Introvert - Extravert
is being concerned with the social
A person concerned more with
than with inner
is a person who tends to shrink from social contacts and to become
preoccupied with their own thoughts. Or a person who prefers to work alone
rather then deal with the interference
is having both extrovert and introvert
There's a difference between being by yourself and being around other
people. Other people can
you feel and influence how you think
. Thinking is much more clearer when
you're alone then it is when you're trying to think when you're around
other people. Controlling your feelings
sometimes easier when you're alone, and not always easy when you're around
other people. This is not bad if you are aware of the differences between
being alone and being around other people. But if you're not aware of the
changes and influences
from being in different environments, then you will
limit your abilities
Being able to Self
and being Intelligent
is key whether you're alone or with other people.
Working on your own
. Depending on the
type of work that you're doing, you're sometimes better off working on
your own. Some working relationships can do more harm than good,
especially when you don't have enough clear goals and directions. If you
have to wear many hats in a particular venture, that means you will need
to wear all the hats together at once and also wear them separately one at
a time, which means lees time to do the things that you need to do. And if
your work is important, then you need to focus on that type of work.
Trying to do more might end up doing less and becoming less productive.
But if you can work with the right people, than you might be more
productive than just working on your own. But there is still no guarantee
that things will happen the way they should. So you still need to be ready
when changes come, and changes will always come. I guess that is the only
guarantee in life, and that is "things will always change", which is good,
but sometimes bad. Life was most likely designed to be like this, so that
life would never become dull. So here we go, into the wild blue yonder.
Time to think is good, but if you don't expand your knowledge, then
all you'll be doing is using the same words over and over again. You have
to keep learning if you want to keep thinking, especially if you want to
think about big ideas and create some amazing things. Knowledge is key.
There is not one door in the entire universe that knowledge cannot open.
There's a big difference between someone having
about crowds or
having a lack of
, then someone
who is just showing careful forethought
and avoiding excess. I'm
concerned with the social and physical environment, so the
question is, is what I'm doing the most productive and effective
actions that are
, practical and
positive? There has to be a
and entertainment. Not to say that
all social engagements are about entertainment, because some
social activities actually provide great experiences filled with
good information and useful knowledge. Of course not without
, but either way. Social engagements seem to be better when
you have some kind of a plan or purpose, other then just going
for the adventure, which I have done 100's of times. Not to say
that all those
were necessary, I was just doing things and not
really thinking about things, which was not all that bad because
at that time I had few good things to think about, thanks to
that sucky public education. I mostly felt the need for
without even knowing why. If I did nothing
I felt like I just wasn't doing enough, and the embarrassment of
doing nothing was too great, especially if your friends found
out. I felt uncomfortable on Friday nights if no one called or
if I failed to make plans, but for some reason on other days it
was ok, not too much pressure. Some people shy away from social
activities because they feel uncomfortable
in crowds. But going
with a Friend
sometimes helps, well most of the time anyway. Insecure maybe,
maybe, maybe just tired, or maybe just not
interested in interacting with other people at that moment. Is
Phobia about Crowds
or just the fact that I have not learned
enough about myself and the world around me? And how badly has this
affected you? Maybe your shyness was a good thing? I
guess that depends on you, can you learn from it? Of course you
can. There's a big difference between
. And the important thing here is to
keep learning. If you stop learning, then you are stuck with the knowledge
you have, which is not enough, so keep learning.
The Fear of Missing Out
did I really miss?
Cain: The Power of Introverts
Here's to the underdogs
is a social behavior that "benefit[s] other people or society as a whole,"
"such as helping, sharing, donating, co-operating, and volunteering."
Can being too social take years off your life
Hormones affect Social
is a conscious or
avoidance of a
situation or social interaction.
can be defined as nervousness in social situations. Some disorders
associated with the social anxiety spectrum include anxiety disorders,
mood disorders, autism, eating disorders, and substance use disorders.
Individuals higher in social anxiety avert their gazes, show fewer facial
expressions, and show difficulty with initiating and maintaining
conversation. Trait social anxiety, the stable tendency to experience this
nervousness, can be distinguished from state anxiety, the momentary
response to a particular social stimulus. Nearly
90% of individuals report feeling a form of social anxiety
shyness) at some point in their lives. Half of the individuals with any
social fears meet criteria for social anxiety disorder. The function of
social anxiety is to increase arousal and attention to social
interactions, inhibit unwanted social behavior, and motivate preparation
for social situations such as performance situations.
is the anxious feeling you have
when you have the jitters. An uneasy psychological state. A sensitive or
highly strung temperament.
