The main reason why improving education is so extremely
important is to stop people from turning into criminals and also to help
people to understand that abusing
people is damaging to everything.
need to be fully understood.
of a sexual nature, or
the unwelcome or inappropriate promise of rewards in exchange for sexual
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"Every man alive is here because of a women."
What is considered to be Sexual Harassment?
Things considered to sexual
includes a range of behaviors,
words or actions
that may appear relatively innocent (such as joking
, innuendoes, flirting
and asking someone on a date) to behavior which is blatantly illegal
(such as forced fondling, attempted or actual rape
and sexual assault)
can all constitute conduct of a sexual nature. Deliberate and/or repeated.
Direct or indirect threats
for unwanted sexual activity.
Sexual innuendos and comments.
Intrusive sexually explicit questions.
Sexually suggestive sounds or gestures such as sucking noises, winks, or
Repeatedly asking a person out for dates, or to have
, patting, punching, stroking, squeezing, tickling, or
brushing against a person.
A neck/shoulder massage.
person's sexuality.Ogling or leering
, staring at a woman's breast or a
man's derriere or buttocks.
about a person's sexuality.
Name-calling, such as bitch, whore, or slut.
Frequent jokes about sex or males/females.
Letters, notes, telephone
calls, or material of a sexual nature.
calendars, cartoons, or other materials with sexually explicit or graphic
Stalking a person.
Attempted or actual sexual assault
Actual or attempted rape or sexual assault.
Unwanted pressure for sexual favors.
Unwanted deliberate touching,
leaning over, cornering, or pinching.
Unwanted sexual looks or
Unwanted letters, telephone calls, or materials of a sexual
Unwanted pressure for dates.
Unwanted sexual teasing,
, remarks, or questions.
Referring to an adult as a girl, hunk,
doll, babe, or honey.
Whistling at someone.
Turning work discussions to sexual topics.
innuendos or stories.
Asking about sexual fantasies, preferences, or
Personal questions about social or sexual life.
comments about a person's clothing, anatomy, or looks.
howling, and smacking lips.
Telling lies or spreading rumors about a
person's personal sex life.
Touching an employee's
clothing, hair, or body.
Giving personal gifts.
Hanging around a
Hugging, kissing, patting, or stroking.
rubbing oneself sexually around another person.
Standing close or
brushing up against a person.
Looking a person up and down (elevator
Staring at someone.
Sexually suggestive signals.
expressions, winking, throwing kisses, or licking lips.
gestures with hands or through body movements.
Referring to an adult as
a girl, hunk, doll, babe, or honey.
Whistling at someone, cat calls.
Making sexual comments about a person's body.
Making sexual comments
Turning work discussions to sexual topics.
sexual jokes or stories.
Asking about sexual fantasies, preferences, or
Asking personal questions about social or sexual life.
Making kissing sounds, howling, and smacking lips.
comments about a person's clothing, anatomy, or looks.
asking out a person who is not interested.
Telling lies or spreading
rumors about a person's personal sex life.
Sexual Harassment is a
. It is defined as unwelcome behavior of a sexual nature. For
example, a man whistles at a woman when she walks by. Or a woman looks a
man up and down when he walks towards her.
Non -Verbal Harassment
Looking a person up and down (Elevator
eyes). Staring at someone
Blocking a person's path.
Following the person .
gestures with hands or through
expressions such as winking, throwing kisses, or licking lips.
is giving a massage
around the neck or shoulders Touching the person's clothing, hair, or body
Hugging, kissing, patting, or stroking Touching or rubbing oneself
sexually around another person Standing close or brushing up against
another person.Subtle Sexual Harassment
is a behavior but not a
. It is
unwelcome behavior of a sexual nature that if allowed to continue
could create a QUID PRO QUO and/or a Hostile Work Environment for the
recipient. For example, unwelcome sexual comments, jokes, innuendoes.
Quid Pro Quo Harassment
is when employment and/or employment decisions
for an employee are based on that employees
' acceptance or rejection
of unwelcome sexual behavior. For example, a supervisor fires an
employee because that employee will not go out with him or her.
