Confidence is feeling sure that events will be favorable because of your past experiences and because of your training and your level of knowledge. Confidence is thinking positive without having an ego and without being arrogant. Confidence is more than just relying on hope and inspiration, confidence is a state of being clear-headed about a hypothesis or about a prediction that is believed to be correct, and that a chosen course of action is the best one, or the most effective one. Grounded - Brave - Not Confident - Over Confident.

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Self-Confidence is self-assurance in one's personal judgment, ability and power. A person increases self-confidence from having many experiences from mastering a particular activity. It is a positive belief that in the future one can generally accomplish what one wishes to do. Self-confidence is not the same as self-esteem, which is an evaluation of one’s own worth, whereas self-confidence is more specifically trust in one’s ability to achieve some goal, which one meta-analysis suggested is similar to generalization of self-efficacy.

Self- Efficacy is the extent or strength of one's belief in one's own ability to complete tasks and reach goals. Seen as the ability to persist and a person's ability to succeed with a task. As an example, self-efficacy directly relates to how long someone will stick to a workout regimen or a diet. High and low self-efficacy determine whether or not someone will choose to take on a challenging task or "write it off" as impossible. Self-efficacy affects every area of human endeavor. By determining the beliefs a person holds regarding his or her power to affect situations, it strongly influences both the power a person actually has to face challenges competently and the choices a person is most likely to make. These effects are particularly apparent, and compelling, with regard to behaviors affecting health.

Self-Esteem is an individual's overall subjective emotional evaluation or judgment of his or her own worth. It is the decision made by an individual as an attitude towards the self. Self-esteem encompasses beliefs about oneself, as well as emotional states, such as triumph, despair, pride, and shame. The positive or negative evaluations of the self, as in how we feel about it.

Low Self-Esteem - Self Conscious - Disinhibition - Punishment

Self-Handicapping is a cognitive strategy by which people avoid effort in the hopes of keeping potential failure from hurting self-esteem.

Handicapping in sport and games is the practice of assigning advantage through scoring compensation or other advantage given to different contestants to equalize the chances of winning.

Sure of Yourself is when you are very confident of one's own abilities or views.

Don't Sell Yourself Short means to never underestimate, undervalue or underappreciate the good qualities of someone, something, or oneself.

Know your Baseline - Self-Verification

Believe In Yourself. Don't ever lose faith in the most important person in the world, which is you. It's normal to have some doubt sometimes, and you may have your concerns, and you may even be unsure about yourself at times, but the one thing that you will always have, is your potential, because you will never lose your potential. So the question is, how do you want to use your potential? You want to be brave, and you want to be strong, but you still don't want to do something stupid. So think, but don't over think it, just think about it carefully. Your potential is your power, so you have to use your power wisely, and don't ever forget that you have power. So always remember your power, and remember that you can't do everything, you can't control everything, you can't know everything, you can't be aware of everything, and you can't have everything, but you can learn almost anything, just as long as you want to learn, because learning is not automatic.

Believing in yourself and your abilities is easy when you have proven to yourself to be effective and efficient in the past many times before, and that you have also been reliable more than once. But trying something new will always be challenging. But with practice and with the right guidance, you really can do almost anything. You will still sometimes have your doubts, and you will still feel fear at times, but when you have studied and planned for a particular moment, and when you know that nothing will ever be perfect, and you know that mistakes are just learning moments, so you got this. You're up for the challenge and you are prepared for almost any setback that may come your way. So whatever you want to do, just believe in yourself and trust yourself, and don't forget to love yourself.

Optimism is looking on the bright side of things and staying positive that things will turn out good and eventually get better as long as you keep trying and don't give up. Optimism is the opposite of pessimism which is when people constantly complain about problems and see everything as being negative, bad and wrong, so much that they stop enjoying life, stop trying and become angry or depressed. An optimist will look for ways to solve problems, while a pessimist will mostly just complain about problems and focus mostly on all the bad things while ignoring all the good things they can be doing. Plan for the worst but don't assume the worst. Plan for the best but don't assume the best. Plan like you will live forever, and write as if it were your last day.

Learned Optimism is the idea in positive psychology that a talent for joy, like any other, can be cultivated. It is contrasted with learned helplessness. Learning optimism is done by consciously challenging any negative self talk.

I would rather be an optimist and be wrong than a pessimist and be right. This is not to say that I would ignore warning signs of impending danger, it's just that I would not dwell on my circumstance. I would rather keep honoring my life and appreciating the gift of life. Fearing death is illogical. We all die, but not everyone lives.

Faith is having complete confidence in a person or a plan, while understanding that there's not always a 100% guarantee.

Auspicious is strongly indicating a successful result or favorable circumstances and good luck.

Confidence will not make you great or make you better or make you more skilled, only training and learning will make you better and more skilled, and you also have to understand the limits of physics, the human body and the mind. Having confidence is good, and having confidence will always be better than having no confidence, but confidence will never be more important than knowledge and experience. Be confident in knowing what you have learned, and not just what you think you can do. Know what you can do, and have confidence in that knowledge with no regrets, and never stop learning.

Is a glass with water half full or half empty, or is it just a glass with a certain amount of water in it? It's Relative.

Assertiveness is the quality of being self-assured and confident without being aggressive. In the field of psychology and psychotherapy, it is a learnable skill and mode of communication. Being assertive means being able to stand up for your own or other people's rights in a calm and positive way, without being either aggressive, or passively accepting 'wrong'.

Modesty - Self Effacing - Self-Manage - Responsibilities - Optimist - Pessimist

Pride is having self-respect and recognizing your own personal worth. Pride is feeling good about yourself because you know that you did your best and that you are happy with the choices and actions that you have taken, even when knowing you made a few mistakes. You can also feel this pride for other people. You can be proud to have known someone, or you can be proud of certain people because you know how important they are, especially when you understand how much they had to endure. Pride is a positive emotional response or attitude to something with an intimate connection to oneself, due to its perceived value. This may be one's own abilities or achievements, positive characteristics of friends or family, or one's country. Not Conceded.