Social Anxiety Disorder
is characterized by a significant
amount of Fear
in one or more social situations
causing considerable distress and impaired ability to function in at least
some parts of daily life. These fears can be triggered by perceived or
actual scrutiny from others.
Separation Anxiety Disorder
is an anxiety disorder in which an
individual experiences excessive anxiety regarding separation from home or
from people to whom the individual has a strong emotional attachment
(e.g., a parent, caregiver, significant other or siblings).
is characterized by symptoms of Anxiety
situations where the person perceives the environment to be unsafe with no
easy way to get away. These situations can include open spaces, public
transit, shopping malls, or simply being outside the home. Being in these
situations may result in a panic attack. The symptoms occur nearly every
time the situation is encountered and lasts for more than six months.
Those affected will go to great lengths to avoid these situations. In
severe cases people may become unable to leave their homes.
fear and distrust of that which is perceived to be foreign or strange.
is a fear of dinner parties.
Avoidant Personality Disorder
a pattern of social
of inadequacy and inferiority
, extreme sensitivity to
and avoidance of social interaction despite a strong desire to be close to
others. Individuals with the disorder tend to describe themselves as
uneasy, anxious, lonely, unwanted and isolated from others. The behavior
typically begins by early adulthood, and occurs across a variety of
Pervasive Refusal Syndrome
is when children have abandoned their
involvement in all phases of their life. It's characterized by refusal
to eat, drink, talk, walk or self-care, and a firm resistance to
treatment. PRS is very rare and its cause is unclear, but its severity
makes it life-threatening. The disorder usually begins with a 'virus', or
the child having a 'pain', that results in the need for consulting a
doctor or going to the hospital, even though no substantial cause can be
found. PRS starts slowly, but the child then worsens quickly becoming
reluctant or not capable to do anything for themselves. They originally
refuse to accept others caring for them, or helping them eat, and are very
depressed and distraught. It is not guaranteed that recovery will take
place, and it is a lengthy and complex process, involving specialist
medical care. Nevertheless, once the patient is healthy, relapse is very
occurs where the subject endures repeatedly
painful or otherwise aversive stimuli which it is unable to escape or
avoid. After such experience, the organism often fails to learn or accept
"escape" or "avoidance" in new situations where such behavior would likely
be effective. In other words, the organism learned that it is helpless in
situations where there is a presence of aversive stimuli, has accepted
that it has lost control, and thus gives up trying. Such an organism is
said to have acquired learned helplessness.
is when a person who is normally capable of
speech does not speak in specific situations or to specific people.
Selective mutism usually co-exists with shyness or social anxiety. People
with selective mutism stay silent even when the consequences of their
silence include shame, social ostracism or even punishment.
refers to those aspects of an individual's personality, such as
introversion or extroversion, that are often regarded as innate rather
Assessments can be Flawed
It can't be
just about you
is a person who lives in voluntary seclusion from the public and society.
is a person who
lives in seclusion from society.
Silence is Golden
Right to Silence
One of the dangers of being alone and Isolated is
. Alienation is Killing Americans and Japanese.
Almost a quarter of Japanese men and a tenth of Japanese women
over age 60
say there is
not a single person they could rely on in
. The American crisis may not be so dissimilar from
the Japanese one. Almost no connections with the
world around him: no job, no relationships with neighbors, no spouse or
children who care to be in contact
. It’s the person who, when they
take something out, they don’t put it back; when something breaks, they
don’t fix it; when a relationship falls apart, they don’t repair it.” The
New York Times analyzed over 60 million death certificates collected by
the CDC and found that the mortality rates for all white people between
the ages of 25 and 54 had increased since 1999.
is the absence of love,
affection, or friendliness. Make withdrawn or isolated or emotionally
A recent study from the United Kingdom reveals some surprising
that one person in 10 people has no close friends
as many as 5 million people in the U.K. might be friendless, so
you see, finding a good friend is not easy, but not impossible.
There are some 700,000
in Japan, young people who are completely
isolated and afraid to reintegrate into society
People should not feel alone, even though
loneliness is perceived to be real and the emotions are
definitely felt, I believe that we are more connected then we
realize, so loneliness
seems to be more of an illusion. Just
like something that you use to be
of, but now you're not.