Hostile Work Environment
is a work environment created by unwelcome sexual
behavior or behavior directed at an
because of that
employee's sex that is offensive, hostile and/or intimidating and that
adversely affects that employee's ability to do his or her job. For
example, pervasive unwelcome sexual comments or jokes that continue even
though the recipient has indicated that those behaviors are unwelcome.Sexism
attitude. It is an attitude of a person of one sex that he or she is
superior to a person of the other sex. For example, a man thinks that
women are too emotional. Or a woman thinks that men are chauvinists.
is a behavior. It
occurs when employment decisions are based on an employees sex or when an
employee is treated differently because of his or her sex. For example, a
female supervisor always asks the male employees, in a coed workplace, to
move the boxes of computer paper. Or, a male supervisor always asks the
female employees, in a coed workplace to plan office parties.
as physical contact and advances, sexually colored remarks,
and sexual demands, whether by words or actions. Such
conduct can be humiliating and may constitute a health and safety problem;
it is discriminatory when the woman has reasonable ground to believe that
her objection would disadvantage unwanted, improper or offensive;
unwelcome sexual advances, requests for sexual favors, and other verbal or
physical conduct of a sexual nature made either
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a Legal Defense
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subsidized legal support to those who have experienced sexual harassment,
assault, or abuse in the workplace.
type of sexual assault usually involving
or other forms
of sexual penetration perpetrated against a person without that person's
. The act may be
carried out by physical force, coercion, abuse of authority or against a
person who is incapable of giving valid consent, such as one who is
unconscious, incapacitated, has an intellectual disability or is below the
legal age of consent. The term rape is sometimes used interchangeably with
the term sexual assault.
are items used by medical personnel for
gathering and preserving physical evidence following an allegation of
sexual assault. The evidence collected from the victim can aid the
criminal rape investigation and the prosecution of a suspected assailant.
Rape Detection Kit
is sexual activity in which one of the
individuals is below the age required to legally consent to the behavior.
Although it usually refers to adults engaging in sex with minors under the
age of consent
a rapist who rapes more than one person over a period of time. Some serial
rapists target children. "Sexual predator", "Repeat Rape" and "Multiple
Offending" can also be used to describe the activities of those who commit
a number of consecutive rapes, but remain unprosecuted when self-reported
in research. Others will commit their assaults in prisons. In some
instances, a group of serial rapists will work together. These rapists can
have a pattern of behavior that is sometimes used to predict their
activities and aid in their arrest and conviction. Serial rapists also
differ from one time offenders because "serial rapists more often involved
kidnapping, verbally and physically threatening the victims, and using or
threatening the use of weapons
is a sexual act in which a person is coerced or
physically forced to engage against their will, or non-consensual sexual
touching of a person. Sexual assault is a form of sexual violence, and it
includes rape (such as forced vaginal, anal or oral penetration or drug
facilitated sexual assault), groping, child sexual abuse, or the torture
of the person in a sexual manner.
is behavior used to obtain sexual gratification against another’s will or
at the expense of another. Sexual misconduct includes sexual harassment,
sexual assault, sexual abuse, and any conduct of a sexual nature that is
without consent, or has the effect of threatening or intimidating the
person against whom such conduct is directed.
against a person or group on the basis of their sexual
orientation or sexual behavior. It usually refers to a predisposition
towards heterosexual people, which is
against lesbian, gay, bisexual, and asexual people, among
is a form of sexual exploitation that employs
non-physical forms of coercion to extort sexual favors from the victim.
Sextortion refers to the broad category of sexual exploitation in which
abuse of power is the means of coercion, as well as to the category of
sexual exploitation in which threatened release of sexual images or
information is the means of coercion
is slavery for the purpose of sexual exploitation.
Sexual slavery may involve single-owner sexual slavery; ritual slavery,
sometimes, associated with certain religious practices, such as ritual
servitude slavery for primarily non-sexual purposes but where
non-consensual sexual activity is common; or forced
defined as the perpetration or threat of an act of violence by at least
one member of an unmarried couple on the other member within the context
of dating or courtship. It is also when one partner tries to maintain
power and control over the other through abuse/violence. This
abuse/violence can take a number of forms: sexual assault, sexual
harassment, threats, physical violence, verbal, mental, or emotional
abuse, social sabotage, and stalking. It can include psychological abuse,
emotional blackmail, sexual abuse, physical abuse and psychological
(crimes) Intimate Partners Commit the Most
often harmful, social interaction with the
intention of inflicting damage
or other unpleasantness upon another
individual. It may occur either in retaliation or without provocation. In
humans, frustration due to blocked goals can cause aggression. Human
aggression can be classified into direct and indirect aggression, whilst
the first is characterized by physical or verbal behavior intended to
cause harm to someone, the second one is characterized by a behavior
intended to harm social relations of an individual or a group.
