about
what I say. But now that I think about it, I always assumed that God was
listening to my thoughts, this way I would feel that my thoughts were not
for nothing and my thoughts actually meant something, and that my thoughts
were not just falling on deaf ears, even if my thoughts meant that I was a
little crazy, and that God would be really worried about how crazy some of
my thoughts were, but being a good friend as God is, God didn't judge me,
and now my thoughts are better now, though my thoughts can still be
amazing at times. So, this is why I don't tell people what I'm thinking
about, it's just too complicated.
Seclusion
is shutting out or keeping apart from society, or the state of
being secluded, or a place that facilitates it (a secluded place). A
person, a couple, or a larger group may go to a secluded place for
privacy, or because the place is quiet. Seclusion of a
single person is
also called solitude.
Ivory
Tower is a metaphorical place—or an atmosphere—where people are
happily cut off from the rest of the world
in favor of their own pursuits, usually mental and esoteric ones. From the
19th century, it has been used to designate an environment of intellectual
pursuit disconnected from the practical concerns of everyday life. Most
contemporary uses of the term refer to academia or the college and
university systems in many countries.
Isolation - Living Alone by Choice or by Chance or by Force
Isolation is to be cut off or left
behind. To be separated physically or socially.
Isolate is to cause a person or thing to be or
remain alone or
apart from others. To place
a person or animal in
quarantine as a
precaution against infectious or contagious disease. To identify something
and examine or deal with it
separately.
Discrimination -
Racism -
Segregation -
Isolationism
-
Refugees
Solitary Confinement
(prison) -
Quarantine (forced isolation) -
Isolation Experiments
Spanish athlete Beatriz Flamini emerges after 500 days in cave. A
50-year-old Spanish extreme athlete emerged on Friday from a 500-day
challenge living 230 feet deep in a cave outside Granada with minimal
contact outside.
15 French volunteers leave cave after 40 days without daylight, phones
or clocks.
Isolation Tank
-
Space Travel -
Isolation Dangers -
Devolve -
Boredom
Recluse
is a person who lives in
voluntary seclusion from the public and society.
(Shut-In).
Hermit is a person who
lives in seclusion from society.
Hikikomori are
reclusive adolescents or adults who
withdraw from society and seek extreme
degrees of isolation and confinement. Hikikomori refers to both the
phenomenon in general and the recluses themselves. Hikikomori have been
described as loners or "modern-day hermits". Estimates suggest that half a
million Japanese youths have become social recluses, as well as more than
half a million middle-aged individuals. "pulling inward, being confined",
i.e., "acute social withdrawal".
A new diagnostic tool to identify and treat pathological social withdrawal.
Hikikomori is a pathology characterized by social withdrawal for a period
exceeding six months. While first defined in Japan, the pathology is
growing globally. To help better assess individuals for Hikikomori,
researchers developed the the Hikikomori Diagnostic Evaluation, or HiDE, a
diagnostic tool to be a guide on collecting information on the growing
pathology. HiDE is a questionnaire we've been developing at our clinic at
the University Hospital. We've refined it over the years, and today it
takes roughly 5-20 minutes to complete depending on the answers.
Withdrawn is to lose interest or to pull
back and move away from active participation in society and instead seek
solitude and remove yourself from earlier commitments or activities.
Sometimes to withdraw is to just take some time to think deeply and
carefully about some of your thoughts, and to observe and examine in
details previous actions and behaviors that you have experienced.
Withdrawing from the world is usually just temporary, because you can
never be totally disconnected from the world anyway, especially when
everything is
connected in life and the environment. And over 7 billion humans live
on the same planet as you. So the problems that the rest of the world is
experiencing can easily effect your quality of life anywhere you are on
the planet. So it's a good idea not to burn bridges that you need to live,
or is it a good idea to lose contact with the outside world that you need
to warn you of dangers that are approaching. Sometimes when you withdraw
it may be because certain relationships become toxic or unproductive.