False Pride is when you have a foolish and irrational corrupt sense of one's personal value. You have an exaggerated sense of self-importance or you over exaggerate how important you are because of your status or because of your accomplishments. You have arrogance with a condescending attitude. Foolish Pride.

Vulnerabilities - Being too Confident

Vulnerability is being susceptible to injury, criticism, persuasion or temptation. It's being sensitive and easily impressed or hurt emotionally. Likely to fail under stress or pressure and lacking abilities that would help you to defend yourself physically or mentally from an attack, so as to avoid being wounded or hurt. Vulnerability is also the inability of a system or a unit to withstand the effects of a hostile environment and not able to adapt. A window of vulnerability is a time frame within which defensive measures are diminished, compromised or lacking. Vulnerable because of incompetence, inactions or weakness that creates more risk.

Susceptible is when you are easily influenced, harmed or affected by things that should not affect you.

Fragile is something that can be easily broken, damaged or destroyed. Something that is vulnerably delicate. Fragility is the lack of physical strength.

Though life is resilient in many ways, life is still fragile in many ways. Extinctions.

Achilles' Heel is a weakness in spite of overall strength, which can lead to downfall. While the mythological origin refers to a physical vulnerability, idiomatic references to other attributes or qualities that can lead to downfall are common. Feeling invincible can be risky.

Paper Tiger refers to something that appears to be powerful or someone who claims to be powerful or threatening, but is actually lacking strength and unable to withstand the challenge.

Paper Hands means that you will exit your position and fold early because the heat of the situation is too much for you to handle.

Undetected vulnerabilities of computer systems. The term "zero-day" refers to the fact that the vendor or developer has only just learned of the flaw – which means they have “zero days” to fix it. A zero-day attack takes place when hackers exploit the flaw before developers have a chance to address it. Zero-day is sometimes written as 0-day.

The only accurate way to know if things are good, bad, wrong or right is by measuring the pros and cons. Your feelings or your beliefs are not an accurate measurement of reality. Self-Confidence could be misunderstood as being egotistic, self-centered or just being full of yourself or having a dysfunctional pride. And understanding ones abilities is not a guarantee that your abilities will bring you success. And just thinking things will have a favorable outcome is not always beneficial. Pretending to know things can be dangerous. This also applies to courage, bravery and being fearless. And just trying psych yourself up is not necessarily going to make you more aware or more capable. But you also don't want fear to paralyze you into not taking actions. Knowing your capabilities is better then having faith in your abilities. Knowing you are capable of many things is better then just believing that you are capable of many things. All you can say is that, "I am capable of many things and I understand my abilities, and based on my past experiences, and looking at all the data and information, I can calculate that the odds are in my favor for this particular task that I am about to perform. I know that there is no guarantee of success and that accidents do happen, but I understand the risk and I understand that mistakes are a part of learning. I also know that emotions of any kind are a distraction and will only interfere with my Focs and awareness". So in order to have any type of confidence, you first must have an accurate way of measuring your abilities. And not just by comparing your abilities to others, but by validating the accuracy of your testing methods, and by knowing that your measurements are up to date. Optimism, confidence, self-esteem, beliefs, positivism or having self-confidence are all irrelevant. Having confidence could give you a false sense of security. Same thing for depression or happiness, or self doubt, which are also irrelevant and not an accurate measurement of reality or awareness.

Being Vulnerable is when something happens at the right time and in the right place, and you're not in a good mood or in the wrong state of mind, or you're not fully aware of all the facts of the situation, that's when you may over react or make a big mistake, a mistake that hurts innocent people and yourself. This is the vulnerability that comes from not having enough knowledge and information. You should always be learning. Learning needs to be one of the things you do everyday like eating and sleeping. And you should always have milestones so that you can see how much you have progressed and how far you still need to go. Why did past civilizations fail?

Soft Target is a person, thing or location that is relatively unprotected or vulnerable, especially to military or terrorist attack. Alternatively, a highly defended target is referred to as hard target.

Caught Off Guard is to surprise someone or to find someone unprepared.

Confidence or the lack of confidence can both have their share of vulnerabilities. You can be over confident and jump to a conclusion or over react and make a bad decision. Or you can be hesitant and not react quick enough. Either way, it's best to look at the facts and try not to totally rely on just your past experiences, because something's can happen that you never expected to happen, all because you never so it happen before. It's better to be safe than sorry or it's wiser to be cautious and careful than to be hasty or rash and then end up doing something that you may later regret. It's hard to plan for every possible scenario, but you should at least know about the most likely scenarios that could happen. Risk Assessment (precautionary measures). How the Body can Affect your Thinking.

Some things are part of the cure and part of the disease at the same time. Biases - Sensitivity - Two Sides to a Coin - Hacking.

Don't be fooled by people who say that some things have gotten better and that some things have improved. Though something's have improved on some level, it's never the whole story. This is not to say that we should ignore these improvements, because it's good to know what works and what doesn't work, because we can learn things that may help us solve other problems. There are many things that don't work in our world, and millions of people are dying as a result. So Knowing what works is good, as long as it doesn't distract us from improving the things that don't work, because they needs more attention.

Too Much Confidence can be Problematic

Overconfidence is when we tend to overestimate our capabilities and skills and as a result we tend to take greater risks in our daily lives. In this bias we feel convinced and confident that we are right irrespective of truth.

Wishful Thinking is the formation of beliefs and making decisions according to what might be pleasing to imagine instead of by appealing to evidence, rationality, or reality. It is a product of resolving conflicts between belief and desire.

Magical Thinking actions and events which seemingly cannot be justified by reason and observation.