When Sex turns into a Criminal Act and Perversion
Date Rape Drug
is any drug that is an incapacitating agent
which, when administered to another person, incapacitates the person and
renders them vulnerable to a drug facilitated sexual assault (DFSA),
Alcohol and Sex
deals with the effects of the consumption of alcohol on sexual behavior.
The effects of alcohol are balanced between its suppressive effects on
sexual physiology, which will decrease sexual activity, and its
suppression of psychological inhibitions, which may increase the desire
for sex. Alcohol is a depressant. After consumption, alcohol causes the
body’s systems to slow down. Often, feelings of drunkenness are associated
with elation and happiness but other feelings of anger or depression can
arise. Balance, judgment, and coordination are also negatively affected.
One of the most significant short term side effects of alcohol is reduced
inhibition. Reduced inhibitions can lead to an increase in sexual
Sex and Drugs
both legal and illegal, have been linked
throughout human history, encompassing all aspects of sex: desire,
performance, pleasure, conception, gestation, and disease.
Alcohol effects my Legs
is feeling embarrassment
, dishonor, disgrace, inadequacy, humiliation, or
occurs when a person feels that they have violated a
Let's not and say we did
Violence Against Women Act
Sexual Violence Prevention Report
Things to remember that can
lessen your risk of being victimized.
Walk with purpose.
Keep your eyes up.
Know where the exits are.
Watch for suspicious
Avoid places that are known to be unsafe.
Don’t go places
Run errands during the day.
Don’t linger in isolated places.
Don’t be distracted.
Stay in well-lit areas.
Always be aware of your
Keep your keys in your hand, ready to go.
Medical Alert Device
Talk to some one on your cellphone if you suspect an attack.
Violence Against Women
U.N.’s International Day of Zero Tolerance for Female
(female genital cutting - female
Globally, it is estimated that at least 200 million
girls and women alive today have undergone some form of
Can A Bath Of Milk And Honey Replace Female Genital
is the hatred of, contempt for, or prejudice
against women or girls.
Bystander Intervention Programs
Jimmy Carter: Why I believe the mistreatment of women is the
number one human rights abuse
How online abuse of women has spiraled out of control: Ashley Judd
(video and text)
Statute of Limitations
is specifying the length of
time within which a claimant or prosecutor must file a
case. However, once a charge is filed, cases do not need
to be resolved within the period specified in the
statute of limitations. May be extended for a variety of
reasons (such as the minority of the victim)
Why do some men feel like that need to oppress or
Why do people feel that it's necessary
Dominance and Submission
is only supposed to be just a
fantasy for some people, not a reality.
should only happen when both people have agreed to
this behavior, and are both aware of the intentions, and the
is a type of marital union where the bride
and groom are selected by their families.
Thousands Of Young Women In U.S. are
Forced Into Marriage
Memory Banda: A warrior's cry against child marriage
legal help for immigrant women forced to
Guidance for Forced Marriage
Information and practice
guidelines for professionals protecting, advising and supporting
Un-Chained at Last
helping women leave or avoid
arranged/forced marriages and rebuild their lives.
7.5 Million Child Marriages a Year Globally
This year alone, 13.5 million girls under the age of 18 – that’s
37,000 daily – will marry. And almost one third of them will be
younger than 15. 750 million women and girls will have been
married as children by 2030.
Samburu Girls Foundation
Too Young to
is the trade of humans, most commonly for
the purpose of sexual slavery, forced labor, or commercial sexual
exploitation for the trafficker or others.
- Law Info
Banaz A Love Story. A film by Deeyah Khan ©Fuuse Films
Millions of African girls are becoming wives every year.
In Niger, about 75% of girls will become child brides
before they turn 18. In Chad and the Central African
Republic the figure is 68%.
Child Marriage Facts and Figures
More Power to Her: How Empowering Girls Can End Child
Voices: Samar Minallah Khan 2015
Lady Gaga Oscars Performance of "Til It Happens To You"
Lady Gaga 2016 Full Performance (youtube)
Even if it does happen to you, there is still
no guarantee that you'll experience the exact same thing
as someone else. Some people don't learn the same way as
everyone else, or experience things the same way as
Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls is a 1994
book written by Dr. Mary Pipher
Against the Harm Caused By Objectification of Women in
"If you liberate the mind and
spirit of those around you,
, you have
at least doubled your talent pool."