So even fear is created from a lack of information, just like
most of our
. Many of us are
somewhere between being connected and being disconnected. So when everyone
together finally realizes that we are all connected, that's when we will
finally reach our full potential.
a Japanese phenomenon of people
remaining undiscovered for a long period of time. The phenomenon was first
described in the 1980s. Kodokushi has become an increasing problem in
Japan, attributed to economic troubles and Japan's increasingly
Ministry of Health, Labour and Welfare reported there were 3,700
“unaccompanied deaths” in Japan in 2013, but some researchers estimate
that because of significant under-counting, the true figure is closer to
is cut off or left
behind. Separated physically or socially.
Too much Fame or Attention
can be as bad as
being isolated or alienated.
refers to a self-imposed state of complete
or near-complete lack of contact between an individual and society. It
differs from loneliness, which reflects a temporary lack of contact with
other humans. Social isolation can be an issue for individuals of any age,
though symptoms may differ by age group.
is a state of seclusion or isolation, i.e., lack of contact with people.
It may stem from bad relationships, loss of loved ones, deliberate choice,
infectious disease, mental disorders, neurological disorders or
circumstances of employment or situation.
is shutting out or keeping apart from society, or the state of
being secluded, or a place that facilitates it (a secluded place). A
person, a couple, or a larger group may go to a secluded place for
privacy, or because the place is quiet. Seclusion of a single person is
also called solitude.
is refusing worldly
pleasures in the hope of achieving a high spiritual or intellectual state.
Rigorous self-denial and active self-Restraint
is to lose interest or to pull
back and move away from active participation in society and instead seek
solitude and remove yourself from earlier commitments or activities.
Sometimes to withdraw is to just take some time to think deeply and
carefully about some of your thoughts, and to observe and examine in
details previous actions and behaviors that you have experienced.
Withdrawing from the world is usually just temporary, because you can
never be totally disconnected from the world anyway, especially when
connected in life and the environment
. And over 7 billion humans live
on the same planet as you. So the problems that the rest of the world is
experiencing can easily effect your quality of life anywhere you are on
the planet. So it's a good idea not to burn bridges that you need to live,
or is it a good idea to lose contact with the outside world that you need
to warn you of dangers that are approaching. Sometimes when you withdraw
it may be because certain relationships become toxic or unproductive.
That's when you may want to replace some of your old friends with some new
friends, friends that may have a better understanding of you and the
is the study of human use of
and the effects that
are guidelines, rules or limits that a
person creates to identify reasonable, safe and permissible ways for other
people to behave towards them and how they will respond when someone
passes those limits. They are built out of a mix of conclusions, beliefs,
opinions, attitudes, past experiences and social learning.
to Set Boundaries
Mistakenly Seeking Solitude: Nicholas Epley and Juliana Schroeder -
University of Chicago
People who have lived
Alone in IsolationSolitary Confinement
Start With Hello Week
is characterized by persistent antisocial behavior,
impaired empathy and remorse, and bold, disinhibited,
are actions that harm or lack
consideration for the well-being of others.
is a pervasive pattern of disregard
for, or violation of, the rights of others. An impoverished moral sense or
conscience is often apparent, as well as a history of crime, legal
problems, or impulsive and aggressive behavior.
Anti-Social Behaviour Order
Loneliness and Risk of Alzheimer Disease
So what types of social interactions
are healthy? And how many social interactions does a person need?
Being alone means that you can do what you want
, when you want, and
think what you want, without having to accommodate other peoples needs, or
deal with distractions or any pressure or outside influences. But being
able to do what you want and when you want without restrictions can be
dangerous, especially if you have no control, or don't have knowledge of
the causes and effects of your actions. You need to have certain
responsibilities when you're alone as well as when you're with other
people. Both can be rewarding, and both can have their dangers. Freedom is
only beneficial when you can do beneficial things.
is a skill that everyone
should learn. Reality
Is being alone a form of
What are some of
the benefits of being alone and having time to yourself
Fear of Being Alone Meditation - How to Overcome the Fear of
Solitude should be about replacing
, so that processing new information encourages
, as well as increased understanding of the self
and the world around you.
Immune System can effect Social Behavior
About 50.2 percent, or 124.6 million
American adults, are Single
62% Percentage of unmarried U.S. residents 18 and older in 2013
who had never been married.
Another 24 percent were divorced, and 14 percent were widowed.
18 million unmarried U.S. residents 65 and older in 2013. For
First Time In 130 Years, More Young Adults Live With Parents Than With
Partners. Americans ages 18-34 are more likely to live with their parents
than in any other living situation.
who lives with their parents beyond their late 20s or
early 30s in order to enjoy a carefree and comfortable life.
