Self Smart - Intrapersonal Intelligence
Self Smart entails the capacity to understand oneself, to understand one’s
feelings, fears and motivations.
It's not just what you are but who you are.
allows you to assess
acting on biases
and reflection and keep a journal to track your
only happens once you recognize your
vulnerabilities. Pay attention to the way you respond to your
Practice saying “No
” to yourself.
is defined as the "fulfillment by
of the possibilities of one's character or personality
. Sense of well-being and
moderating our responses. Empathizing
(who am I?) People Smart
and Self Smart
are closely Related. Culture
represent a stable personality
encompasses an individual's subconscious, fundamental
themselves, their own abilities and their own control. People who have
high core self-evaluations will think positively of themselves and be
confident in their own abilities. Conversely, people with low core
self-evaluations will have a negative appraisal of themselves and will
is the process of diagnosing, or identifying,
in oneself. It may be assisted by medical dictionaries, books,
resources on the Internet, past personal experiences, or recognizing
or medical signs of a condition that a family member previously
had. For internet searching, it helps to know medical terms for the
various signs and symptoms. Baseline
is when the effort is made to understand individuals
from within their
basing interpretations on the understanding of the self as the central
agency of the human psyche. Essential to understanding self
the concepts of empathy, selfobject, mirroring, idealising, alter ego/twinship
and the tripolar self. Though self psychology also recognizes certain
drives, conflicts, and complexes present in Freudian psychodynamic theory,
these are understood within a different framework. Self psychology was
seen as a major break from traditional psychoanalysis and is considered
the beginnings of the relational approach to psychoanalysis
describes the information that an
individual draws upon when finding an answer to the question "What am I
like?". While seeking to develop the answer to this question,
self-knowledge requires ongoing self-awareness and self-consciousness
(which is not to be confused with consciousness). Young infants and
chimpanzees display some of the traits of self-awareness and
agency/contingency, yet they are not considered as also having
self-consciousness. At some greater level of cognition, however, a
self-conscious component emerges in addition to an increased
self-awareness component, and then it becomes possible to ask "What
am I like?
", and to answer with self-knowledge. Self-knowledge is a
component of the self, or more accurately, the self-concept. It is the
knowledge of one's self and one's properties and the desire to seek such
knowledge that guide the development of the self-concept. Self-knowledge
informs us of our mental representations of ourselves, which contain
attributes that we uniquely pair with ourselves, and theories on whether
these attributes are stable, or dynamic. Psychology
Who are you, really? The puzzle of personality, Brian Little:
and interactive text)
Psychology of Self
is the study of either the cognitive, conative or
affective representation of one's identity
subject of experience.
(change and mature)
Psychological Self Help
is a macro theory of human
motivation and personality that concerns people's inherent growth
tendencies and innate psychological needs. It is concerned with the
motivation behind choices people make without external influence and
interference. SDT focuses on the degree to which an individual's behavior
is self-motivated and self-determined.
the motive to realize one's full potential in the pursuit of knowledge.
Strengths - Weaknesses - Opportunities - Threats
- Intrinsic Education
21st Century Skills
(Know thyself)Observation Flaws
is the complex of all the
attributes, a construct whereby objects or individuals can be
distinguished--behavioral, temperamental, emotional and mental--qualities
that characterize a unique individual.
prominent attribute or aspect of something. A distinguishing quality.
objects or individuals can be distinguished.
"Everyone is different, every planet in the universe is
different, so it seems that difference is by design
, and being different
certainly makes things a lot more interesting.
suck, just like conformity
quality of being unlike or dissimilar. A
. A change.
Unlike in nature or quality or form or degree. "But we still need to agree
on something's and
, otherwise, our differences will end up destroying us
instead of bringing us together to enjoy our shared experiences."
is the course of an individual's life, especially when viewed as the sum
of personal choices
contributing to one's personal identity.
is being true to one's own
personality, spirit, or character, despite external pressures.
"There isn’t anything noble about being
superior to another person. True nobility is in being superior
to the person you once were."
Big 5 Personality Traits
penness to experience,
euroticism, which is when you can't really explain yourself.
Five Factor Model
has six facets, or dimensions, including active imagination
(fantasy), aesthetic sensitivity, attentiveness to inner feelings,
preference for variety, and
is a questionnaire or other standardized instrument designed to reveal
aspects of an individual's character or psychological makeup.
All personality tests invite a bit of self-deception
, for it's
deception that legitimates the test.
Personality Tests are too General and too
Vague. You have to define the circumstances.
Free Personality TestWe're
Dalai Lama Personality Test
Personality Assessment Errors
Changes in Personality
Watson Personality Analysis
This "Cube" Test
Will Tell You Everything About Your Personality
looks at how a specific child, at a specific age—usually today,
now—performs intellectually, compared to average intellectual performance
for that physical age, measured in years. The physical age of the child is
compared to the intellectual
of the child, based on performance in tests and live
assessments by a psychologist. Scores achieved by the child in question
are compared to scores in the middle of a bell curve for children of the
Myers Briggs Type Indicator
is an introspective self-report
questionnaire designed to indicate psychological preferences in how people
perceive the world and make decisions
is a branch of psychology that studies
personality and its variation among individuals. Its areas of focus
include: Construction of a coherent picture of the individual and their
major psychological processes.