At Least A Third Of All Women Murdered In The U.S. Are Killed By
Up to 75% of abused women who are murdered are killed after they
leave their partners.
3 women are killed every day in America by a current or former
Each year 1.3 million women are victims of physical assault by
an intimate partner.
Each year about 4,000 women die because of domestic violence.
3 Women Are Killed Every Day By Their Partners
Here Are 59 Ideas On How To Stop The Violence
In the U.S. across the year 2008, courts issued an
estimated 1.7 million domestic-violence restraining
orders. On any given day in 2008, an estimated 1.2
million domestic-violence restraining orders were
active. According to the FBI, between 600,000 and
700,000 records of permanent orders are entered
annually into the NCIC registry.
National Crime Information Center
Research suggests that restraining orders are
between 40 and 80 percent effective in deterring
future incidents of abuse in the year after
obtaining the order.
Do Protection Orders Protect
2010 should be another bumper year for temporary
restraining orders, with 2 million to 3 million
likely to be issued. Carrying a cost of roughly
$2,000 apiece, this will ultimately cost taxpayers
at least $4 billion
How Women Get Ready for First Dates
Sexual Assault Expected (SAE)
What our Schools and Universities are hiding.
The Hunting Ground
Another good reason why sex education needs to start before high
school, and is completed before leaving high school.
Men need to be taught not to rape women, and women need to be
protected when reporting assaults. You want
protected, but you don't want someone to get away with
committing a crime either. Remove the rapist from school, but do
not deny them an education. And if the victim wants to transfer
to another school, then that school should pay for the transfer.
Just 20 Percent Of Female Campus Sexual Assault Victims Go To Police?
106 Colleges Are Under Federal Investigation For Sexual Assault
Office for Civil Rights
More Than 20 Percent of Female Undergrads at Top Schools
Are Victims of Sexual Misconduct
AAU Campus Survey on Sexual Assault and Sexual
AP Investigation on Sexual Assault by Fellow
Students. 17,000 official reports of sex assaults
by students over a four-year period
, from fall 2011 to spring 2015.
That figure represents the most complete tally yet of sexual assault among
the nation’s 50 million students in grades K-12. But it also does not
fully capture the problem: Such attacks are greatly under-reported, some
states don’t track them and those that do vary widely in how they classify
and catalog sexual violence. About 5 percent of reported attacks involved
5- and 6-year-olds. Incidents jumped between ages 10 and 11 — typically
the start of middle school — and continued rising until age 14, when they
began dropping as students progressed through high school.
is to troubled
persistently especially with petty annoyances. Annoy
is to harass, as with
questions or requests. Beleaguered.
is to approach with
an offer of sexual favors.
Hundreds of Thousands of Untested Rape Kits in the US
Sexual Assault Kit Backlog
Violent Criminal Apprehension Program
ViCAP Linked only 33
crimes in 12 years. FBI with an $8.2 billion yearly budget,
ViCAP receives around $800,000 a year to keep the system going.
In 2013, police submitted 240 cases involving sexual assault to
the system. The FBI recorded 79,770 forcible rapes that year.
Local agencies entered information on 232 homicides. The FBI
recorded 14,196 murders. ViCAP receiving information on only
about 0.5 percent of such violent crimes.
helps clinicians effectively collect, document,
and preserve forensic medical evidence of
sexual violence to support the local prosecution of these crimes.
There's a Big Difference between People Watching and Staring
Stop Staring at Me!
is to look with amazement; look stupidly.Leer
is to look or gaze in an unpleasant, malicious, or lascivious
is a look that is believed to have the power of
look at with fixed eyes. Focus
is fixate one's eyes.
The Invisible War (2012)
Meera Vijayann: Find your voice against Gender Violence
- When does admiring a pretty face
turn into something creepy?
where people share their personal stories
of sexual harassment and abuse in public spaces.
Launched on 26 Dec 2012 and since then have
collected over 4000 stories from over 50 cities in
India and Nepal.
Stop Street Harassment
Watson U.N. Speech
He for She
or a Deviate
is a person whose behavior
deviates from what is acceptable especially in sexual behavior.
I noticed while in NYC that a lot of women were walking around
staring at their cellphones
, which for me was nice because I
can gaze at them without them knowing, and it's also good for
women too because they don't have to make eye contact and feel awkward when ignorant
people like me are looking at them only because they're nice looking. It's sad for me, and sad for them, WTF are we doing?
