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Introvert - Extravert

Extraverted is being concerned with the social and physical environment. A person concerned more with practical realities than with inner thoughts and feelings.

Introverted is a person who tends to shrink from social contacts and to become preoccupied with their own thoughts. Or a person who prefers to work alone rather then deal with the interference from ignorant people. Lonely

Ambiverted is having both extrovert and introvert personality traits.

People Smart - Self Smart

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Loner There's a difference between being by yourself and being around other people. Other people can influence how you feel and influence how you think. Thinking is much more clearer when you're alone then it is when you're trying to think when you're around other people. Controlling your feelings is sometimes easier when you're alone, and not always easy when you're around other people. This is not bad if you are aware of the differences between being alone and being around other people. But if you're not aware of the changes and influences from being in different environments, then you will limit your abilities to control and manage particular situations. Being able to Self Manage and being Intelligent is key whether you're alone or with other people.

Working on your own. Depending on the type of work that you're doing, you're sometimes better off working on your own. Some working relationships can do more harm than good, especially when you don't have enough clear goals and directions. If you have to wear many hats in a particular venture, that means you will need to wear all the hats together at once and also wear them separately one at a time, which means lees time to do the things that you need to do. And if your work is important, then you need to focus on that type of work. Trying to do more might end up doing less and becoming less productive. But if you can work with the right people, than you might be more productive than just working on your own. But there is still no guarantee that things will happen the way they should. So you still need to be ready when changes come, and changes will always come. I guess that is the only guarantee in life, and that is "things will always change", which is good, but sometimes bad. Life was most likely designed to be like this, so that life would never become dull. So here we go, into the wild blue yonder.

Time to think is good, but if you don't expand your knowledge, then all you'll be doing is using the same words over and over again. You have to keep learning if you want to keep thinking, especially if you want to think about big ideas and create some amazing things. Knowledge is key. There is not one door in the entire universe that knowledge cannot open.

There's a big difference between someone having Phobias about crowds or having a lack of Confidence, then someone who is just showing careful forethought and avoiding excess. I'm concerned with the social and physical environment, so the question is, is what I'm doing the most productive and effective actions that are Logical, practical and positive? There has to be a Balance between Critical Thinking and entertainment. Not to say that all social engagements are about entertainment, because some social activities actually provide great experiences filled with good information and useful knowledge. Of course not without Risk, but either way. Social engagements seem to be better when you have some kind of a plan or purpose, other then just going for the adventure, which I have done 100's of times. Not to say that all those Adventures were necessary, I was just doing things and not really thinking about things, which was not all that bad because at that time I had few good things to think about, thanks to that sucky public education. I mostly felt the need for Social Activities without even knowing why. If I did nothing I felt like I just wasn't doing enough, and the embarrassment of doing nothing was too great, especially if your friends found out. I felt uncomfortable on Friday nights if no one called or if I failed to make plans, but for some reason on other days it was ok, not too much pressure. Some people shy away from social activities because they feel uncomfortable in crowds. But going with a Friend sometimes helps, well most of the time anyway. Insecure maybe, Intuition maybe, maybe just tired, or maybe just not interested in interacting with other people at that moment. Is it a Phobia about Crowds, Antisocial Behavior, Low Self-esteem or just the fact that I have not learned enough about myself and the world around me? And how badly has this Shyness affected you? Maybe your shyness was a good thing? I guess that depends on you, can you learn from it? Of course you can. There's a big difference between Solitude and Independent Learning. And the important thing here is to keep learning. If you stop learning, then you are stuck with the knowledge you have, which is not enough, so keep learning. 

The Fear of Missing Out - What did I really miss?

Susan Cain: The Power of Introverts (youtube) - Here's to the underdogs.

Pro-Social Behavior is a social behavior that "benefit[s] other people or society as a whole," "such as helping, sharing, donating, co-operating, and volunteering."

Sociable introvert - Can being too social take years off your life?

Morality - Group Thinking - Hormones affect Social Behavior

Social Inhibition is a conscious or subconscious avoidance of a situation or social interaction.

Social Anxiety can be defined as nervousness in social situations. Some disorders associated with the social anxiety spectrum include anxiety disorders, mood disorders, autism, eating disorders, and substance use disorders. Individuals higher in social anxiety avert their gazes, show fewer facial expressions, and show difficulty with initiating and maintaining conversation. Trait social anxiety, the stable tendency to experience this nervousness, can be distinguished from state anxiety, the momentary response to a particular social stimulus. Nearly 90% of individuals report feeling a form of social anxiety (i.e., shyness) at some point in their lives. Half of the individuals with any social fears meet criteria for social anxiety disorder. The function of social anxiety is to increase arousal and attention to social interactions, inhibit unwanted social behavior, and motivate preparation for social situations such as performance situations.

Nervousness is the anxious feeling you have when you have the jitters. An uneasy psychological state. A sensitive or highly strung temperament.

Social Anxiety Disorder is characterized by a significant amount of Fear in one or more social situations causing considerable distress and impaired ability to function in at least some parts of daily life. These fears can be triggered by perceived or actual scrutiny from others.

Separation Anxiety Disorder is an anxiety disorder in which an individual experiences excessive anxiety regarding separation from home or from people to whom the individual has a strong emotional attachment (e.g., a parent, caregiver, significant other or siblings).

Emotions - Trauma - Anxiety - Worry

Agoraphobia is characterized by symptoms of Anxiety in situations where the person perceives the environment to be unsafe with no easy way to get away. These situations can include open spaces, public transit, shopping malls, or simply being outside the home. Being in these situations may result in a panic attack. The symptoms occur nearly every time the situation is encountered and lasts for more than six months. Those affected will go to great lengths to avoid these situations. In severe cases people may become unable to leave their homes.