Invincible is a feeling that you're too powerful to be defeated or overcome or incapable of being subdued or injured. Above the Law. Feeling Invincible is associated with risky behavior.

False Sense of Security is having the illusion of safety and security in a situation that actually poses risks or dangers. The belief that some situation is safer than it actually is. You can't be aware of everything or do everything, so choose wisely.

Pretending to Know - Dunning Kruger Effect - Feeling Immortal - Disinhibition - Blind Optimism - PassivePower - Egotistic - False Pride - Bully

Self Diluting or Diluting Yourself is to believe something that is not true. To be dishonest about your true nature, your abilities or your feelings. Wishful Thinking.

Throw Caution to the Wind is to do something without worrying about the risk or negative results. To behave or speak in a hasty and foolhardy manner. Vulnerable.

Downplaying is ignoring the risk and the facts to give a false appearance that something is less threatening than it really is. To make something appear less important than it really is because of ignorance or criminal malice or negligence.

Cocky is being overly self-confident or self-assertive, sometimes to taunt or showoff.

Brag is an instance of boastful talk. To show off. Bragging is to speak with excessive pride and self-satisfaction about one’s achievements, possessions, or abilities. A perversion of confidence that turns into shameful boasting.

Boast is speaking of oneself in a positive way with too much pride or self-indulgence. Showing off.

Showing Off is when someone deliberately behaves in such a way as to attract attention. Display proudly and act ostentatiously or pretentiously. Showing excessive pride and self-satisfaction in one's achievements, possessions, or abilities. Exhibiting self-importance.

Razamataz is a noisy and exciting activity meant to attract attention. To improve something through subtle or mysterious ways. To add spices and other ingredients to improve the taste and quality of a substandard food item.

Razzle-Dazzle is a noisy, showy, and exciting activity and display designed to attract and impress.

Bluff - Gross - Extravagance

Conspicuously is the tendency to attract attention.

Flaunt is behavior that is intended to attract notice and impress others. Making an undeserved claim of importance or distinction.

Taunting in Sports - Criticizing others does not make you look better. Revenge is ignorant.

Bravado is a show of bravery or defiance, often in order to make a false impression or mislead someone. A swaggering show of courage.

False Bravado is showing courage when in fact you are afraid. Tending to deceive or mislead people by pretending not be be afraid, sometimes using just your body language.

Ego out of Control - Fame Dangers - Conformity - Do you think that you Know Enough?

Self Deluding is deceiving oneself and allowing yourself to believe something that is not true. Failure to recognize reality.

We want to trust people, but we don't want to be gullible, naive, passive or delusional.

Pretentious is making claim to or creating an appearance that is often undeserved importance or distinction. Intended to attract notice and impress others. False Advertising - Sexually Attractive Clothing.

Swagger is a person's manner of walking with a lofty pride in an attempt to impress others. Act in an arrogant, overly self-assured, or conceited manner. A proud stiff pompous gait. Very chic. Puffed up with vanity. Body Image.

Audacious is being invulnerable to fear or intimidation. Unrestrained by convention or propriety. Disposed to venture or take risks.

Go Big or Go Home is to persuade someone to go all-out and to put all of one's effort into an action, or to experience something to its fullest, or to be extravagant. Go big or go home is a philosophy that encourages one to be bold. The phrase is said to have originated as a sales slogan in the 1990s.

Overcompensating for your Insecurities. Doing things that make no sense that are also extremely illogical. Having the opposite effect. Inwardly insecure people try to make themselves feel good and big by trying to make you feel bad and small. Nothing announces an inferiority complex like the bugle of self-promotion.

Watching others can make people overconfident in their own abilities.

Coercing is to pressure someone, by physical, moral or intellectual means. Coercion.

Optimism Bias is a cognitive bias that causes a person to believe that they are less at risk of experiencing a negative event compared to others. Risk - Vulnerabilities.

Cognitive Bias is a systematic pattern of deviation from norm or rationality in judgment.

Memory Bias is a cognitive bias that either enhances or impairs the recall of a memory.

Recall Bias is a systematic error caused by differences in the accuracy or completeness of the recollections retrieved ("recalled") regarding events or experiences from the past.

Overconfidence Effect bias in which a person's subjective confidence in his or her judgments is reliably greater than the objective accuracy of those judgments, especially when confidence is relatively high.

Confidence Trick (ponzi scams) - Media Literacy

Superiority Complex is a psychological defense mechanism in which a person's feelings of superiority counter or conceal his or her feelings of inferiority. Condescension.

Illusory Superiority is a condition of cognitive bias whereby a person overestimates their own qualities and abilities, in relation to the same qualities and abilities of other persons.

Impostor Syndrome describes people who are unable to internalize their accomplishments. Despite external evidence of their competence, those exhibiting the syndrome remain convinced that they are frauds and do not deserve the success they have achieved. Proof of success is dismissed as luck, timing, or as a result of deceiving others into thinking they are more intelligent and competent than they believe themselves to be. Notably, impostor syndrome is particularly common among high-achieving women, although some studies indicate that both genders may be affected in equal numbers.

Being Positive is not supposed to be about lying to yourself or about lying to other people. Be positive but don't let positivity manipulate reality or distort the truth, like what some people do when they recount certain moments in history.

Toxic Positivity is the culture of portraying yourself as being happy no matter what. You're basically switched off to anything which might be viewed as negative. It's also the idea of encouraging people to always see the bright side, and not open up about anything bad.

Rose-Colored Glasses is perceiving something in a positive way a lot more than it actually is. Over exaggerating the good while downplaying the bad.

Rosy Retrospection is the tendency to view past events in a positive often unrealistic light. A biased perspective that judges the past disproportionately more positively than the present.