Parasitism (social offense)
is one who lives at another's
- Population Growth
Single people are one of the
world's greatest resources.
should be looked upon as a honorable life
choice. Single people can dedicate themselves to the world and
provide a great service that helps the needy and helps the
uneducated to become educated. This way families can focus more
time and energy towards their family instead of having to spend
precious time away from their family to combat the worlds
problems that are over whelming families. As of 2012 there's
about 32.7 million Americans living
is being without other people or being included or involved
with other people. Being alone is being isolated from others and lacking
companions or companionship.
does not mean that you are
. And being lonely does not mean that you are
complex and usually unpleasant emotional response
to isolation or lack of companionship
. Loneliness can be felt even when
surrounded by other people, even in marriages, relationships, families,
veterans and successful careers.
associated with greater happiness, health, and well-being, which would
naturally reduce the depression and anxiety associated with loneliness.Depression
- Non-Physical Pain
Quiet Schools Network
is the human emotional need to be an accepted
member of a group. Whether it is
, or something else,
people tend to have an 'inherent' desire to belong and be an important
part of something greater than themselves. This implies a relationship
that is greater than simple acquaintance or familiarity. The need to
belong is the need to give, and receive attention to, and from, others.
There is a big difference between Solitude and forced
holds that knowledge
of anything outside one's own mind is unsure; the external world
and other minds cannot be known and might not exist outside the
mind. As a metaphysical position, solipsism goes further to the
conclusion that the world and other minds do not exist.
Mal de Coucou
is a phenomenon in which
you have an active social life but very few close friends—people
who you can trust, who you can be yourself with, who can help
flush out the weird psychological toxins that tend to accumulate
over time—which is a form of acute social malnutrition in which
even if you devour an entire buffet of chitchat, you’ll still
feel pangs of hunger.
is a dream that each random
passerby is living a life as vivid and complex as your
own—populated with their own ambitions, friends, routines,
worries and inherited craziness—an epic story that continues
invisibly around you like an anthill sprawling deep underground,
with elaborate passageways to thousands of other lives that
you’ll never know existed, in which you might appear only once,
as an extra sipping coffee in the background, as a blur of
traffic passing on the highway, as a lighted window at dusk.
We are the background and in the
foreground at the same time and at all times. It's just how you
look at it, and it's what you choose to focus on, and it's how
much you understand, and how much you know.
Everyone needs someone in their life to share life with
, even if
it's only for a moment. You can live by yourself and still be social once
in a while, so that you do not lose contact.
Solitude is a Skill
10 Stories of People Who Shunned Civilization for Years
born 16 April 1944, is a Russian Old Believer, part of the Lykov family,
who survived alone in the Taiga for most of her life. Lykova became a
national phenomenon in the early 1980s when Vasily Peskov published
articles about her family and their extreme isolation from the rest of
society. Lykova is the sole surviving member of the clan and has been
mostly self-sufficient since 1988, when her father died. In 2014, she
wrote a letter that was published online, requesting anyone to come to
her home to be her helper as her "health is waning".
study of human use of
and the effects that
has on behaviour, communication, and social
interaction. Personal Space
are communities who live, or have lived,
either by choice (peoples living in voluntary isolation) or by
circumstance, without significant contact with global civilization. Few
peoples have remained totally uncontacted by global civilization.
Indigenous rights activists call for such groups to be left alone, stating
that it will interfere with their right to
He Spent 40 Years
Alone in the Woods, and Now Scientists Love Him | Short Film Showcase
video of Gothic, Colorado—one of the coldest places in the United States.
This ghost town has been abandoned since the 1920s, but there is at least
one person who still calls it home. For more than 40 years, current
resident Billy Barr
has lived in a small
cabin, recording data about the snowpack to pass the time. In this short
film, Morgan Heim of Day’s Edge Productions profiles the legendary local
who inadvertently provided scientists with a treasure trove of
The 'Most Elusive'
Man in North America
(youtube) - maintains hiking trails.
Living Off the Grid
. Warrick Mitchell lives deep in one of the world's most
remote locations: Fiordland, New Zealand.