That's when you may want to replace some of your old friends with some new
friends, friends that may have a better understanding of you and the
world.
One of the dangers of being alone and Isolated is
becoming Alienated. Alienation is killing Americans and Japanese.
Almost a quarter of Japanese men and a tenth of Japanese women
over age 60 say there is
not a single person they could rely on in
difficult times. The American crisis may not be so dissimilar from
the Japanese one.
Almost no connections with the
world around him: no job, no relationships with neighbors, no spouse or
children who care to be in contact. It’s the person who, when they
take something out, they don’t put it back; when something breaks, they
don’t fix it; when a relationship falls apart, they don’t repair it.” The
New York Times analyzed over 60 million death certificates collected by
the CDC and found that the mortality rates for all white people between
the ages of 25 and 54 had increased since 1999.
Public Services.
Alienated is the absence of love,
affection, or friendliness. To make people withdrawn or isolated or emotionally
dissociated from other people.
People alienated from their
family history or have no connection to their ancestors.
Estranged - Being ignored is a
type of isolation.
Divided -
When Ignorance becomes a
Prison -
Information Bubble
Forced Alienation
is to keep people
divided, because
when people are fighting among themselves they become weak,
powerless and
distracted, which makes them
easier to
control and
manipulate.
Loner is
a person who avoids or
does not actively seek human
interaction or relationships. There are many reasons for their
solitude, intentional or otherwise. Intentional reasons include being
introverted, spiritual, mystic, having religious considerations, or
personal philosophies. Unintentional reasons involve being highly
sensitive, shy, past trauma or events, or having various mental disorders.
Lone Wolf is a person who avoids the
company or assistance of others.
Castaway
is a person who is cast adrift or ashore. While the situation usually
happens after a shipwreck, some people voluntarily stay behind on a
deserted island, either to evade captors or
the world in general. A person may also be left ashore as punishment
(marooned). The provisions and resources available to castaways may allow
them to live on the island until other people arrive to take them off the
island. However, such rescue missions may never happen if the person is
not known to still be alive, if the fact that they are missing is unknown,
or if the island is not mapped. These scenarios have given rise to the
plots of numerous stories in the form of novels and film.
Outcast
(wealth divide) -
Knowledge Divide
Insular is narrowly restricted in outlook
or scope. Suggestive of the isolated life of an
island. Relating to or characteristic of or situated on an
island.
There is a big difference between Solitude and forced
solitary confinement.
A recent study from the United Kingdom reveals some surprising
info that
one person in 10 people has no close friends, so
as many as 5 million people in the U.K. might be friendless, so
you see, finding a good friend is not easy, but not impossible.
Cohesion and connection drop in aging population. With the global
human population of over-60s expected to double by 2050, the findings
suggest social structures, cohesion and connectedness could all change
significantly.
There are some 700,000
Hikikomori in Japan,
young people who are completely
isolated and afraid to reintegrate into society.
People should not feel alone, even though
loneliness is perceived to be real and the emotions are
definitely felt, I believe that we are more connected then we
realize, so
loneliness seems to be more of an illusion. Just
like something that you use to be
afraid of, but now you're not.
So even fear is created from a lack of information, just like
most of our
emotions. Many of us are
somewhere between being connected and being disconnected. So when everyone
together finally realizes that we are all connected, that's when we will
finally reach our full potential.
Kodokushi refers to
a Japanese phenomenon of people
dying alone and
remaining undiscovered for a long period of time. The phenomenon was first
described in the 1980s. Kodokushi has become an increasing problem in
Japan, attributed to economic troubles and Japan's increasingly
elderly population. The
Ministry of Health, Labour and Welfare reported there were 3,700
“unaccompanied deaths” in Japan in 2013, but some researchers estimate
that because of significant under-counting, the true figure is closer to
30,000.
Too much Fame or Attention can be as bad as
being isolated or alienated.