Believing the Future will be Favorable may Prevent Action. Belief in a favorable future may diminish the likelihood that people will take action to ensure that the favorable future becomes reality.

Pollyanna Principle is the tendency for people to remember pleasant items more accurately than unpleasant ones. Pollyanna is an excessively cheerful or optimistic person.

Positivity Effect is the ability to constructively analyze a situation where the desired results are not achieved; but still obtain positive feedback that assists our future progression.

Barnum Effect is a common psychological phenomenon whereby individuals give high accuracy ratings to descriptions of their personality that supposedly are tailored specifically to them, but are in fact vague and general enough to apply to a wide range of people.

Why do teenagers think that they are invincible? Probably because they survived being a child for the first 12 years of their life. Being a teenager is just a continuation of your childhood. As a child you get injured more often because you are experimenting with your physical abilities and just starting to understand your limitations. Surviving a crazy stunt can create excitement and exhilaration, which could encourage someone to explore their capabilities even more, even when they know there is a risk. Don't push your limits without extensive training and planning. Reach your goal safely.

Don't Over Do It. I live on the edge so I can see how far I will fall. Living on the edge or pushing my luck doesn't discourage me, or does it remind me of how reckless I'm living, I live on the edge to feel alive. But feeling alive shouldn't kill you or hurt you. So I need to learn how to live on the edge some other way, one that says that I'm still alive, and one that says that I would like to stay alive as long as possible. The only way that I can fail is when I don't respect the edge. The edge is my friend, but we can't hang out all the time. We both need our space. We both need balance.

Don't Push Your Luck is to take a risk on the assumption that one will continue to be successful or in favor.

To the Edge Seekers. I live on the edge so you don't have to. The edge is a dangerous place and not for the faint of heart. I would rather tell you about my experience on the edge, because most of these trips to the edge are not necessary or worth it. But if you did find yourself on the edge, I would ask you to be very careful. But I would never tell you to leave or would I discourage you. I would just ask you to let me go first, just incase I fail, you don't have to.

Bravery - Courage - Heroism

Brave is being able to face danger, pain or fear, even when knowing there are great risks and consequences. It's staying calm and strong and resilient when in difficult situations.

Hero is someone who faces danger, combats adversity through impressive feats of ingenuity, bravery or strength, often sacrificing his or her own personal concerns for some greater good.

Heroic is showing extreme courage, especially of actions courageously undertaken in desperation as a last resort. Having or displaying qualities appropriate for heroes and superhero's. Of behavior that is impressive and ambitious in scale or scope. Very imposing or impressive; surpassing the ordinary in size or scale. Relating to or characteristic of heroes of antiquity.

Heroism is the qualities of a hero or heroine who has exceptional or heroic courage when facing danger. Heroism is having traits that consist of bravery, moral integrity, conviction, courageous, self-sacrifice, protecting, honest, selfless, determined, saves others, inspiring, and helpful, as well as being wise, strong, resilient, reliable, charismatic, caring, selfless, and inspiring.

Fortitude is strength of mind that enables one to endure adversity with courage. The ability to confront fear, uncertainty, and intimidation.

Courage is the mental and physical strength that enables you to face danger or pain without fear or regret. Courage is the choice and willingness to confront agony, pain, danger, uncertainty, or intimidation. Valour is courage or bravery, especially in battle. Physical courage is bravery in the face of physical pain, hardship, even death or threat of death, while moral courage is the ability to act rightly in the face of popular opposition, shame, scandal, discouragement, or personal loss. The classical virtue of fortitude (andreia, fortitudo) is also translated "courage", but includes the aspects of perseverance and patience.

Patriotic - Duty - Risk Taking - Adaptation - Self Managing - Fight or Flight - Awaken the Giant

Bold is being fearless and daring. Being clear and distinct and lacking restraint or modesty.

Have the Guts is to have enough courage, conviction, or resolve to do something. Do you have the stomach for it?

Dogged is being stubbornly persisting and refusing to give up. Having tenacity or determination.

Intrepid is being invulnerable to fear or intimidation. Being fearless and adventurous.

Bravery doesn't have to be all or nothing, you can actually plan ahead, way ahead.

Eye of the Tiger is a phrase that means someone is focused, confident, and has the look of being intense, somewhat cold, but very fierce with a never say die attitude. The phrase refers to what the tiger's prey last sees prior to being killed. It's a reference to impending death of the prey. When a tiger 'goes in for the kill', it turns it's ears backwards, showing the spot on the back of each ear, i.e. the 'tiger's eyes.

The Captain of the Gate: "To every man upon this earth, Death cometh soon or late. And how can man die better, Than facing fearful odds, For the ashes of his fathers, And the temples of his gods. Lays of Ancient Rome.

"Fortune Favors the Brave" "Fortune Follows the Brave" "Fortune Favours the Bold" "Fortune is the Companion of Virtue". Fortis Fortuna Adiuvat means fortune favors the strong. Who Dares Wins. The Latin phrase Fortuna Eruditis Favet "Fortune Favours the Prepared Mind" In the fields of observation, "Chance Favours only the Prepared Mind".

God Helps Those Who Help Themselves is a motto that emphasizes the importance of self-initiative and agency.

Bellerophon is a mythical hero of Corinth in Greek mythology. He was "the greatest hero and slayer of monsters, alongside Cadmus and Perseus, before the days of Heracles", and his greatest feat was killing the Chimera, a monster that Homer depicted with a lion's head, a goat's body, and a serpent's tail: "her breath came out in terrible blasts of burning flame." He is also known for capturing the winged horse Pegasus with the help of Athena’s charmed bridle, and earning the disfavor of the gods after attempting to ride Pegasus to Mount Olympus to join them.