Investigation of individual psychological differences. Investigation of
human nature and psychological similarities between individuals.
Type A and Type B Personality Theory
contrasting personality types. In this theory, personalities that are more
competitive, outgoing, ambitious, impatient and/or aggressive are labeled
Type A, while more relaxed personalities are labeled Type B.
Personality Insights on about 50 Different Traits
is a model of human personality which is
principally understood and taught as a typology of nine interconnected
personality types. Enneagram Type Indicator
The Secret You
Why are children in the same family so different from one
Siblings Share Genes, But Rarely Personalities
How can people be different when they grow up in the same
Everyone is born with their own
. So where do they come from? Do
they some how form in our
? Or do they form based on
that babies particular experiences, and its interpretation of
those particular experiences.
Personality is not fixed,
fixed, even human nature
100% fixed, everyone can adapt and change behaviors if needed, the
brain is plastic
, it has
to be in order to adapt to new environments and to evolve. When we learn
more about ourselves and our world, we change and improve, as we have
since the beginning. It's
amazing what learning can do
, especially learning
the right things in the right way
at the right times.
We have to be extremely careful with
, especially the
labels we give to ourselves.
Are personalities some type of hereditary trait? Or maybe our
personalities are some kind of an evolutionary adaptation in the
DNA that causes each of us to have unique personalities so that
it would guarantee the survival of our species, because
different personalities sometimes do different things. But It
doesn't mean that your personality will always stay completely
Or does it mean that you will never understand your personality.
Or does it mean that you will never learn how to modify, change
or control your personality. Your personality is not a hard
wired program, it's software. And
can be updated.
Everyone has distinct personality traits. And we sometimes
process things differently. But shouldn't our processes be
similar if we all learned similar things and have similar goals?
Is it just that some people take a different approach to things?
You would still have to be aware of your approach to a problem
and be able to compare the differences between yours and someone
else's approach to a problem. Someone just saying " I'm shy "
does not explain the reason why that person did not take a
should not be a factor in your
. Only knowledge, information and experience
should be used in decision making, not your personal perception
of what shyness is. You shouldn't apply shyness to problem
Shyness is not the only reason why you do things or don't do
things, there are many reasons why, so what are they? I didn't do it
because I was doing something else, or I knew that it was not necessary or
relevant so I did something else, or I had other ideas, or I did not feel
good and was not up to the task. There are many reasons, and the more
reasons that you are aware of, the more you can understand your actions.
It's how you process the world, and how you output that information, which
can have unique circumstances that require unique actions, so don't worry
or misunderstandings, learning is a lifelong journey.
"When no one is there to explain things to you, or explain how
to perceive and understand things, then you will understand them in your
own unique way."
Dissociative Identity Disorder
or multiple personality disorder, is a
mental disorder characterized by at least two distinct and relatively
enduring identities or dissociated personality states that alternately
show in a person's behavior, accompanied by memory impairment for
important information not explained by ordinary forgetfulness.
Dissociative Identity Disorder in Popular Culture
is for works of fiction
that feature multiple personalities (dissociative identity disorder) as
part of the plot.
can consist of a reality or detachment
within the self, regarding one's mind or body, or being a detached
observer of oneself. Subjects feel they have changed and that the world
has become vague, dreamlike, less real, or lacking in significance. It can
be a disturbing experience. Chronic depersonalization refers to
depersonalization-derealization disorder, which is classified by the DSM-5
as a dissociative disorder.
means odd habit. The term is often used to
express eccentricity or peculiarity. A synonym may be "quirk".
refers to unusual or odd behavior on the part
of an individual. This behavior would typically be perceived as unusual or
unnecessary, without being demonstrably maladaptive. Eccentricity is
contrasted with "normal" behavior, the nearly universal means by which
individuals in society solve given problems and pursue certain priorities
in everyday life. People who consistently display benignly eccentric
behavior are labeled as "eccentrics".
is a personality construct characterized by the
subclinical inability to identify and describe emotions in the self. The
core characteristics of alexithymia are marked dysfunction in emotional
awareness, social attachment, and interpersonal relating. Furthermore,
alexithymics have difficulty in distinguishing and appreciating the
emotions of others, which is thought to lead to unempathic and ineffective
emotional responding. Alexithymia is prevalent in approximately 10% of the
general population and is known to be comorbid with a number of
is a condition of reduced emotional
reactivity in an individual. It manifests as a failure to express feelings
(affect display) either verbally or non-verbally, especially when talking
about issues that would normally be expected to engage the emotions.