Social Isolation refers to a
self-imposed state of complete
or near-complete lack of contact between an individual and society. It
differs from loneliness, which reflects a temporary lack of contact with
other humans. Social isolation can be an issue for individuals of any age,
though symptoms may differ by age group.
Bystander Effect
Evaporated People. Every year, nearly
one hundred thousand Japanese vanish without a trace. Known as the johatsu,
or the “evaporated,” they are often driven by shame and hopelessness,
leaving behind lost jobs, disappointed families, and mounting debts.
Missing Persons.
Runaway is a minor or a person under a specified age, who has left
their parents or legal guardians without permission. Statistics show that
females are more likely to run away than males.
Isolationism
-
Separatism
Loneliness and Risk of Alzheimer Disease
-
Alzheimer
Disease
Scientists show what loneliness looks like in the brain. Neural
'signature' may reflect how we respond to feelings of social isolation. A
new study shows a sort of signature in the brains of lonely people that
make them distinct in fundamental ways, based on variations in the volume
of different brain regions as well as based on how those regions
communicate with one another across brain networks.
Asceticism is
refusing worldly
pleasures in the hope of achieving a high spiritual or intellectual state.
Rigorous self-denial and active
self-Restraint.
Monks.
Deprivation is the
damaging lack of material benefits considered to be basic necessities in a
society. The lack or denial of something considered to be a necessity.
Big 5 Needs.
Researchers discover a specific brain circuit damaged by social isolation
during childhood. Researchers have identified specific sub-populations
of brain cells in the prefrontal cortex, a key part of the brain that
regulates social behavior, that are required for normal sociability in
adulthood and are profoundly vulnerable to juvenile social isolation in
mice. Researchers found that juvenile isolation led to both reduced
excitability of the prefrontal neurons projecting to the
paraventricular thalamus and increased inhibitory input from other
related neurons, suggesting a circuit mechanism underlying sociability
deficits caused by juvenile social isolation. The paraventricular thalamus
is an interface for brain reward circuits, with input signals arising from
structures, such as prefrontal cortex. The thalamus is composed of
different nuclei that each serve a unique role, ranging from relaying
sensory and motor signals, as well as regulation of consciousness and
alertness.
World Without
Words.
Shut In is a person
confined indoors, especially as a result of physical or mental disability.
Cooped Upped is when you live in a
small place or are kept
in a place which is too small. A place that does not allow much freedom
because it's a small closed space, from which you cannot escape.
Agoraphobia Anxiety.
Cabin Fever is when a person experiences irritability,
listlessness, and similar symptoms resulting from long confinement or
isolation indoors during the winter. Cabin fever isn't a recognized
psychological disorder, but that doesn't mean that the feelings aren't
real to certain people. The distress can be real. It can make fulfilling
the requirements of everyday life difficult.
Cabin
Fever refers to the distressing claustrophobic irritability or
restlessness experienced when a person, or group, is stuck at an isolated
location or in confined quarters for an extended period of time. A person
may be referred to as stir-crazy, derived from the use of stir to mean
'prison'. A person may experience cabin fever in a situation such as being
isolated within a vacation cottage out in the countryside, spending long
periods underwater in a submarine, or being otherwise isolated from
civilization. During cabin fever, a person may experience sleepiness or
sleeplessness, have a distrust of anyone they are with, or have an urge to
go outside even in adverse conditions such as poor weather or limited
visibility. The concept is also invoked humorously to indicate simple
boredom from being home alone for an extended period of time. Cabin fever
is not itself a disease and there is no prognosis. However, related
symptoms can lead the sufferer to make irrational decisions that could
potentially threaten their life or the life of the group with whom they
are confined. Some examples would be suicide or paranoia, or leaving the
safety of a cabin during a terrible snow storm that one may be stuck in.
Technology Access
associated with
lower risk of social isolation.
Loneliness and Social Isolation linked to serious health conditions.
Socially Isolated older adults have a 27% higher chance of developing
dementia than older adults who aren't, a new study by Johns Hopkins
researchers found.