Martyr is someone who voluntarily suffers death as the penalty for the sake of principle. Someone that suffers persecution and death for advocating change and progress, and sometimes killed because they lived their life outside the unfair restrictions of a religion. Martyrs are considered to be holy or are respected by their followers, becoming symbols of exceptional leadership and heroism in the face of difficult circumstances. A martyr is a relational figure of a society's boundary work that is produced by collective memory. The word martyr original meaning was the word witness and one who brings a testimony.

My Hero - Foo Fighters (youtube) - There goes my hero, Watch him as he goes, There goes my hero, He's ordinary.

Larger than Life is a person who attracts a lot of attention because they are more exciting or interesting than most people. Having an extraordinary personality or some other distinguishing feature that sets him or her apart from others.

“Be not afraid of greatness. Some are born great, some achieve greatness, and others have greatness thrust upon them.” ― William Shakespeare, Twelfth Night.

Savior is a person who rescues someone from harm or from danger. A person who saves someone or something or saves a country or a cause from danger. A savior is regarded with veneration. Saviors often feel driven to save others because they believe no one else can.

Omnipotence is the quality of having unlimited or very great power.

Messiah Complex is a state of mind in which an individual holds a belief that they are destined to become a savior today or in the near future. The term can also refer to a state of mind in which an individual believes that they are responsible for saving or assisting others. Messiah Complex is also known as Christ complex or savior complex.

White Knight Syndrome describes a need to save people by fixing their problems. You believe helping others is your purpose and you only feel good about yourself when you're helping someone. But you may expend so much energy trying to fix others that you end up burning out. Being a White Knight you expect nothing in return for your good deeds. You are one of the true givers of the world. You are the anonymous philanthropist who shares your wealth, your time and your life with others. To give, is its own reward and as a White Knight you seek no other.

Staying Calm and in Control

Cool, Calm, and Collected is to be in control of one's feelings and not easily distracted or influence by ignorant behavior, especially when under pressure or being threatened. Being cool as a cucumber. Calm - Conflict Avoidance.

Poised is being in full control of your cognitive or perceptual powers and marked by balance or equilibrium and readiness for action.

Resilient is able to withstand or recover quickly from difficult conditions. Able to adapt and have the will power to continue.

Composure is a steadiness of mind under stress. The state of being calm and in control of oneself. Repose or the absence of mental stress or anxiety.

Composed is free from agitation especially in times of stress. Not the same as Passive.

Level-Headed is to be calm and sensible and able to stay reasonable and rationale during times of stress or conflict. Stays balanced and composed even in difficult situations. Not overly reactive. Confident.

Grounded is to be centered and balanced no matter what's going on around you. To be sensible, stable, realistic, reasonable, confident and sure of oneself. Being grounded means that you have a strong connection with who you are. You understand the importance of physical balance and emotional balance and being present in your body, while staying connected with the earth. Electrically Grounded.

Placid is when you're not easily irritated and you're good-tempered and tranquil and not agitated to a point where you lose self-control. Placid also means a body of water that is free from disturbance by heavy waves.

Calm is a peaceful and restful state that is free of noise and free from disturbances. Having self-control and steadiness of mind under stress. Not Agitated.

Calmness is the mental state of peace of mind being free from agitation, excitement, or disturbance. It also refers being in a state of serenity, tranquility, or peace. Calmness can most easily occur for the average person during a state of relaxation, but it can also be found during much more alert and aware states. Some people find that focusing the mind on something external, or even internal, such as the breathing, can itself be very calming.

Keep Calm and Carry On is a motivational poster produced by the British government in 1939 in preparation for World War II. The poster was intended to raise the morale of the British public, threatened with widely predicted mass air attacks on major cities. Calm Clinic.

Repose is freedom from activity, work, strain or responsibility. The absence of mental stress or anxiety. Lean in a comfortable resting position. Put in a horizontal position or to lie down when dead.

Equanimity is having mental calmness, composure, and evenness of temper, especially in a difficult situation. Equanimity is a state of psychological stability and composure which is undisturbed by experience of or exposure to emotions, pain, or other phenomena that may cause others to lose the balance of their mind.

Mental Toughness comes from learning and acquiring the most valuable knowledge and information that the world has to offer so that you can overcome almost every obstacle in life.

Resilience - Patience - Emotional Intelligence

Hardiness is the ability to remain healthy under life stress. A commitment or a tendency to involve oneself in activities in life and to have a genuine interest in and curiosity about the surrounding world (activities, things, other people). A tendency to believe and act as if one can influence the events taking place around oneself through one's own efforts. The belief that change, rather than stability, is the normal mode of life and constitutes motivating opportunities for personal growth rather than threats to security.

Exercising Self-Control and will power and constraint should feel good, and you should feel grateful that you have this power. You should not feel guilty or shameful when you lose your control at certain moments. It usually means that you let your guard down in some way. But as long as that you are aware of these lapses and can list the reasons why you did not exercise your self-control at that time, then eventually you will learn the mechanisms of self-control and you will also be aware of your vulnerabilities. You will feel thrilled and happy about yourself when you enforce your self-control. It's a beautiful feeling.

Serious is being concerned with important matters rather than play or trivialities. Requiring effort and concentration in order to understand complex and not easy to answer problems that can be of great consequence if not taken seriously.

Keep Your Eyes on the Prize is to remain focused on achieving a positive end result, without being distracted by problems or setbacks.