2018 update. I noticed a decline in people walking while staring at their
cellphones. Text NeckOld Men Gawking
- TV Show idea
about the lives of
(just observing) - A quick glance is OK. Just take a brief look.
I definitely observe people a lot, for different reasons and in
different ways. I look at how they walk, how
they talk, and how they stand and sit. It's interesting to me. But some
people think that the reason that you're looking at them must be sexual,
that's because peoples minds are in the gutter, and they ignorantly assume
that you must be in the gutter with them and be apart of their perverted
imagination. I don't blame people for this type ignorance. It's just sad
that they jump to these crazy conclusions. I'm sorry that I found you
interesting. I thank you for making me a ware of your ignorant
. Try not to make
out of it. I'm not
Catcalled More Than 100 Times in Single Day in NYC
Whistling At Your Mom
Fight Sexual Violence Globally with Priya s Shakti
Half the Sky Turning Oppression into Opportunity for Women Worldwide
Half Of All Female Homicide Victims
Are Killed By Intimate Partners
. More than 55 percent of the deaths
were related to partner violence, and the vast majority of those were
carried out by a male partner. More than 98 percent of those homicidal
partners were men. (In general, men are more likely to be involved in a
homicide than women. Seventy-seven percent of homicide victims are men.
Women Are Killed Every Day By Their Partners.
Here Are 59 Ideas On How To Stop The Violence
Criminal justice system
“Treat choking as
the serious crime it is. Choking/strangling the victim
is one of the top indicators of future homicide.” — Kim
Gandy, CEO of the National Network To End Domestic
“Create a national
domestic violence registry, like the sex offender
registry. Because the recidivism rate is so high.” —
Kimberly Brusk, domestic violence survivor
assessment protocol, used to determine how much danger a
domestic violence victim is in, should be utilized
across the U.S. Results should inform sentencing and
treatment guidelines. Police and court officials should
undergo training to understand lethality factors.” —
Nicole Beverly, domestic violence survivor
services and assistance for victims with high lethality
risk, with a change of identity similar to current
witness protection programs.” — Nicole Beverly, domestic
“We need to do what
the U.K. did and make psychological abuse a crime. Just
because one was never hit, doesn’t mean you’re not a
victim too.” — Jennifer Tetefsky, domestic violence
“A system of
detaining and monitoring the abuser rather than the
victim having to drop everything and go to a shelter
would afford greater safety. The victim still needs to
go to work, still needs her kids to be in school, and
those are both huge exposures to lethal violence. Remove
the threat, not the threatened.” — Lisette Johnson,
domestic violence survivor
monitoring system where victims are alerted when their
abusers who are on parole or probation are in their
vicinity.” — Nicole Beverly, domestic violence survivor
for repeat offenders.” — Barb Weems-Mourglia, domestic
should arrest abusers when they violate restraining
orders.” — Kate Ranta, domestic violence survivor
communication across counties and states with law
enforcement, prisons, jails, court systems and treatment
providers regarding information about abusers. Perhaps a
central monitoring system?” — Nicole Beverly, domestic
consequences for stalking, harassment, ongoing emotional
and verbal abuse.” — Kate Ranta, domestic violence
strangulation a felony in Ohio.” — Amy Weber, lost a
family member to domestic violence homicide
“Judges: When a
victim is asking for a permanent restraining order,
grant it!” — Kate Ranta, domestic violence and gun
“Do not force
victims to be in the same courtroom as abusers. Allow
for testimony to be taken separately and safely.” — Kate Ranta, domestic violence and gun violence survivor
violence training for police officers and court
officials incorporating victim impact stories to put a
face on the issue that they often become numb to.” —
Nicole Beverly, domestic violence survivor Gun safety
one of the most dangerous times for victims is when they
are trying to leave the abusive relationship, or have
already left. Make it easy to get a temporary
restraining order, and remove firearms (and prevent gun
purchases) during that danger period.” — Kim Gandy, CEO
of the National Network To End Domestic Violence
close the loopholes in the federal gun prohibitions to
ensure that stalkers and [abusive] dating partners are
barred from gun ownership, just like other dangerous
abusers. — Everytown for Gun Safety
Every state in the
nation should prohibit possession of firearms by anyone
convicted of abusing an intimate partner or family
member. And every state should prohibit gun possession
by anyone subject to a protective order prohibiting them
from harassing, threatening or stalking an intimate
partner or family member. — Everytown for Gun Safety
departments to investigate if domestic abusers are
prohibited from owning guns, or [have the police] be
subject to serious fines and imprisonment if their lack