Like people, vultures get set in their ways and have fewer friends as they
age. Older birds tend to have more selective friendships with stronger
bonds and may know better where to find food. Young griffon vultures move
frequently between sleeping sites in different locations, interacting with
many friends. They get set in their ways as they age and roost in the same
spots with the same individuals; older vultures follow the same paths.
Roosts act as information hubs; older vultures may have a more thorough
knowledge of where to find food resources and less need to learn about
them from other vultures.
It appears that social isolation triggers a
"neural alarm system" of threat-related regions of the brain including the
amygdala, dorsal anterior cingulate cortex, anterior insula, and
periaqueductal gray, separate regions may process social connection. Two
brain areas that are part of the brain's reward system are also involved
in processing social connection and attention to loved ones: the
ventromedial prefrontal cortex, a region that also responds to safety and
inhibits threat responding, and the ventral striatum and septal area, part
of a neural system that is activated by taking care of one's own young.
Oxytocin has also been found to play many roles in the bonding between
mother and child. A wide range of mammals, including rats, prairie voles,
guinea pigs, cattle, sheep, primates, and humans, experience distress and
long-term deficits when separated from their parent. One of the main ways
social connection may affect our health is through the immune system.
Solitude is a Skill - Some People have Lived Alone For Years
Agafia Lykova
born 16 April 1944, is a Russian Old Believer, part of the Lykov family,
who
survived alone in the Taiga for most of her life. Lykova became a
national phenomenon in the early 1980s when Vasily Peskov published
articles about her family and their
extreme isolation from the rest of
society. Lykova is the sole surviving member of the clan and has been
mostly self-sufficient since 1988, when her father died. In 2014, she
wrote a letter that was published online, requesting anyone to come to
her home to be her helper as her "health is waning".
Richard Proenneke (wiki)
Alone in
the Wilderness (youtube)
10 Stories of People Who Shunned Civilization for Years.
Christian Monasticism (wiki)
Personal Space -
Boundaries -
Alone Time
-
Quarantine (forced isolation)
Mennonites (wiki) -
Amish
(wiki) -
Conformity
Uncontacted Tribes are communities who live, or have lived,
either by choice or by
circumstance,
without significant contact with global civilization. Few
peoples have remained totally uncontacted by global civilization.
Indigenous rights activists call for such groups to be left alone, stating
that it will interfere with their right to
self-determination.
Borneo Death Blow -
full documentary (youtube).
He Spent 40 Years
Alone in the Woods, and Now Scientists Love Him | Short Film Showcase
video of Gothic, Colorado—one of the coldest places in the United States.
This ghost town has been abandoned since the 1920s, but there is at least
one person who still calls it home. For more than 40 years, current
resident
Billy Barr has lived in a small
cabin,
recording data about the snowpack to pass the time. In this short
film, Morgan Heim of Day’s Edge Productions profiles the legendary local
who inadvertently provided scientists with a treasure trove of
climate
change data.
Christopher Thomas Knight is a former recluse and burglar who lived
without human contact for
27 years between
1986 and 2013 in the North Pond area of Maine's Belgrade Lakes. He is also
known as the North Pond Hermit. During his seclusion, Knight lived within
a mile of summer cabins in a crude camp he built in a well-drained
woodland obscured within a cluster of glacial erratic boulders. Having
entered the woods with almost no possessions, he set up a camp composed
entirely of items stolen from nearby cabins and camps. He survived by
committing approximately 1,000 burglaries against houses in the area, at a
rate of approximately 40 per year, to be able to survive during the harsh
winters of Maine. Apart from the fear and notoriety his many burglaries
created in the local area, Knight's unusual life also attracted widespread
international media reports upon his capture. Journalist Michael Finkel
wrote an in-depth story about the incident for GQ magazine, and later
wrote a book titled The Stranger in the Woods: The Extraordinary Story of
the Last True Hermit. Christopher Knight entered the woods in 1986 at 20
years of age, saying goodbye to no one. His parents never reported him
missing to the police. In an interview, Knight said, "I had good parents",
and "We're not emotionally bleeding all over each other. We're not
touchy-feely. Stoicism is expected." At the time of his notoriety, a
neighbor who lived near Knight's childhood home reported that for fourteen
years, they had exchanged no more than a few words with Knight's mother.