Expressive gestures are rare and there is little animation in facial
expression or vocal inflection. Reduced affect can be symptomatic of
autism, schizophrenia, depression, posttraumatic stress disorder,
depersonalization disorder, or brain damage. It may also be a side effect
of certain medications (e.g., antipsychotics and antidepressants).
Individuals with blunted or flat affect show different regional brain
activity when compared with typical individuals. Reduced affect should be
distinguished from apathy, which explicitly refers to a lack of emotion,
whereas reduced affect is a lack of emotional expression regardless of
whether emotion is actually reduced or not.
is defined as "culturally
abnormal behaviour(s) of such intensity, frequency or duration that the
physical safety of the person or others is placed in serious jeopardy, or
behaviour which is likely to seriously limit or deny access to the use of
ordinary community facilities". "Ordinarily we would expect the person to
have shown the pattern of behaviour that presents such a challenge to
services for a considerable period of time. Severely challenging behaviour
is not a transient phenomenon." Challenging behaviour is most often,
though not exclusively exhibited by individuals with learning
developmental disabilities, individuals with dementia or other mental
health needs, such as strokes or acquired brain injuries, individuals with
psychosis and by children, although such behaviours can be displayed by
Dialectical Behavior Therapy
is a therapy designed to help people suffering from mood
disorders as well as those who need to change patterns of behavior that
are not helpful, such as self-harm, suicidal ideation, and substance
abuse. This approach works towards helping people increase their
emotional and cognitive regulation by learning about the triggers that
lead to reactive states and helping to assess which coping skills to apply
in the sequence of events, thoughts, feelings, and behaviors to help avoid
undesired reactions. DBT assumes that people are doing their best but lack
the skills needed to succeed, or are influenced by positive or negative
reinforcement that interferes with their ability to function
- Mental Health
is a statement, pattern of behavior, or prototype (model) which other
statements, patterns of behavior, and objects copy or emulate. (Frequently
used informal synonyms for this usage include "standard example", "basic
example", and the longer form "archetypal example". Mathematical
archetypes often appear as "canonical examples"). A Platonic philosophical
idea referring to pure forms which embody the fundamental characteristics
of a thing in Platonism. A collectively-inherited unconscious idea,
pattern of thought, image, etc., that is universally present in individual
psyches, as in Jungian psychology. A constantly recurring symbol or motif
in literature, painting, or mythology (this usage of the term draws from
both comparative anthropology and from Jungian archetypal theory). In
various seemingly unrelated cases in classic storytelling, media, etc.,
characters or ideas sharing similar traits recur.
is a book by Donald Brown.
covers activities that improve
, develop talents and
, build human capital
enhance the quality of life and contribute to the realization of dreams
and aspirations. Personal development
takes place over the course of a
person's entire life. Not limited to
, the concept
involves formal and informal activities for
others in roles such as
. When personal development takes place in the context of
institutions, it refers to the methods, programs, tools, techniques, and
at the individual level in organizations. Personal
development may include the following activities: Improving
and/or learning new ones. Building or renewing identity/self-esteem.
Developing strengths or talents. Improving a
Identifying or improving potential
Building employability or (alternatively) human capital. Enhancing
lifestyle and/or the
quality of life
. Improving wealth or
social status. Fulfilling
. Initiating a
life enterprise. Defining and executing personal development plans (PDPs).
Improving social relations
. Personal development can also include developing
other people. This may take place through roles such as those of a teacher
or mentor, either through a
(such as the skill of
certain managers in developing the potential of
) or through a
professional service (such as providing training, assessment or
Beyond improving oneself and developing others, "personal development"
labels a field of practice and research. As a field of
includes personal development methods,
systems, tools, and techniques.
(advancement) - When do
I become an Adult
Sexual Development Character
qualities and emotional intelligence
is the relatively enduring pattern of thoughts, feelings, and behaviors
that distinguish individuals from one another. The dominant view in the
field of personality psychology today holds that personality emerges early
and continues to change in meaningful ways throughout the lifespan.
Evidence from large-scale, long-term studies has supported this
perspective. Adult personality traits are believed to have a basis in
infant temperament, meaning that individual differences in disposition and
behavior appear early in life, possibly even before language or conscious
self-representation develop. The Five Factor Model of personality has been
found to map onto dimensions of childhood temperament, suggesting that
individual differences in levels of the “big five” personality traits
(neuroticism, extraversion, openness to experience, agreeableness, and
conscientiousness) are present from
encompasses the changes that occur in biological and
psychological domains of human life from the end of
the end of one's life. These changes may be gradual or rapid, and can
reflect positive, negative, or no change from previous levels of
functioning. Changes occur at the cellular level and are partially
explained by biological theories of adult development and
. Biological changes
influence psychological and interpersonal/social
, which are often described by stage theories of
human development. Stage theories typically focus on “age-appropriate”
developmental tasks to be achieved at each stage. Erik Erikson and Carl
Jung proposed stage theories of human development that encompass the
entire life span, and emphasized the potential for
very late in life.