French Artist Abraham Poincheval
emerges after spending week inside a
12-ton limestone boulder hollowed out inside. Air entered the Rock
through holes. Poincheval was supplied with water, soup and dried meat for
the ordeal. Isolation Tank
- Space Travel
Earth systems science research facility located in Oracle, Arizona. It has
been owned by the University of Arizona since 2011. Its mission is to
serve as a center for research, outreach, teaching, and lifelong learning
about Earth, its living systems, and its place in the universe. It is a
3.14-acre (1.27-hectare) structure originally built to be an artificial,
materially closed ecological system, or vivarium. It remains the largest
closed system ever created. Biosphere 2 was originally meant to
demonstrate the viability of closed ecological systems to support and
maintain human life in outer space, defining mission one as eight humans
for two years.
Hawai’i Space Exploration Analog and Simulation
If people want
to live in isolation they should be paid to document their surroundings
and perform some basics science measurements. Then we can air lift a small
cabin and then make periodic
food drops using drones
Treating Depression with a Virtual Space Station
Everyone thinks a little
differently and sometimes sees things in their own way
, and in those
differences is where we learn more about ourselves and learn more about
the world around us. We need each other to learn, and sharing what we have
learned is natural to life. That is how humans have survived and thrived
for thousands of years, and also
how life survives
. Everyone exploring the world in their own way is
like Bees scattering to find food for the hive, because it's more
effective to have bees searching in multiple places, And bees never forget
where the hive is or forget where they found food. So, I will tell you
what I found if you tell me what you found. Choices, Options, Actions -
Learn, Love, Live, Prosper, Repeat.
is being shy and reserved. Affectedly modest or shy especially in a
playful or provocative way.
is the feeling
of apprehension, lack of comfort, or awkwardness especially when a person
is around other people. This commonly occurs in new situations or with
unfamiliar people. Shyness can be a characteristic of people who have low
self-esteem. Stronger forms of shyness are usually referred to as social
or social phobia. The primary defining characteristic of shyness
is a largely ego
of what other people will think of a person's
behavior. This results in a person becoming scared of doing or saying what
he or she wants to out of fear of negative reactions, being
. A shy person may simply opt to
avoid social situations instead.
is modesty or shyness resulting
from a lack of self-confidence
reflects a person's overall subjective emotional evaluation of his or her
own worth. It is a judgment of oneself as well as an attitude toward the
self. Self-esteem encompasses beliefs about oneself, (for example, "I am
competent", "I am worthy"), as well as emotional states, such as triumph,
despair, pride, and shame. Confidence
is having freedom from vanity or conceit. Simplicity; Having a humble
opinion of yourself. Exhibiting restrained good taste.
is the trait of being uncommunicative;
more than necessary.
Quotes About Solitude
"The best thinking has been done in solitude." ~
Thomas A. Edison
"Without great solitude no serious work is possible." ~
"What a lovely surprise to finally discover how unlonely being
alone can be." ~
"Solitude is the great teacher, and to learn its lessons you
must pay attention to it." ~
"When we cannot bear to be alone, it means we do not properly
value the only companion we will have from birth to death, which
is ourselves." ~
"Talent is nurtured in solitude … A creation of importance can
only be produced when its author isolates himself, it is a child
of solitude." ~
Johann Wolfgang Von Göethe
"Every kind of creative work demands solitude, and being alone,
constructively alone, is a prerequisite for every phase of the
creative process." ~ Barbara Powell
"To have never known oneself is to have never known anyone."
"Sometimes there are more scary things inside of us than there is outside
Yourself to be Yourself
"There is no I, or You, or Them. You're me,
I'm you, and we're everyone. A branch is not separate from the
tree, the branch is the tree."
"I'm my own best friend, and just like most
friendships, I sometimes ignore myself and disrespect myself,
good friendships are never perfect."
I've Seen All Good People - Your Move by Yes
surround yourself with yourself
Night - Cat Stevens
(youtube) - Another Saturday night and I ain't got
nobody, I've got some money cause I just got paid, Now how I wish I had
someone to talk to, I'm in an awful way....
"People are sometimes more about what they hide,
than what they show."
Isolation is a frame of mind and not just the lack of
contact. Having a person to talk to can make a big difference, especially
if that person is a friend who you can trust and relate too. But you must
have a strong mind either way. And the only way to have a strong mind is
from learning, and also by having access to the knowledge and information
that you need. So it seems that loneliness is not just the lack of human
contact and friendship, but loneliness is also the lack of knowledge and
information. So what would you choose, to always have a friend to talk to,
or choose to have all the knowledge and information that you can get your
hands on? Just don't end up like Henry..Time Enough at Last
The End of Time Enough at Last
was an episode from The Twilight Zone
series (1959-1964). Even the
smallest addictions can do more harm then good