Guilt occurs when a person believes that they have made a
horrible mistake, or they feel that they made a serious error in judgment,
and now they feel really bad about what they did because they know how bad
the mistake was, and that damage has been done to themselves or to others,
or damage has been done to something in the environment. And the only
relief from the guilt and pain is to do something that would repair the
damage, or do something that would make up for the loss or the mistake
that you made. The right thing to do is to take full responsibility for
what you have done, but more importantly, you must learn from this mistake
so that you never have to repeat it again in the future.
Paranoia is over exaggerating the seriousness of your
situation without considering the all the facts, or without making sure
that your thinking is accurate or correct.
Making Assumptions. When paranoid you can easily
overwhelm yourself with all kinds of different scenarios that may never
happen. So it is always best to solve your problems then to worry about
your problems, especially problems that are seem bigger then they really
Aware should not lead to obsessions, so don't
confuse Extrasensory Perception
Paranoid Personality Disorder is a mental
disorder characterized by paranoia and a pervasive, long-standing
suspiciousness and generalized mistrust of others. Individuals with this
personality disorder may be hypersensitive, easily insulted, and
habitually relate to the world by vigilant scanning of the environment for
clues or suggestions that may validate their fears
or biases. Paranoid
individuals are eager observers. They think they are in danger and look
for signs and threats of that danger, potentially not appreciating other
Insecurity is a feeling of general unease or nervousness
that may be triggered by perceiving of oneself to be vulnerable or
inferior in some way, or a sense of vulnerability or instability which
threatens one's self-image or ego.
Haunted is having or showing excessive or compulsive concern with
something. Experiencing an emotional state of great suffering and distress
and being disturb in mind or make uneasy or cause to be worried or alarmed
and have anxiety about possible developments. Continually
recurring thoughts in the mind that
recur constantly regular or frequent.
Rumination is the focused attention on the symptoms of one's
distress, and on its possible causes and consequences, as opposed to its
Like a Hamster Wheel,
your thinking, but you are not asking the right
or getting the right answers. Ruminating is
to reflect deeply on a subject or to
think deeply about
is a debilitating condition that is the result of an inaccurate
perception of the condition of body or mind
despite the absence of an actual medical condition. It's becoming unduly
alarmed about any physical or psychological symptoms they detect, no
matter how minor the symptom may be, and are convinced that they have, or
are about to be diagnosed with, a serious illness. An individual suffering
from hypochondriasis is known as a hypochondriac. (also known as health
anxiety or illness anxiety disorder, worrying
about having a serious illness).
Don't Pretend that
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy is to open up to unpleasant
feelings, and learn not to overreact to
them, and not avoiding situations where they are invoked. Its therapeutic
effect is a positive spiral where feeling better leads to a better
understanding of the truth. In ACT, 'truth'
is measured through the concept of 'workability', or what works to take
another step toward what matters (e.g. values, meaning). ACT differs from
behavioral therapy (CBT) in that rather than trying to teach people to
better control their thoughts, feelings, sensations, memories and other
private events, ACT teaches them to "just notice,"
accept, and embrace their private events, especially previously unwanted
ones. ACT helps the individual get in contact with a transcendent sense of
self known as "self-as-context"—the you who is always there observing and
experiencing and yet distinct from one's thoughts, feelings, sensations,
and memories. ACT aims to help the individual clarify their personal
values and to take action on them, bringing more vitality and meaning to
their life in the process, increasing their psychological flexibility. As
a simple way to summarize the model, ACT views the core of many problems
to be due to the concepts represented in the acronym, FEAR:
Fusion with your thoughts.
Evaluation of experience.
Avoidance of your experience.
Reason-giving for your behavior. And the
healthy alternative is to ACT: Accept your
reactions and be present. Choose a
valued direction. Take action. ACT commonly
employs six core principles to help clients develop psychological
flexibility:Cognitive defusion: Learning
methods to reduce the tendency to reify thoughts, images, emotions, and
memories. Acceptance: Allowing unwanted
private experiences (thoughts, feelings and urges) to come and go without
struggling with them. Contact with the present
moment: Awareness of the here and now, experienced with openness,
interest, and receptiveness. The observing self:
Accessing a transcendent sense of self, a continuity of consciousness
which is unchanging. Values: Discovering what is most important to
oneself. Committed action: Setting goals
according to values and carrying them out responsibly.
because you think it doesn't make it true"
Anal Retentiveness describe a person who pays such attention
to detail that it becomes an obsession and may be an annoyance to others,
potentially to the detriment of the anal-retentive person.
This is a time when an infant's attention
moves from oral stimulation to anal stimulation (usually the bowels but
occasionally the bladder), usually synchronous with learning to control
their excretory functions—in other words, any form of child training and
is not specifically linked to toilet training. Freud posited that children
who experience conflicts, in which libido energy is under-indulged during
this period of time, perhaps too-strongly chastised for toilet-training
accidents, may develop "anal retentive" fixations or personality traits.
These traits are associated with a child's efforts at excretory control:
orderliness, stubbornness, and compulsions for control. Conversely, those
who are overindulged during this period, may develop "anal-expulsive"
is a personality trait characterized by a person's striving for
flawlessness and setting excessively high performance standards,
accompanied by overly critical self-evaluations and concerns regarding
Not having a care in the world is
impossible, and also a little delusional. You have to care about certain
things, it's called
maintenance. You can take a break,
but not forever. (false sense of security).
Nonchalant is a feeling or appearing casually calm and relaxed; not displaying
anxiety, interest, or enthusiasm. It
doesn't have to mean that you don't take things serious, it just means you
are in control and not overreacting.