of proper investigation results in a shooting.” —
Jennifer Tetefsky, domestic violence survivor
provide all records of prohibited abusers to the
National Instant Criminal Background Check System, or NICS. — Center for American Progress
require comprehensive background checks and ensure that
prohibited domestic abusers cannot easily evade
background checks by buying guns from unlicensed
sellers. — Everytown for Gun Safety
There are 46
percent fewer intimate partner gun homicides of women in
states that require background checks for private
handgun sales than in states that do not. State
lawmakers should require private, unlicensed sellers to
conduct background checks on gun sales, just as licensed
gun dealers do. — Everytown for Gun Safety
States should pass
laws requiring that domestic abusers turn in their guns
to law enforcement or licensed gun dealers when they
become prohibited. — Everytown for Gun Safety Financial
that domestic violence victims do indeed lack adequate
access to affordable legal services. What about
subsidized lawyers for domestic violence survivors? —
The Institute for Policy Integrity
financial and legal services available immediately to
victims. Job placement. Housing. Money to get out of the
home.” — Kate Ranta, domestic violence survivor
“We need to train
domestic violence survivors on financial literacy so
they can become economically independent.” — Ludy Green,
domestic violence expert
to pay into a pool that gives rental assistance to
victims, so fewer become homeless because of domestic
violence.” — Barb Weems-Mourglia, domestic violence
is the third leading cause of homelessness among
families nationwide, according to the U.S. Department of
Housing and Urban Development. Due to a critical lack of
affordable housing, families in domestic violence
shelters typically have no safe, affordable options and
are unable to leave shelter. Moving victims and their
children as quickly as possible into safe, affordable
housing reduces the trauma of domestic violence, the
disruption of children’s lives, and increased cost to
the public sector to house a family in a shelter.” —
Carol Corden, executive director of New Destiny Housing
“My situation was
one of abandoning rights to marital property if I left
the house. I was shot while we were working out who
would leave. In situations of abuse, partners should be
protected from any forfeiture of marital property.” — Lisette Johnson, domestic violence survivor
“Allow victims to
be on stand-by [for court hearings] so they aren’t
continuing to miss work every time court is postponed.”
— Nicole Beverly, domestic violence survivor Education
31. “Education in
elementary schools. Little boys need to know that daddy
pushing mommy around is not normal, and availability to
a counselor should be there if a child wants to talk
about their home life to someone.” — Anonymous
domestic violence education at every high school in our
nation. Teach our youth about red flags and not being a
bystander. It truly makes a difference.” — Nicole
Beverly, domestic violence survivor
“Attitudes need to
change toward the victims of domestic violence. Many
people still feel like the woman should ‘just leave.’
The problem is they don’t understand how dangerous it is
to leave. The most volatile time is when the victim
tries to separate.” — Lisa Riveglia Rasmussen, domestic
“All EMS personnel
should be required to have training on intimate partner
violence dynamics and community resources. There is a
significant gap in services to victims without that
mandate.” — Karen Oehme, the Institute for Family
Violence Studies at Florida State’s School of Social
“More needs to be
talked about in terms of signs of manipulation and
power/control in the mass media. When there’s no blood
it’s just not ‘sexy’ or dramatic enough to make the
news.” — Jennifer Tetefsky, domestic violence survivor
“We need more
education about financial abuse. My ex-husband verbally
and psychologically abused me for years. He
systematically broke down my psyche until I could barely
decide between wheat or rye on a sandwich without
talking to him about it. Then, for six months on an
almost daily basis, he worked to convince me that I was
a bad parent because I was working 20 hours a week, 15
minutes from home. Once I left the best job I ever had,
he had me totally under his control.” — Anonymous
domestic violence survivor
as a bystander on how to offer help in the right way
(without judging) if you suspect/know someone in that
situation.” — Lovern Gordon, domestic violence survivor
Governors Association, in collaboration with the Federal
Government and Tribal Governments should launch a public
education campaign in every state, territory and
reservation. — Futures Without Violence
“Study funded to
provide data of how often a woman lies about domestic
violence versus it being legit. To shut up those who
believe women lie about abuse.” — Kate Ranta, domestic
violence survivor Divorce and child custody
“In my first
domestic violence case as a young lawyer, a client was
shot by her estranged husband when he arrived for
visitation exchange. Courts must stop forcing victims to
share custody, legal or physical, with an abuser (who