Being free to
personality is extremely important.
"Who you want to be
is not a destination, who you want to be is a journey. Once you have
obtained the good qualities that make you who you are, there will always
be you looking for more ways to be even better then the person you are
the extent to which a person can cope with
changes in circumstances and think about problems and tasks in novel,
creative ways. This trait is used when stressors
or unexpected events occur, requiring a person to change their stance,
outlook, or commitment. Flexible personality should not be confused with
cognitive flexibility, which is the ability to switch between two
concepts, as well as simultaneously think about multiple concepts.
Researchers of cognitive flexibility describe cognitive flexibility as the
ability to switch one’s thinking and attention between tasks. Flexibility,
or psychological flexibility as it is sometimes referred to, is the
ability to adapt to situational demands, balance life demands, and commit
is the scientific study of how and why human
beings change over the course of their life.
but how do you know that you are
? "Don't Fake it
’til you make it."
Who Am I ?
Identity (social science)
is the qualities, beliefs, personality,
looks and/or expressions that make a person (self-identity) or group
(particular social category or social group).The process of identity can
be creative or destructive.Identify
is to give the name or identifying characteristics of; refer to by name or
some other identifying characteristic property. Consider to be equal or
the same. To recognize as being; establish the identity of someone or
noticeable attribute or aspect of something. A
distinct feature or element that can be perceived. A distinguishing
quality that can be detected. Any measurable property. Something tangible
that is capable of being handled or touched or felt by the
is the relation each thing bears just to itself.
The notion of identity gives rise to many philosophical problems,
including the identity of indiscernibles (if x and y share all their
properties, are they one and the same thing?), and questions about change
and personal identity over time (what has to be the case for a person x at
one time and a person y at a later time to be one and the same person?).
deals with such questions as, "What makes it true
that a person at one time is the same thing as a person at another time?"
or "What kinds of things are we persons?" The term "identity" in "personal
identity" refers to "numerical identity," where saying that X and Y are
numerically identical just means that X and Y are the same thing.
or full name the set of names by which an individual is
known and that can be recited as a word-group, with the understanding
that, taken together, they all relate to that one individual. In many
cultures, the term is synonymous with the birth and legal names of the
individual. In Western culture, nearly all individuals possess at least
one given name (also known as a first name, personal name[citation
needed], forename, or Christian name), together with a surname (also known
as a last name, or family name)—respectively, the Thomas and Jefferson in
Thomas Jefferson—the latter to indicate that the individual belongs to a
family, a tribe, or a clan. Where there are two or more given names,
typically only one (in English-speaking cultures usually the first) is
used in normal speech. Some cultures, including Western, also add (or once
added) patronymics or matronymics, for instance, as a middle name as with
Pyotr Ilyich Tchaikovsky (whose father's given name was Ilya), or as a
last name as with Björk Guðmundsdóttir (whose father was named Guðmund) or
Heiðar Helguson (whose mother was named Helga). Similar concepts are
present in Eastern cultures. However, in less urbanized areas of the
world, many people are known by a single name, and so are said to be
mononymous. Still other cultures lack the concept of specific, fixed names
designating people, either individually or collectively. Certain isolated
tribes, such as the Machiguenga of the Amazon, do not use personal names.
A person's full name usually identifies that person for legal and
administrative purposes, although it may not be the name by which the
person is commonly known; some people use only a portion of their full
name, or are known by titles, nicknames, pseudonyms or other formal or
informal designations. It is nearly universal for people to have names;
the United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child declares that a
child has the right to a name from birth.
part of a person's personal name. It identifies a specific person, and
differentiates that person from other members of a group, such as a family
or clan, with whom that person shares a common surname. The term given
name refers to the fact that the name usually is bestowed upon a person,
normally given to a child by its parents at or near the time of birth.
This contrasts with a surname (also known as a family name, last name, or
gentile name), which is normally inherited, and shared with other members
of the child's immediate family.
is a name
added to a given name. In many cases, a surname is a
name and many
dictionaries define "surname" as a synonym of "family name". In the
English-speaking world, it is commonly synonymous with last name because
it is usually placed at the end of a person's given name there.
is a collection of
that includes elements such as academic performance, gender roles,
sexuality, and racial identity. Generally, self-concept embodies the
answer to "Who am I
?". (also called self-construction, self-identity,
self-perspective or self-structure). Self-concept is distinguishable from
, which refers to the extent to which
, and currently applicable to one's
Self-concept also differs from self-esteem
: self-concept is a cognitive or
descriptive component of one's self (e.g. "I am a fast runner"), while
self-esteem is evaluative and opinionated (e.g. "I feel good about being a
fast runner"). Self-concept is made up of one's self-schemas, and
interacts with self-esteem
and the social self to form the self as whole. It includes the past,
present, and future selves, where future selves (or possible selves)
represent individuals' ideas of what they might become, what they would
like to become, or what they are afraid of becoming. Possible selves may
function as incentives for certain behavior. The perception people have
about their past or future selves is related to the
current selves. The temporal self-appraisal theory argues that people have
a tendency to maintain a positive self-evaluation
by distancing themselves
from their negative self
and paying more attention to their positive one.