Strong Willed is being in control of your feelings and emotions and not succumbing to stress or not being distracted by intense situations. A strong willed person is sure of themself and they do not mind taking matters into their own hands and doing things on their own. They trust their instincts and follow their own voice and speak up for themselves when needed. A strong willed person loves challenges and can solve problems on their own. If they need help, they will openly ask for help without hesitating. And if they do ask or help, this means they really need help, which is usually the last thing they will do after using all other possible alternatives. They like to analysis things and they always try to put the pieces together in their mind to make sense of what is going on without making assumptions. They can be incredibly imaginative and creative and can come up with extraordinary ideas. They don't fear questioning the norm or questioning the rules, and they can’t follow anything blindly until they can experiment for themselves or are satisfied with the idea or the story behind it. They refuse to be taken for granted and have a more logical and experimental kind of mind. If they want to say something, they usually do. But they are always conscious of the right place and time to speak and speak up or speak their mind only after they have gathered their thoughts. They don’t waste time and energy on the subjects they feel are irrational, so their silence can sometimes speak much louder than words. They are passionate about the things they love and are neither afraid of challenges or afraid of difficulties. They are thoughtful and they are persistent in reaching their goals and continuing on their chosen path. Strong willed people usually don't fit into the usual stereotypical roles. They are loyal and faithful and care about the people they love and are not afraid to come forward to help others, especially for the better of society. They are not the ones who leave someone in times of difficulties or during the ups and downs of life. They will never try to hurt someone and they will avoid lying or cheating. They value freedom and they like to work freely and independently and seldom need reassurance. They are comfortable with themselves and can take care of their own tasks. They consistently push themselves and test themselves and they always make an effort to improve themselves because they know they can do better, so they don’t give up too easily, instead they learn from mistakes and mishaps and move on and progress. Be professional and joyful. Not all incentives have to be about money.

Invincible - Resilient - Focused - Defending Yourself - Never Gave Up (image)

Nerves of Steel means that you're extremely confident and you are not easily distracted, and that you never worry about failing, so you hardly ever feel nervous or afraid.

Strong Minded is to have strong belief in your ideas and thoughts that helps to control what you say or do.

Strong Headed is being bossy, headstrong, aggressively self-assured and demanding without being stubborn.

Strong is having strength or power greater than average or expected. Not faint or feeble. Having or wielding force or authority. Immune to attack; incapable of being tampered with. Of good quality and condition; solidly built. With more than adequate force or sureness. 

Get Your Shine On is to keep on shining or excelling and being a good person, and exceed the expectations of one's peers in a public setting.

Lacking Confidence can be Problematic

Insecure is lacking self-confidence or assurance or lacking in security or safety. Not firm or firmly fixed and likely to fail or give way.

Indecisive - Self Doubt - Pessimism - Vulnerabilities - Passive - Gullible
Emotional Insecurity is a feeling of general unease or nervousness that may be triggered by perceiving of oneself to be vulnerable or inferior  in some way, or a sense of vulnerability or instability which threatens one's self-image or ego.

Choking Under Pressure happens when someone doubts their abilities and skills to a point where they are overwhelmed by anxiety that distracts them from accomplishing a task that they have successfully performed before. A person chokes because worrying caused them to lose focus and to lose faith in their abilities.

Loss of Confidence is not having enough trust or faith in yourself or in your abilities, or faith in someone else and their abilities.

Nervous is having anxiety and worrying about something that you will be doing in the near future. Usually it's having a little fear or hesitation or being anxious in anticipation about an experience that you will be having. And because you lack some experience and some knowledge, you tend to think about all the things that could go wrong, instead of focusing on your abilities. It's good to examine the details of your actions, and also be prepared for different scenarios or problems that could come up, but you should not let your thinking and your planning be clouded by your emotions. Feeling nervous does not mean that you have to stop thinking or stop planning. Butterfly's are normal, so it's not that unusual, just keep reminding yourself that the butterfly's are just feelings, and they're not your intuition, so they are not allowed to distract you from the knowledge that you have or distract you from the experiences that you will have. Your are in control, and if something does happen, just learn from it and then move on. Things will seldom be perfect, but you can react perfectly if you don't get distracted. Smile, you're in control.

Thinking Positive is good, but positive thinking alone will not increase your chances. A perfectly executed move still needs skills and a lot of training and learning. 

Sports Wisdom - Adventure Sayings - Stress Management

Could a person have a false sense of insecurity? Could a person have a gut feeling or intuition that is misinterpreted? Everyone has embarrassing moments in their life and everyone makes mistakes and does stupid things every now and then. The most important thing is to learn from your mistakes and to stay focused on the future. Never look back to punish yourself for a stupid mistake. Only look back to remember what you have learned from your mistake and occasionally look back on your life for amusement and also to laugh at yourself. Live, Learn, Love and Progress.

Emotional Security is the measure of the stability of an individual's emotional state.

Inferiority Complex is the lack of self-worth, a doubt and uncertainty about oneself, and feelings of not measuring up to standards. It is often subconscious, and is thought to drive afflicted individuals to overcompensate, resulting either in spectacular achievement or extremely asocial behavior. In modern literature, the preferred terminology is "lack of covert self-esteem". For many, it is developed through a combination of genetic personality characteristics and personal experience.

Inadequate is lacking the requisite qualities or resources to meet a task. Not sufficient to meet a need. Lack of an adequate quantity or number. A lack of competence.

Introvert - Shame - Abuse - Condescension

Low Self-Esteem is a lack of confidence and feeling badly about oneself. People with low self-esteem often feel unlovable, awkward, or incompetent. Low Self Confidence.

Reluctant is the unwillingness to do something contrary to your custom. Disinclined or not eager to become involved.

Self-Conscious is a feeling undue awareness of oneself, one's appearance, or one's actions. Having knowledge of one's own existence, especially the knowledge of oneself as a conscious being. No One is Perfect.

Self-Consciousness is a heightened sense of self-awareness. It is a preoccupation with oneself, as opposed to the philosophical state of self-awareness, which is the awareness that one exists as an individual being, though the two terms are commonly used interchangeably or synonymously. An unpleasant feeling of self-consciousness may occur when one realizes that one is being watched or observed, the feeling that "everyone is looking" at oneself. Some people are habitually more self-conscious than others. Unpleasant feelings of self-consciousness are sometimes associated with shyness or paranoia.