"My life has been full of terrible misfortunes, most of which
never happened." (Michel
"Don't let the things you don't have spoil the things that you
do have." Life Quotes
Over thinking and
Paranoia are two different things. It's good to have
an open mind to all the possibilities, but try not go to far in
one direction. I don't worry about the things that I
cannot totally control because that would be paranoid, which is
I prepare myself as best as I can by
analyzing as much
information that I can.
Then I try to learn as much as I can from the experience.
Pessimism, or just
being content, are illogical perceptions and a complete waste of
time, and time is all you have.
on the back for all the wrong reasons,
or thinking things will
be OK , or thinking things will be bad, or being happy with the
way things are, is just more distractions. Logically analyzing
the situation is your best bet. Every human is privileged to
have time, so please don't waste it on illogical
To be logical is to be happy. After all the brain is designed to
function on logic. So logic is logical. Moving forward with a
No Worries + the
Understanding of Reality = Peace of Mind
Worrying can turn into run away
thoughts of despair and paranoia. But if you can be aware of these
thoughts when they begin, then you can stop this run away train before it
wrecks havoc. It all starts with one thought, and if you can catch
yourself early enough, you can see the exact thought that started this
chain reaction. And every time that you're able to stop and look, the more
times you will experience calm and peace. Don't stress yourself out,
There’s a big difference between worrying and actually
asking a question and understanding the answer to that question.
Concerns should only be questions. Asking the right questions
and getting the right answers. Easier said then done, but it has
to be done. You have to learn how to reprocess old memories and
old experiences. You need to reorganize old knowledge with new
knowledge. You have to learn what questions to ask. This will
help you better understand yourself and help you better
understand past experiences. Over
Paranoia are two different things. it's good to have
an open mind to all the possibilities, but try not go to far in
"Caring about what someone thinks is always
better then worrying about what someone else thinks."
I see a lot of people struggle with
Anxieties, anxieties that are created within themselves and
not so much related to what is happening in that moment. Worry
turns into fear, then fear turns into panic, then panic turns
into uncontrollable emotions and possibly a mental breakdown.
Anxiety to me is a misunderstood perception of your current
state. So Anxiety is more about a persons lack of information
and knowledge and not so much related to their lack of
chemistry. But some physical ailments like lack of sleep,
hunger, or other physical imbalances may cause the brain to
misinterpret certain information in the brain.
To interpret this
information correctly a person needs a good understanding of
their body and their mind. The stresses
of life can sometimes be overwhelming, but don't overreact. Relax and
analyze the questions carefully. Most of the time the answers are already
within you. But there are times when you do need more information. That is
when you need to seek out this needed information. But when seeking out
this needed information try to stay within your current priorities and
responsibilities. You don't want distractions to cause more harm then
Thinking about the "what ifs" more then once is a waste of time, especially when
a what if is highly improbable and impossible to plan for. Not
to say that it's impossible, it's just more logical to
to the things that are most likely to happen, things that you
can control. You have to
prioritize the things that matter so that you are
things that are more important and most likely to impact your
life or most likely to
benefit your life.
Why do we see our
problems as not being so bad when we compare them to other
peoples problems? Our problems are still bad, just because
someone else's problems are worse then ours that should not make
our problems seem less significant. They are still significant.
Worrying is a result of not having enough information,
or just forgetting the information that you already have, or not correctly
understanding the information that you already have.
Yourself Together, when people
fall apart they might find that putting themselves back together
in the right way is not that easy. When questioning yourself you
have to be very careful not to ask questions that you cannot
answer correctly. Except the fact that you don't have all the
But luckily with the internet, the chances of finding
someone with the answers to your problems is more probable then
any other time in human history.
In the realm of
Logic is a sanctuary that all humans should visit often, or
at the least know where the sanctuary of logic resides. But even
then, knowing that you are
Human is an
Understanding that as humans we cannot fully control
everything or even come close to being
Aware of everything, in our
World or in
Ourselves. So we must, at this moment, except this fact. But
Acceptance of the
Uncertainty does not mean that one should ignore the things
that a person knows to be
This is where knowledge truly stands out as being the most
powerful tool that every human should possess. The feeling of
emptiness or the feeling that you have no life or hope is just a
reaction that humans experience when they stop educating
themselves. When you stop learning you are always going to be
Vulnerable and struggle more with everyday life situations.
As we live our lives as best as we can between those moments of
doing and not doing, continually learning is really the only
logical thing that we can do. And when it comes to giving advice
or taking advice from someone else, always keep in mind that
advice is only the beginning of many
Questions that you need to answer. Like what is 'Learning'
and what are the things that a person needs to learn? Humans
have been on a
Journey from the beginning. Searching and walking almost the
entire earths surface for that
Shangri La or that place that a person can call 'Home'.
But as soon as we arrive, the first thing we learn is that the
Physical Journey was just the beginning and that the Ultimate
Journey is the Journey of the
(Howard Polley, 08/14/2011)
Don't Sweat the Small Stuff
Please don't worry. Educate yourself and learn the facts,
and then take the most appropriate logical action. Don't worry
just learn as much as you can and then move on,
there is only
so much time in a day, so use it well.
Seek solutions to problems and then educate others about what
you have learned. A better world is waiting for us, but it will
never come if we are just sitting around
blaming others for our
And for those who believe that everything is alright, please
wakeup, for you have more opportunities to make a difference
then those who have to spend most of their time just surviving.
You too have to educate yourself and learn the facts. Don't dread or fear the
things you have to do tomorrow, just do them, finish the task at
hand and remember that you will have many accomplishments
tomorrow. So look at tomorrow as, How many things will I