In addition, people have a tendency to perceive the past self less
favorably (e.g. "I'm better than I used to be") and the future self more
(e.g. "I will be better
than I am now").
also known as individuation, is the development of
the distinct personality of an individual regarded as a persisting entity
(known as personal continuity) in a particular stage of life in which
individual characteristics are possessed and by which a person is
recognized or known (such as the establishment of a reputation). This
process defines individuals to others and themselves. Pieces of the
person's actual identity include a sense of continuity, a sense of
uniqueness from others, and a sense of affiliation. Identity formation
leads to a number of issues of personal identity and an identity where the
individual has some sort of comprehension of themselves as a discrete and
separate entity. This may be through individuation whereby the
undifferentiated individual tends to become unique, or undergoes stages
through which differentiated facets of a person's life tend toward
becoming a more indivisible whole.
has different definitions depending on the
field that the term is used in. Internalization is the opposite of
externalization. Generally, internalization describes the psychological
outcome of a conscious mind reasoning about a specific subject; the
subject is internalized, and the consideration of the subject is internal.
Internalization of ideals might take place following religious conversion,
or in the process of, more generally, moral conversion. Internalization is
directly associated with learning within an organism (or business) and
recalling what has been learned.
is a system of secondary traits that are manifested in the specific ways
that an individual relates and reacts to others, to various kinds of
stimuli, and to the environment. A child whose nurture and/or education
cause them to have conflict between legitimate feelings, living in a
illogical environment and interacting with adults who do not take the
long-term interests of the child to heart will be more likely to form
these secondary traits. In this manner the child blocks the unwanted
emotional reaction that would have normally occurred. Although this may
serve the child well while in that dysfunctional environment, it may also
cause the child to react in inappropriate ways, by developing alternate
ways in which the energy compulsively surfaces, ways damaging to his or
her own interests, when interacting with people in a completely
independent environment. Major trauma that occurs later in life, even in
adulthood, can sometimes have a profound effect on character. See
post-traumatic stress disorder. However, character may also develop in a
positive way according to how the individual meets the psychosocial
challenges of the life cycle (Erikson).
is a being, such
as a human, that has certain capacities or attributes such as reason,
self-consciousness, and being a part of a culturally established form of
social relations such as kinship, ownership of property, or legal
responsibility. The defining features of
what makes a person count as a person differ widely among cultures and
contexts. In addition to the question of personhood, of what makes a being
count as a person to begin with, there are further questions about
personal identity and self: both about what makes any particular person
that particular person instead of another, and about what makes a person
at one time the same person as they were or will be at another time
despite any intervening changes. The common plural of "person", "people",
is often used to refer to an entire nation or ethnic group (as in "a
people"). The plural "persons" is often used in philosophical and legal
is a person or a specific object. Individuality
(or selfhood) is the state or quality of being an individual; particularly
of being a person separate from other persons and possessing his or her
own needs or goals. The exact definition of an individual is important in
the fields of biology, law, and philosophy.
is a social psychological theory
that asserts people want to be known and understood by others according to
their firmly held beliefs and feelings about themselves, that is
self-views (including self-concepts and self-esteem). A competing theory
to self-verification is self-enhancement or the drive for positive
Psychology of Self
is the study of either the cognitive,
conative or affective representation of one's identity or the subject of
experience. The earliest formulation of the self in modern psychology
derived from the distinction between the self as I, the subjective knower,
and the self as Me, the object that is known
refers to one's own sense of dignity or
prestige in social contexts. In the English-speaking world, the expression
"to save face" describes the lengths that an individual may go to in order
to preserve their established position in society, taking action to ensure
that one is not thought badly of by his or her peers.
is an extremely broad concept encompassing objective
and subjective features of reality and existence. Anything that partakes
in being is also called a "being", though often this use is limited to
entities that have subjectivity (as in the expression "human being"). So
broad a notion has, inevitably, been elusive and controversial in the
history of philosophy, beginning in western philosophy with attempts among
the pre-Socratics to deploy it intelligibly.Social Comparison Theory
Style of Life
one of several constructs describing the
dynamics of the personality. It reflects the individual's unique,
unconscious, and repetitive way of responding to (or avoiding) the main
tasks of living: friendship, love, and work. This style, rooted in a
childhood prototype, remains consistent throughout life, unless it is
changed through depth psychotherapy.
is a psychological theory that focuses on how individuals adapt to
information or experiences that are threatening to their self-concept.