Self-Conscious Emotions such as guilt, shame, embarrassment, and pride, are emotions that relate to our sense of self and our consciousness of others' reactions to us.

Awkward is feeling socially uncomfortable and lacking grace or skill in manner or movement or performance. The inelegance of someone stiff and unrelaxed. Not elegant or graceful in expression. Unskillfulness resulting from a lack of training

Don't feel that you're not enough for anyone or for anything in this world. You are more than enough. But you have to understand why you are more than enough. If you feel that you are not doing enough or feel that you are not good enough, then you should define those things that you are doing, and list the things that you want to do. You can't do everything, but you can do is make the things that you do more valuable and more beneficial. When you do that, this is when you realize that you are good enough, because you now know what good enough is, which is you. Do what you can, but don't forget to learn what you can. In order to do good and be good, you have to know what good is.

Ambivalent is being uncertain or unable to decide about what course of action to follow.

Uncertain is the lack of confidence or assurance and still undecided about something that is unknown. Something that is not established beyond a doubt and not consistent or dependable, so it may be subject to change.

Unsure is not knowing what to do because of the lack of knowledge and information.

Reticent is to be reluctant to draw attention to yourself. Cool and formal in manner. Temperamentally disinclined or unwilling to talk because of mild dislike or disapproval.

Learned Helplessness is behavior exhibited by a subject after enduring repeated aversive stimuli beyond their control. Learned helplessness was initially thought to be caused from the subject's acceptance of their powerlessness: discontinuing attempts to escape or avoid the aversive stimulus, even when such alternatives are unambiguously presented. Upon exhibiting such behavior, the subject was said to have acquired learned helplessness. Over the past few decades, neuroscience has provided insight into learned helplessness and shown that the original theory actually had it backwards: the brain's default state is to assume that control is not present, and the presence of "helpfulness" is what is actually learned. In humans, learned helplessness is related to the concept of self-efficacy, the individual's belief in their innate ability to achieve goals. Learned helplessness theory is the view that clinical depression and related mental illnesses may result from such real or perceived absence of control over the outcome of a situation.

Docile is someone easily handled or managed and is willing to be taught, led, supervised or directed without question or understanding what they are being taught.

Timid is lacking self-confidence. Lacking conviction, boldness or courage. People who are fearful and cautious.

Sissy is a soft, timid, or oversensitive person, or a boy or man viewed as being overly interested in things traditionally associated with women. Sissified is someone weak, soft, or timid.

Chickened Out is to decide not to do something because one is afraid of making a mistake or afraid of being embarrassed or not confident enough in their abilities, or not doing something because it was not worth the risk. So you changed your mind at the last second because you were not sure, or maybe you had an intuition.

Coward is a person who shows fear or timidity.

Cowardice is a trait wherein excessive fear and excessive self-concern override doing or saying what is right, good, and of help to others or oneself in a time of need. It is the opposite of courage. As a label, "cowardice" indicates a failure of character in the face of a challenge. One who succumbs to cowardice is known as a coward.

Impostor Syndrome is a psychological pattern in which an individual doubts their accomplishments and has a persistent internalized fear of being exposed as a "fraud". Despite external evidence of their competence, those experiencing this phenomenon remain convinced that they are frauds, and do not deserve all they have achieved. Individuals with impostorism incorrectly attribute their success to luck, or as a result of deceiving others into thinking they are more intelligent than they perceive themselves to be. While early research focused on the prevalence among high-achieving women, impostor syndrome has been recognized to affect both men and women equally.

Fear of Not Doing Enough - Fear of Missing Out - Perfectionism

Why Me? Did I deserve this or is it that shit happens and I should just learn how to get over it or get through this? Don't victimize yourself or add to your stress.

Survivor Guilt is the guilt a person feels about staying alive while others have died, wondering why they lived while others did not. Sometimes feeling guilty about the things they failed to do or guilty about what they did do, such as scrambling over others to escape.

I can't be aware of everything and I can't be expected to know everything. All I can do is to keep learning and eventually be aware of more things, and eventually know more things. Be Cautious.

Pessimism is worrying or ruminating too much about undesirable things that might happen. Pessimists also tend to focus on the negatives of life and complain more about things than they do planning and problem solving. Pessimists tend to see more of the evil and hardships in life then they do seeing the good or seeing the luxuries of life. Pessimism is not that bad if it makes you aware of problems and makes you want to solve problems. But just being negative and worried will not prepare you for the future or solve any problems. Avoid having a fixed mindset.

Sullen is being bad-tempered with a disagreeable mood and depressingly dark or melancholy.

Fatalistic is the belief that all events are predetermined and therefore inevitable, or our destiny.

Fatalism is the belief that we are powerless to do anything to influence the future and no matter what we do the outcome will be the same. 

Fatalism is false, because if it were true, no one would be alive today, and that is a fact. We are alive because we did determine our future to some extent and we made good choices, not all good choices, but just enough good choices to stay alive and to progress. Being passive or ignorant or having misguided fear is a self inflicted death sentence, and not just for yourself, but for everything. There is a point to life and everything has a reason, but knowing this is not straight forward.

Cowards Die Many Times Before Their Death, but define coward? And kind of situation is it? What may seem like a cowardly act, may actually be genius. Can someone just say no? Or maybe it's just saying no at the wrong time? Damned if you do, Damned if you don't. What can you do except measure what you can and try to see the whole picture. Don't use labels, clearly explain exactly what you mean, because these words may be the most important words you ever speak.

Acceptance - Contentment - Complacent

There is danger in having satisfaction, acceptance or complacency. To be satisfied is like having a false sense of security. How can you be satisfied knowing there is something better? How can you be satisfied knowing that it's not an accurate measurement of reality? I'm not saying you can't enjoy life or be happy, I'm just say be cautious when feeling satisfied.