Knight survived the bitterly cold Maine winters (with temperatures dipping
as low as −25 °F [−32 °C] by waking up during the coldest part of the
night and pacing his camp until warm. He regularly took cold sponge baths,
shaved, and cut his hair, in part to avoid suspicion in the event he was
spotted by others. He avoided building smoky fires which might reveal the
location of his camp, but relied upon a propane camp stove to cook and
melt snow for drinking and bathing. Stolen propane cylinders were
transported in canoes borrowed from vacant camps. He quietly paddled along
the shadowy shoreline in the pre-dawn hours to avoid being silhouetted on
open water. Knight concealed thefts by sprinkling pine needles over the
canoes he had used when he returned them, presumably to make them appear
to have been undisturbed. He stockpiled supplies to remain in his camp
from November through March to avoid revealing his location by footprints
on snow-covered ground. Many have expressed admiration for Knight's
outdoor survival skills, especially in the harsh Maine winters. Some also
expressed doubt, saying that Knight might have broken into and taken
refuge in vacant cabins. At the time of his arrest, Knight claimed there
was only one instance during his 27 years of solitude in which he spoke
with another human: at some point in the 1990s, he exchanged the word "hi"
with a hiker whom he encountered on a lightly traveled path. Biographer
Michael Finkel later reported that around February 2013, a fisherman named
Tony Bellavance (along with his son and grandson) had discovered Knight in
his camp, two months before he was apprehended by police. Knight later
admitted to having been discovered by the fishermen, but had not mentioned
it to police at the time of his arrest because the group swore a pact to
not tell anyone of their meeting (after the anglers learned that Knight
simply wanted to be left alone). Knight was captured by game warden
Sergeant Terry Hughes on April 4, 2013, while burgling the Pine Tree Camp
in Rome, Maine. He was sentenced to seven months in jail on October 28,
2013, of which he had already served all but a week while awaiting
sentencing. In addition to the jail sentence, Knight paid $2,000 in
restitution to victims, completed a Co-Occurring Disorders Court Program
(designed for people with substance abuse problems and mental health
disorders), and completed three years of probation. Knight has described
deep-felt ethical misgivings about the burglaries committed, saying that
stealing is wrong. Even the prosecutor said a longer sentence would have
been cruel. Judge Nancy Mills believes it is very unlikely that Knight
will re-offend. After release, Knight met with the judge every week,
avoided alcohol, and secured a job with his brother. Journalist Michael
Finkel met with Knight for nine one-hour sessions while he was in jail.
This was the genesis for first an article in GQ magazine in August 2014,
and then the book The Stranger In The Woods, published in March 2017.
Knight was largely reluctant to express any inkling of motives or insights
gained through his experience, but he did offer that "solitude bestows an
increase in something valuable ... my perception. But ... when I applied
my increased perception to myself, I lost my identity. There was no
audience, no one to perform for ... To put it romantically, I was
completely free." Finkel compared this observation to similar statements
by Ralph Waldo Emerson, Charles de Foucauld, and Thomas Merton.
Isolation is a frame of mind and not just the
lack of
contact. Having a person to talk to can make a big difference, especially
if that person is a friend who you can trust and relate too. But you must
have a strong mind either way. And the only way to have a strong mind is
from learning, and also by having access to the knowledge and information
that you need. So it seems that loneliness is not just the lack of human
contact and friendship, but loneliness is also the lack of knowledge and
information. So what would you choose, to always have a friend to talk to,
or choose to have all the knowledge and information that you can get your
hands on? Just don't end up like Henry..