Claude Steele originally popularized self-affirmation theory in the late
1980s, and it remains a well-studied theory in social psychological
research. Self-affirmation theory contends that if individuals reflect on
values that are personally relevant to them, they are less likely to
experience distress and react defensively when confronted with information
that contradicts or threatens their sense of self. Experimental
investigations of self-affirmation theory suggest that self-affirmation
can help individuals cope with threat or stress and that it might be
beneficial for improving academic performance, health, and reducing
Being yourself and feeling
comfortable around Friends
and family is nice. But sometimes when you can act any way you
want with friends, you don't always listen to your friends the
way you should. You're so comfortable with being yourself that
you sometimes feel that
you're by yourself
, and you end up not
paying attention to the people you care about. And the scary
part is, if everyone is doing this, then nobody is really paying
attention to anyone, it's like everyone is in their own little
. We need to learn to balance our
. One cannot exist without the other. Make
it a point in every interaction that you have with someone, to
just listen. Take a moment every so often and just
external world. There is a lot of communication going on in the
world that we are not paying attention to. We need to connect,
and we need to
more often. Expand Your Mind
to be Yourself
This above all:
to thine own self be true
, And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.
describes a sense of self based on spontaneous
authentic experience, and a feeling of being alive, having a real self.
describes a defensive facade—one which in extreme cases
could leave its holders lacking spontaneity and feeling dead and empty,
behind a mere appearance of being real. To maintain their self-esteem, and
protect their vulnerable true selves, narcissists need to control others'
behavior – particularly that of their children seen as extensions of
"By falsely believing your own individual self to be
the body, you prevent yourself from experience your larger True Self."
describes the psychological outcome of a conscious
mind reasoning about a specific subject; the subject is internalized, and
the consideration of the subject is internal.
collection of beliefs about oneself that includes elements such as
academic performance, gender roles, sexuality, and racial identity.
Generally, self-concept embodies the answer to "Who am I?"I
Don't Want To Be anything other then me - Gavin DeGraw
Act natural, what's natural? Act
normal, what's normal?
Being yourself is not easy, especially when you're always
learning and maturing. So how can you be yourself when yourself
is still undefined? How can you be yourself when being yourself
is a lie? Because being yourself is not who you are when you're
still learning and growing. But this is not to say that there's
always parts of yourself that never seem to fade, a part of
that you either enjoy, or have adapted too, or have excepted.
This does not mean that you can't control your personality, it's
more like you have grown accustom to it, like a habit. But it's
hard to control something that you are not always aware of, and
that is the key,
. Awareness needs to have a
, a default program, a series of questions that make
you aware that you are out of your zone and in a situation that
requires different processes and a different understanding,
where you need to put your
on hold. You may feel obliged or obligated to do things
with your friends, but that does not mean sacrifice, it should
only mean a temporary change of plans, and not a reason to be
stupid or disrespectable towards yourself or others. And this
change has to feel natural, you want to be flexible, but not to
the point of breaking. You don't want to do ignorant actions
just to fit in, but you don't want to ignore
or a chance to explore, unless you feel there's a
better time and place, so don't be afraid to stop, but also
don't feel pressured either, ask questions. And if you can't get
the answers that you need, then wait till the answers are
available. This is the only time does not mean that this is your
only choice or option.
occurs when an actor ceases to maintain the
illusion that they are identical with the
portraying. If the breaking of character is particularly serious, it is
considered corpsing, which is theatrical slang for unintentionally
breaking character by laughing. Being Serious
is speaking sincerely with truthful accuracy, requiring effort or
concentration, rather than in a joking or halfhearted manner.
Being comfortable around someone
mean that you have the right to
time you want, you should have more self-control as well as a
little more respect, otherwise a
could get pretty
ugly. Every friendship should have some sort of written
that keeps the friendship from
disintegrating into total chaos, like the friendships between most men do,
it gets crazy.
Not all my friends are your friends
not all your friends
are my friends, only two thing's are for sure, you are my friend and I am
is your usual mood. A natural or acquired habit or characteristic
tendency in a person or thing.
An attitude of mind especially one
that favors one alternative
is a psychological
, it is a
mental and emotional entity that inheres in, or characterizes a person.
They are complex and an acquired state through experiences. It is an
individual's predisposed state of mind
regarding a value and it is precipitated through a responsive expression
toward a person, place, thing, or event (the attitude object) which in
turn influences the individual's thought and action. Attitude can be
formed from a person's past and present. Key topics in the study of
attitudes include attitude measurement, attitude change, consumer
behavior, and attitude-behavior relationships.
is a core pattern of emotions, memories,
, and wishes in the personal
organized around a
common theme, such as power or status.