will doubtless use the child to punish her for leaving,
and maintain power and control over her), and must not
require the victim to be alone with the abuser for
visitation exchange.” — Kim Gandy, CEO of the National
Network To End Domestic Violence
granted for victims nationwide. It’s currently state by
state, with most not immediate. I was made to wait until
after his prison sentencing (14 months) to get my
divorce trial.” — Kimberly Brusk, domestic violence
divorce mediation in cases of domestic violence.” —
Nicole Beverly, domestic violence survivor
cases for abuser and victim.” — Kimberly Brusk, domestic
domestic violence training for guardian ad litems and
child protective services.” — Kate Ranta, domestic
violence survivor Support services and shelters
“A place to leave
pets — like an emergency foster care system — if
shelters won’t take them. So many won’t leave because
abusers will kill their pets.” — Jennifer Tetefsky,
domestic violence survivor
health services for victims and children (covered by
insurance or free).” — Kate Ranta, domestic violence
“San Francisco was
able to eliminate domestic violence homicides for 44
months. Domestic violence victims who access
community-based services are less likely to be killed.
We must ensure that there are funded community-based
services that are accessible to all the various
communities in an area, regardless of race, ethnicity,
religion, language, immigration status, sexual
orientation and disability.
City agencies must
also be willing to come together with community-based
agencies to identify gaps and weaknesses, so that the
response both from government and non-governmental
agencies is continuously being analyzed and improved.” —
Minouche Kandel, Esq., Women’s Policy Director, City &
County of San Francisco
system to research shelters and specific services.” —
Jennifer Tetefsky, domestic violence survivor
for survivors of domestic violence is a crucial part of
their successful journey to self-sufficiency and freedom
from abuse. Our staff regularly encounter cases where
abusers exert financial controls to intimidate and
isolate their victims, including limiting access to bank
accounts and preventing them from pursuing education and
career opportunities. Our Economic Empowerment Program,
a replicable workforce training initiative, was created
to address the needs of survivors living in the nexus of
abuse, poverty and homelessness, and has helped hundreds
of survivors learn marketable skills and obtain living
wage jobs since it began in 2011.” — Judge Judy Harris Kluger, director of Sanctuary For Families
“Don’t deny people
access to shelters because of drug use or sex work.” —
Hilary Hanson, ?HuffPost reporter
“More money for
domestic violence shelters. Each year, the National
Network to End Domestic Violence does a one-day survey
of domestic violence programs nationwide to calculate
how many people are accessing help. On a single day in
2015, 71,828 victims were served across the country.
Yet, 12,197 requests for help went unmet because of lack
of funding.” — Kim
Gandy, CEO of the
National Network To End Domestic Violence
treatment programs for children who have witnessed or
experienced violence. — Futures Without Violence
treatment programs for men and boys who use violence in
relationships. — Futures Without Violence Workplace
Paid sick days and
paid family leave laws and policies are essential. It is
also crucial for the leave to extend explicitly to
survivors of violence. Women comprise two-thirds of
minimum wage earners and are disproportionately subject
to violence and stalking both in and outside the
workplace. Most low-wage jobs, unlike many office or
white-collar jobs, don’t come with paid leave, health
insurance, or other benefits.
Missing work means not
getting paid and the very real risk of getting fired. In
the aftermath of a traumatizing assault or frightening
stalking incident, a worker may need to go to the
police, to court, or to the doctor. Employers can and
should be first in line to provide support and
protection to their workers — not punishments that
further jeopardize their safety and economic security. —
Futures Without Violence
should offer paid domestic violence days if a victim has
to attend court or is out because of an attack (this was
a big one for me).” — Lovern Gordon, domestic violence
“Laws to protect
domestic violence victims from losing their jobs.” —
Melissa Saporito, domestic violence survivor
should receive a fine for decisions that put victims at
increased risk. — Futures Without Violence
develop and implement workplace policies/protocols that
specifically address domestic and sexual violence and
stalking. According to the U.S. Department of Labor,
more than 70 percent of U.S. workplaces don’t have a
formal program or policy that addresses workplace
violence. Most employers don’t think about violence
affecting their employees until an incident occurs at
the workplace. Rather than reacting to specific
incidents, workplaces should adopt a more comprehensive
approach. They can do this by focusing on protections
and policies that create a culture of prevention? — ?not
reaction. — Futures Without Violence.