Time Enough at Last (youtube)
The End of Time Enough at Last was an episode from The Twilight Zone
series (1959-1964).
Even the
smallest addictions can do more harm then good.
The 'Most Elusive'
Man in North America (youtube) - maintains hiking trails.
Masafumi Nagasaki |
The naked Japanese alone on a desert island for 29 years (youtube)
Living Off the Grid
in Paradise. Warrick Mitchell lives deep in one of the world's most
remote locations: Fiordland, New Zealand.
Off Grid.
The Rainforest
Hermit who stepped out of the wild | Australian Story (youtube)
French Artist Abraham Poincheval emerges after spending week inside a
12-ton limestone boulder hollowed out inside. Air entered the Rock
through holes. Poincheval was supplied with water, soup and dried meat for
the ordeal.
Biosphere 2 is an
Earth systems science research facility located in Oracle, Arizona. It has
been owned by the University of Arizona since 2011. Its mission is to
serve as a center for research, outreach, teaching, and lifelong learning
about Earth, its living systems, and its place in the universe. It is a
3.14-acre (1.27-hectare) structure originally built to be an artificial,
materially closed ecological system, or vivarium. It remains the largest
closed system ever created. Biosphere 2 was originally meant to
demonstrate the viability of closed ecological systems to support and
maintain human life in outer space, defining mission one as eight humans
for two years.
Red Heaven is
an
isolation experiment to help humanity get to
Mars. Four scientists, an engineer and an architect agree to embark on the
longest space simulation in US history:
366 days in isolation and confinement on an active volcano in Hawai'i in a
1000-square foot
dome.
15 People Lived 40 Days in a Sunless Cave Without Clocks to Study Time.
For 40 days and 40 nights, the group lived in and explored the cave as
part of the Deep Time project. There was no sunlight inside, the
temperature was 10 degrees Celsius (50 F) and the relative humidity stood
at 100%. The cave dwellers had no contact with the outside world, no
updates on the pandemic nor any communications with friends or family.
Living in Siberia
#Nomad - BBC Documentary (youtube)
Survival Tips (emergencies)
If people want
to
live in isolation they should be paid to document their surroundings
and perform some
basics science measurements. Then we can air lift a small cabin and then make periodic
food drops using drones when necessary.
Quotes About Solitude
"The best thinking has been done in solitude." ~
Thomas A. Edison
"Without great solitude no serious work is possible." ~
Pablo Picasso
"What a lovely surprise to finally discover how unlonely being
alone can be." ~
Ellen Burstyn
"Solitude is the great teacher, and to learn its lessons you
must pay attention to it." ~
Deepak Chopra
"When we cannot bear to be alone, it means we do not properly
value the only companion we will have from birth to death, which
is ourselves." ~
Eda LeShan
"Talent is nurtured in solitude … A creation of importance can
only be produced when its author isolates himself, it is a child
of solitude." ~
Johann Wolfgang Von Göethe
"Every kind of creative work demands solitude, and being alone,
constructively alone, is a prerequisite for every phase of the
creative process." ~ Barbara Powell
"To have never known oneself is to have never known anyone."
"Sometimes there are more scary things inside of us than there is outside
of us"
Reinvent
Yourself to be Yourself.
"There is no I, or You, or Them. You're me,
I'm you, and we're everyone. A branch is not separate from the
tree, the branch is the tree."
"I'm my own best friend, and just like most
friendships, I sometimes ignore myself and disrespect myself,
good friendships are never perfect."
I've Seen All Good People - Your Move by Yes (youtube) -
Don't surround yourself with yourself.
"People are sometimes more about what they hide, than what they show."