Point of View
is a specified or stated manner of
consideration, an attitude how one sees or thinks of something, as in
"from doctor's point of view".
is an attitude of mind especially
one that favors one
alternative over others
. An inclination to do something. A
characteristic likelihood of or natural disposition toward a certain
condition or character or effect. A general direction in which something
tends to move.Thinking Positive
is a behavioral attribute that is distinctive and peculiar to an
individual. A habitual gesture
or way of speaking or behaving;
, which is an unusual feature of a person like
an odd habit or a strange attitude.
is a style in European art that emerged in the later years of the Italian
High Renaissance around 1520, lasting until about 1580 in Italy, when the
which used exaggerated motion and clear, easily interpreted detail to
produce drama, tension, exuberance, and grandeur in sculpture, painting,
architecture, literature, dance, theater, and music.
is the non-verbal behaviours (such as body language
and facial expressions) that are characteristic of a person.
is a personal facade that one
presents to the world. A showy misrepresentation intended to conceal
something unpleasant. An actor's
of someone in a play.
is when one is true to one's own
spirit, or character, despite external pressures; the conscious self is
seen as coming to terms with being in a material world and with
encountering external forces, pressures, and influences which are very
different from, and other than, itself. A lack of authenticity is
considered in existentialism to be bad faith.
is compelling attractiveness or charm that can
inspire devotion in others, or a divinely conferred power or talent.
"There is nothing noble
in being superior to your fellow man; true nobility is being superior to
your former self." -
Sapolsky: Are Humans Just Another Primate?
to Myself: My Struggle to Become a Person
is a Greek word meaning "character" that is used to
describe the guiding beliefs or ideals that characterize a community,
nation, or ideology. The Greeks also used this word to refer to the power
of music to influence emotions, behaviours, and even morals. Early Greek
stories of Orpheus exhibit this idea in a compelling way. The word's use
in rhetoric is closely based on the Greek terminology used by Aristotle in
his concept of the three artistic proofs.
will never become who you want to be if you keep
for who you are now."
you stop doing the wrong things you give yourself a chance to do
the right things."
isn’t anything noble about being superior to another person. True
nobility is in being superior to the person you once were.
Trying to be someone else is a waste of
the person you are
fake or counterfeit
pretended. Being or reflecting the essential or genuine character of
Genuine is being accurate, honest and thoughtful, but if
you are honestly an as*hole, then you're not genuine.
Borderline Personality Disorder
, or people who have become
aware of how screwed up the world is.
and Skills of a Worker
Education Improvements Ideas
- Physical Health
statement that deviates from or perverts the truth.
- Con Games
- "The Most Damaging Lies are the
Ones We Tell Ourselves."
Pamela Meyer: How to Spot
Can you really tell if a kid is lying?
(video and interactive text)
language of lying - Noah Zandan
People with Mental Health Problems tend to lie more
Ignorant people tend to lie more
, which is mostly because
is not easily understood or explained accurately, so it is not
really lying, it's more of an inability to accurately explain
Lies are more convincing when the person telling them needs to
People tend to lie more when they are
Culture affects how people Deceive others say Researchers
. They found
the statements of Western liars tend to include fewer first-person "I"
pronouns than the statements of truth-tellers. This is a common finding
and believed to be due to the liar trying to distance themselves from
the lie. However, they did not find this difference when examining the
lies of Black African and South Asian participants. Instead, these
participants increased their use of first person pronoun and decreased
their third person "he/she" pronouns -- they sought to distance their
social group rather than them self from the lie. There were also
differences in the kinds of contextual details reported. The White
European and White British participants followed the known trend of
decreasing the perceptual information they provided in their lie. In
contrast, the Black African and South Asian participants increased the
perceptual information they gave when lying, to compensate for providing
less social details."The results demonstrate that linguistic cues to
deception do not appear consistently across all cultures. The differences
are dictated by known cultural differences in cognition and social norms."
This has implications for everything from forensic risk assessments,
discrimination proceedings and the evaluation of asylum seekers.
The Truth About Lie Detectors (aka Polygraph Tests)
to detect a
person's veracity by monitoring psychophysiological changes is more myth
than reality. Even the term "lie
," used to refer to polygraph testing, is a misnomer.
So-called "lie detection" involves inferring deception through analysis of
physiological responses to a structured, but unstandardized, series of
There this thing about reading people. The truth of the matter can not be
totally confirmed, it does not reveal truth. That person is nervous, does
not say why they are nervous. And the person might not know why their
nervous themselves. So are you helping them, or are you judging them?
is the offense
of willfully telling an untruth
after having taken an oath or
affirmation. Intentional act of swearing a false
falsifying an affirmation to tell the
is evidence given by a witness who has made a
commitment to tell the truth. If the witness is later found to have lied
whilst bound by the commitment, they can often be charged with the
of perjury. The types of commitment can
include oaths, affirmations
. The exact
wording of the commitments
vary from country to country.Oath
is to swear
(announce publicly or officially and promise not to Lie
that I shall give, shall be the truth, the whole truth and
nothing but the truth
, so help me God.
Affirmation in Law
is a solemn declaration allowed to those who
conscientiously object to
taking an oath
statement of fact or a promise with wording relating to something
considered sacred as a sign of verity.
to specifically demoralize or dis-empower
the thinking subject, making the aggressor look superior; also referred to
as "power games".
Kari Faux, 'Lie 2
what a tangled web we weave, When first we practice to deceive!