Educate and train
company leaders and employees. Employers should ensure that employees,
including those in supervisory roles, know how to identify an employee who
has experienced violence, and what resources are available for assistance.
— Futures Without Violence.
Sticks and stones will break my bones but names will never hurt me
will not prepare you for the ignorance and the evil that is poisoning the
minds of morons around the world.
No Murder Day
, as a holiday,
today no one is allowed to murder, if you think that you will murder someone
today, then please stay home, or go somewhere safe, and enjoy
No Rape Day
if you think that you
will rape someone today, then please stay go somewhere safe,
enjoy the day off to reflect.
To be called a
is the same thing, both are definitions of risky behavior. But
some how slut became demoralizing while stud became glorifying,
which is total ignorance and a direct attack on women. Demeaning
teasing someone with words
are tactics perpetrated by
ignorant people who want to demoralize someone or make light of
risky behavior, which only brings attention to their own
failures and their own lack of knowledge. Yes you should explore
and experience life, but beware of the risks and be prepared for
the worse. If your not prepared, you are blindly playing with
that could ultimately lead to excessive and
. Have fun on all your adventures, but
understand there are no guarantees. The
Perversion - When an obsession turns into a Crime - Addictions
It's just not the lack of information
and knowledge, it's when information becomes
it introduces numerous combinations of problems,
problems that normally wouldn't even exist...illogical
with an emphasis on "ill"....it's not just
that you're doing something that you don't need to do, you're
actually keeping yourself from doing the things that you really
need to do, so you're causing more damage then you think.
Is it Mental illness
Lack of Self-Control
Is it a
Lack of Morals
it a Addictive Personality
is it just a
, or a lack of
key information and knowledge?
List of Paraphilias
When people experience intense sexual arousal to atypical
objects, situations, sounds, and so on, we see more problems.
Sexual arousal should only come from your lover. A misplaced
arousal makes true arousal towards your partner seem
insignificant and less meaningful. But
tells us that there is no behavior that is
permanent. Permanency only happens when the person does nothing
to correct the behavior. Just because something is happening
inside of you, this doesn't make an arousal true or accurate.
Control over your mind and body comes from being aware, and
being more knowledgeable about the human brain and the
Every human is born with abilities, but if we don't use them, we
lose them. People have become slaves to their
to exercise control, controls that they were born with, but not
to know how to use them effectively.
National Sex Offender Registry
is a free service to help locate registered sex
offenders in your area.
You have to let kids know that there are
bad people in the world, and if given the chance, those bad
people will or might hurt you for what ever reason. The good thing
is that there's not a lot of bad people in the world, even
though there are many bad people in power, there are still not a
lot of bad people in the world, mostly because people are born
good. But it's always a good idea to protect yourself and reduce
your risk and vulnerabilities to being victimized by bad people.
So you have to learn how to be aware and how to be prepared if
dangerous people cross your path. If you ever feel threaten or
in danger you must escape and get help. If you do end up getting
hurt in any way, you must understand that you will recover, as
most people do. Remember, no one can take your soul, your soul
is yours to keep. So stay strong, stay alert and play safe.
What are the differences between
Kink or Kinky
So you wonder why there are so
Why are there so many
Circles of Support and Accountability
400 Priests who have sexually abused children
solve the problem of
Do you know someone on the
Sex Offender Registry
How do you know if you have been
What are the
physiological effects of
Female Genital Mutilation
Where can you go for help if you have
I'm with Lincoln
is a man who engages in numerous
casual sexual affairs
describe a behavior or process that
undermines individuality of and in others. Behaviorally, dehumanization
describes a disposition towards others that debases the others'
individuality as either an "individual" species or an "individual" object,
e.g. someone who acts inhumanely towards humans. As a process, it may be
understood as the opposite of personification, a figure of speech in which
inanimate objects or abstractions are endowed with human qualities;
dehumanization then is the disendowment of these same qualities or a
reduction to abstraction.
you go against something natural, you increase the chance of
having something unnatural happen, do your research, and don't
be a Ginny pig.
and why is it dangerous and stupid?
What is the
The Choking Game
Why not just learn how to hold your Breath, but of course not every single time
Learn Breathing Techniques