Nothing wrong with examining the possibilities of worst case scenarios, or anticipating undesirable outcomes, just as long as you don't worry or ruminate so much that you fail to ignore other possibilities, or stop trying or stop living. Think and act instead of crying and doing nothing.

"Just because you think it, doesn't make it true".

I Can't Get No Satisfaction (wiki).

Faint of Heart describes a person who is lacking courage, squeamish or unable to rise to the occasion.

Nervous Breakdown is an acute, time-limited, mental breakdown that manifests primarily as severe, stress-induced depression, anxiety, paranoia, or dissociation in a previously functional individual, to the extent that they are no longer able to function on a day-to-day basis until the disorder is resolved. A nervous breakdown is defined by its temporary nature and often closely tied to psychological burnout, severe overwork, sleep deprivation, and similar stressors, which may combine to temporarily overwhelm an individual with otherwise sound mental functions. A mental breakdown can last for hours at a time, to months at a time. While these time periods can vary between different people, their reactions to the mental breakdown may also vary.

Positive Thinking - Self-Smart - Accurately Calculate Worth or Value.

Inhibition - Assuming - Placebo - Boredom

Envy is when a person lacks another's superior quality, achievement, or possession and either desires it or wishes that the other lacked it.

Does Praising someone build Confidence?

Confidence is knowing your abilities and knowing how to use your abilities effectively and correctly. Confidence  is not just a state of mind, it is a learned skill.

You can't replace knowledge, information and experiences using just a few words like "You need more Confidence". People don't lack confidence, people lack knowledge, information and experiences. A person doesn't need to believe in themselves, a person needs to know themselves, and understand their abilities. To have freedom from doubt, or to trust, is dangerous.

Being self-conscious without fears is just awareness. And confidence without a conscience is the lacking of awareness.

"Ignorance is bliss until it hits you in the face" 

"Don't get caught with your pants down, or don't get caught unprepared, or get caught doing things that you shouldn't be doing"

"Having no fear is not without risk, you still need to be cautious and be responsible and be aware. Not being afraid does not excuse you from the risk or danger of reality, you still need to know your limits." Failure.

If I do fail, then I will only learn from that experience, and I will not let mistakes discourage me from future endeavors.

So what's the difference between faith and self-confidence? - Self-Discipline.

Socrates on Self-Confidence (youtube)

What are the differences between phobias, panic attack and fear? - Relaxation Techniques.

Does systematic desensitization or immersion therapy help to lessen fears? 

What are the differences between anxiety, nervous energy, worrying, insecurity and fear?

What is somatic experiencing?

What is post traumatic stress disorder?

What is eye movement desensitization and reprocessing?

Shyness - Introvert - Anxiety

What's the difference between pessimism and optimism

What's enthusiasm? - Inspiration - Goals.

What's the difference between pleasure and pain?

Brain - Interpersonal intelligence (self smart)

Yes things will be good and yes things will be bad. But the only way things will improve in the future will be by making lasting improvements today. Just saying things will be OK is not the same thing as doing things that will make improvements so that the odds of things being better will most likely increase. Good Intentions will always be better then no real intentions at all.

Pragmatism rejects the idea that the function of thought is to describe, represent, or mirror reality. Instead, pragmatists consider thought an instrument or tool for prediction, problem solving and action.

"It's illogical to be discouraged by the fear of failure. Scenarios are to be measured, they are not to be feared. Believing in failure or believing in success has no calculating factors or value, so they are useless in decision making, and they can also be very dangerous because they may cause you to make a wrong decision, a decision not based on reality or facts."

"Ordinary people can be capable of some extraordinary things. So you should never underestimate a persons abilities or a persons value because you never know how important that someone is until you give them a chance to explore their abilities. Incredible things happen when you least expect it, in ways that you have never imagined. There seems to be an extraordinary person in all of us, so you could say that ordinary people are just extraordinary people waiting for their chance to shine."

You have a great need for other people to like and admire you. You have a tendency to be critical of yourself. Your sexual adjustment has presented problems for you. Disciplined and self-controlled outside, you tend to be worrisome and insecure inside. At times you have serious doubts as to whether you have made the right decision or done the right thing. You prefer a certain amount of change and variety and become dissatisfied when hemmed in by restrictions and limitations. You pride yourself as an independent thinker and do not accept others' statements without satisfactory proof. You have found it unwise to be too frank in revealing yourself to others. At times you are extroverted, affable, sociable, while at other times you are introverted, wary, reserved. Some of your aspirations tend to be pretty unrealistic. Security is one of your major goals in life. You have a great deal of unused capacity which you have not turned to your advantage. While you have some personality weaknesses, you are generally able to compensate for them.

Don't let your insecurity get the best of you. Don't be insecure or lack self-confidence or assurance. Don't be totally dependent on another person for support. Don't be gullible or easily tricked because of being too trusting. Don't ever assume or jump to conclusions. Asking questions and learning is a lot easier than making costly mistakes. You should be self-confident and free from doubt, and always believe in yourself and your abilities. You should be independent and free from external control and constraint. You should be intelligent and show good judgment and have the capacity to reason.


Love is Like a Rock - Donnie Iris (youtube) - You can't depend on your teacher, You can't depend on your preacher, You can't depend on politicians, You can't depend on superstitions. Love can rock you, Never stop you, Ah, Ah, Ah, Ah, Love is like a rock. You can't rely on Mother Nature, You can't rely on your paychecks, You can't depend on your doctor, You can't depend on your lawyer. Love can rock you, Never stop you, Ah, Ah, Ah, Ah, Love is like a rock, Love can rock you, Never stop you, Ah, Ah, Ah, Ah, Love is like a rock.

Big - Fontaines D.C. (youtube) - My childhood was small, But I'm gonna be big.

"Two of the most important things to depend on is your ability to learn and your commitment to keep learning."

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