"One of the greatest benefits that comes from having knowledge is that
it helps you to detect when someone is lying, and even when you're lying
to yourself. The more intelligent you become the less bullshit you will
have. You will be more aware of things and a lot more understanding of
what you're aware of. BK101 is the holy grail
. A WTF moment every single day. Life will never stop being
amazing as long as you keep being amazed about what you can learn about
life. Fascinating is an understatement."
is the drive to maintain and enhance favorable views
of oneself, and
generally features an inflated opinion
of one's personal features and
importance. It often includes intellectual, physical, social and other
overestimations. Me, Me, Me
(selfishness) - When Power Corrupts
inability to differentiate between self and other. More specifically, it
is the inability to untangle
an inability to understand or assume any
other than their own.
- Thinking you're more
special because you're Famous
Nothing wrong with being
confident and proud. It's just when you look down at people, because you
believe that you're better then others, that's when you look like an
as*hole, and everything that you have accomplished in your life is wasted
in one moment of selfish foolishness. That's usually when shame,
embarrassment and disgrace appears, that's if you're lucky, because some
people never realize the mistake they're making. Feeling good about
yourself can be a blessing or a curse. So you have a choice. But first you
have to learn the positives and the negatives that come from good and bad
behaviors, this way you can always make good decisions, and not have to
suffer from your mistakes so drastically.
is also known as an
with one's self and applies to someone who follows their own ungoverned
and is possessed by
of personal greatness and feels a
lack of appreciation.
is having overbearing pride or
in a manner that is rude and
is a feeling of self-respect and
personal worth. Satisfaction with your (or another's) achievements. Pride
taken for granted. Audacious (even arrogant)
that you have no
right to. A kind of discourtesy in the form of an act of presuming.
is conceited or arrogant, especially
in a bold or disrespectful
invulnerable to fear or intimidation.Impudent
marked by casual disrespect
forward or bold.Immodest
without customary restraint
overbearing pride and an exaggerated
superiority above others who are
perceived as inferiors
is intending to attract notice and impress others. Making claim to or
creating an appearance of (often undeserved) importance or distinction.
that conceals your
undesirable shortcomings by exaggerating desirable
is the inability to differentiate between
self and other
. More specifically,
it is the inability to untangle subjective schemas from
an inability to understand or assume any perspective other than their own.
Narcissistic Personality Disorder
is a long-term pattern of abnormal behavior characterized by
feelings of self-importance, an excessive need for
and a lack of understanding
of others' feelings. People affected by it
often spend a lot of time thinking about achieving power or success, or
about their appearance. They often take advantage of the people around
. The behavior typically begins by early adulthood, and occurs across
a variety of situations.
is the pursuit of gratification from
or egotistic admiration of one's own attributes. The term originated from
Greek mythology, where the young Narcissus fell in love with his own image
reflected in a pool of water.
is the view that humans are always
, even in what seem to be acts of
claims that, when people choose to help others, they do so ultimately
because of the personal benefits that they themselves expect to obtain,
directly or indirectly, from doing so.
is feelings of excessive pride.
is the excessive belief in one's own abilities
Id, Ego and
, the id is the set of uncoordinated instinctual
trends; the super-ego plays the critical and moralizing role; and the ego
is the organized, realistic part that mediates between the desires of the
id and the super-ego. The super-ego can stop one from doing certain things
that one's id may want to do.
is a second self, which is believed to
be distinct from a person's normal or original personality. A person who
has an alter ego is said to lead a double life. Two-Faced
"True Self" to describe a sense of self based on
spontaneous authentic experience, and a feeling of being alive, having a
is a prediction that directly or
indirectly causes itself to become true, by the very terms of the prophecy
itself, due to positive feedback between belief and behavior.
are used to
order to defend against feelings of anxiety and unacceptable impulses and
to maintain one's self-schema
in which humans defend themselves against
their own unconscious
or qualities (both positive and negative) by denying their
existence in themselves while attributing them to others. For example, a
person who is habitually rude may constantly accuse other people of being
rude. It incorporates blame shifting
is a defense mechanism leading to the temporary or long-term reversion of
the ego to an earlier stage of development rather than handling
unacceptable impulses in a more adult way.
is characterized by fantastical beliefs that one
or otherwise very powerful
is an unshakable belief
characterized by consistently inflated feelings of personal ability,
privilege, or infallibility. A person with a god complex may refuse to
admit the possibility of their error or failure, even in the face of
irrefutable evidence, intractable problems or difficult or impossible
tasks. The person is also highly
in their views,
meaning the person speaks of their personal opinions as though they are
unquestionably correct. Someone with a god complex may exhibit no regard
for the conventions and demands of society, and may request special
consideration or privileges.
is a perceived decay in standards, morals
dignity, religious faith, or skill at governing among the members of the
elite of a very large social structure, such as an empire or nation state.
By extension, it may refer to a decline in art, literature, science,
technology, and work ethics, or (very loosely) to self-indulgent
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