“There are some places in life where you can only go
alone. Embrace the beauty of your solo journey.” – Mandy Hale
“Sometimes, you got to climb the mountain alone. Much precious time is
wasted convincing others how beautiful it is up there.” – Shouvik
Bhattacharya
“Sometimes we must take the most important journeys in
isolation; alone except for the experience itself.” – Craig D. Lounsbrough
Songs About Being Alone
One Is The
Loneliest Number - Three Dog Night (Lyrics) (youtube)
One - Aimee Mann
- different version of the song above (youtube)
Here I Go Again -
Whitesnake 1987 (youtube)
- Like a drifter, I was
born to walk alone.
Boulevard of broken
dreams - Green Day (youtube) - I walk a lonely road, the only one that
I have ever known, don't know where it goes, but it's only me, and I walk
alone.
Another Saturday
Night - Cat Stevens (youtube) - Another Saturday night and I ain't got
nobody, I've got some money cause I just got paid, Now how I wish I had
someone to talk to, I'm in an awful way.
All by Myself -
Eric Carmen (youtube) - Don't want to be all by myself anymore.
All By Myself
(Hidden Track) Green Day (youtube)
Only The Lonely -
Roy Orbison (youtube) - Only the lonely (dum-dumb-dummy doo-wah, ooh
yay, yay, yay, yeah).
Only The Lonely -
The Motels (youtube) - It's like I told you, only the lonely can play.
Don't Bother Me -
The Beatles (youtube) - Since she's been gone, I want no one to talk to
me, So go away, leave me alone, don't bother me, I've got no time for you
right now, don't bother me.
Miss Me More -
Kelsea Ballerini (youtube) - I thought I'd miss you, But I miss me
more, I miss my own beat, to my own snare drum, I miss me more.
Love The One You're
With - Crosby, Stills & Nash - if you can't be with the one you love,
Love the one you're with.
We
know You're Alone - Bob and Bob - 1983 (youtube)
I Drink Alone -
George Thorogood and the Destroyers (youtube) - I drink alone, yeah,
With nobody else. Yeah, you know when I drink alone, I prefer to be by
myself.
Who Can It Be Now?
- Men At Work (youtube) - Who can it be knocking at my door? Go 'way,
don't come 'round here no more, Can't you see that it's late at night? I'm
very tired and I'm not feeling right,
All I wish is to
be alone, Stay away, don't you invade my home, Best off if you hang
outside, Don't come in,
I'll only run and hide, Who can
it be now? Who can it be now? Who can it be now? Who can it be now? Who
can it be knocking at my door? Make no sound, tip-toe across the floor, If
he hears, he'll knock all day, I'll be trapped and here I'll have to stay,
I've done no harm, I keep to myself, There's nothing wrong with my state
of mental health, I like it here with my childhood friend, Here they come,
those feelings again! Who can it be now? Who can it be now? Who can it be
now? Who can it be now? Is it the man come to take me away? Why do they
follow me? It's not the future that I can see, It's just my fantasy, yeah!
Ooh, who can it be now?Who can it be now? Who can it be now? Who can it be
now? Who can it be now? (Oh, wee oh) Who can it, Who can it. (Ooh ooh) Who
can it be now? (Ooh ooh wee) Yeah yeah yeah!
I'm Not the
Marrying Kind - Dean Martin (youtube) - I go my way alone free and
easy like a rolling stone, I am strictly on my own not the marrying kind,
I'm happy being free no girl gonna put a ring on me, It's always gotta be
I'm not the marrying kind. I've been known to run a mile when they try to
lead me down the aisle, So if you want me to stay a while don't start
changing my style, It's always been my plan to stay single any way I can,
I'm just a happy man, I'm not the marrying kind, I'm not the marrying
kind, It's always been my plan, Not the marrying kind, I'm not the
marrying kind, (Not the marrying not the marrying not the marrying kind).
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Relationships -
Solitary Confinement
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Over
Isolated -
People who have lived
Alone in Isolation -
Self-Management (Sovereignty) -
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Inner Monologue
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Brain
Plasticity -
Praise -
Punishment -
Assessments can be Flawed -
Awareness -
Phobias
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Personality -
Identity -
It can't be just about you?