Xenophobia is the fear and distrust of that which is perceived to be foreign or strange.

Deipnophobia is a fear of dinner parties.

Avoidant Personality Disorder a pattern of social inhibition, feelings of inadequacy and inferiority, extreme sensitivity to negative evaluation, and avoidance of social interaction despite a strong desire to be close to others. Individuals with the disorder tend to describe themselves as uneasy, anxious, lonely, unwanted and isolated from others. The behavior typically begins by early adulthood, and occurs across a variety of situations.

Pervasive Refusal Syndrome is when children have abandoned their involvement in all phases of their life. It's characterized by refusal to eat, drink, talk, walk or self-care, and a firm resistance to treatment. PRS is very rare and its cause is unclear, but its severity makes it life-threatening. The disorder usually begins with a 'virus', or the child having a 'pain', that results in the need for consulting a doctor or going to the hospital, even though no substantial cause can be found. PRS starts slowly, but the child then worsens quickly becoming reluctant or not capable to do anything for themselves. They originally refuse to accept others caring for them, or helping them eat, and are very depressed and distraught. It is not guaranteed that recovery will take place, and it is a lengthy and complex process, involving specialist medical care. Nevertheless, once the patient is healthy, relapse is very infrequent.

Learned Helplessness occurs where the subject endures repeatedly painful or otherwise aversive stimuli which it is unable to escape or avoid. After such experience, the organism often fails to learn or accept "escape" or "avoidance" in new situations where such behavior would likely be effective. In other words, the organism learned that it is helpless in situations where there is a presence of aversive stimuli, has accepted that it has lost control, and thus gives up trying. Such an organism is said to have acquired learned helplessness.

Selective Mutism is when a person who is normally capable of speech does not speak in specific situations or to specific people. Selective mutism usually co-exists with shyness or social anxiety. People with selective mutism stay silent even when the consequences of their silence include shame, social ostracism or even punishment.

Temperament refers to those aspects of an individual's personality, such as introversion or extroversion, that are often regarded as innate rather than learned.

Brain Plasticity
Praise - Punishment
Assessments can be Flawed
Personality - Identity
It can't be just about you?

Recluse is a person who lives in voluntary seclusion from the public and society. (Shut-In).

Hermit is a person who lives in seclusion from society.

Silence is Golden - Right to Silence

One of the dangers of being alone and Isolated is becoming Alienated. Alienation is Killing Americans and Japanese. Almost a quarter of Japanese men and a tenth of Japanese women over age 60 say there is not a single person they could rely on in difficult times. The American crisis may not be so dissimilar from the Japanese one. Almost no connections with the world around him: no job, no relationships with neighbors, no spouse or children who care to be in contact. It’s the person who, when they take something out, they don’t put it back; when something breaks, they don’t fix it; when a relationship falls apart, they don’t repair it.” The New York Times analyzed over 60 million death certificates collected by the CDC and found that the mortality rates for all white people between the ages of 25 and 54 had increased since 1999.

Alienated is the absence of love, affection, or friendliness. Make withdrawn or isolated or emotionally dissociated. Estranged.

A recent study from the United Kingdom reveals some surprising info that one person in 10 people has no close friends, so as many as 5 million people in the U.K. might be friendless, so you see, finding a good friend is not easy, but not impossible.

There are some 700,000 Hikikomori in Japan, young people who are completely isolated and afraid to reintegrate into society. People should not feel alone, even though loneliness is perceived to be real and the emotions are definitely felt, I believe that we are more connected then we realize, so loneliness seems to be more of an illusion. Just like something that you use to be afraid of, but now you're not. So even fear is created from a lack of information, just like most of our emotions. Many of us are somewhere between being connected and being disconnected. So when everyone together finally realizes that we are all connected, that's when we will finally reach our full potential.

Kodokushi refers to a Japanese phenomenon of people dying alone and remaining undiscovered for a long period of time. The phenomenon was first described in the 1980s. Kodokushi has become an increasing problem in Japan, attributed to economic troubles and Japan's increasingly elderly population. The Ministry of Health, Labour and Welfare reported there were 3,700 “unaccompanied deaths” in Japan in 2013, but some researchers estimate that because of significant under-counting, the true figure is closer to 30,000.

Isolation is cut off or left behind. Separated physically or socially. Divided

Too much Fame or Attention can be as bad as being isolated or alienated.

Social Isolation refers to a self-imposed state of complete or near-complete lack of contact between an individual and society. It differs from loneliness, which reflects a temporary lack of contact with other humans. Social isolation can be an issue for individuals of any age, though symptoms may differ by age group.

Bystander Effect

Solitude is a state of seclusion or isolation, i.e., lack of contact with people. It may stem from bad relationships, loss of loved ones, deliberate choice, infectious disease, mental disorders, neurological disorders or circumstances of employment or situation.

Seclusion is shutting out or keeping apart from society, or the state of being secluded, or a place that facilitates it (a secluded place). A person, a couple, or a larger group may go to a secluded place for privacy, or because the place is quiet. Seclusion of a single person is also called solitude.

Isolationism - Separatism

Asceticism is refusing worldly pleasures in the hope of achieving a high spiritual or intellectual state. Rigorous self-denial and active self-Restraint. Monks

Withdrawn is to lose interest or to pull back and move away from active participation in society and instead seek solitude and remove yourself from earlier commitments or activities. Sometimes to withdraw is to just take some time to think deeply and carefully about some of your thoughts, and to observe and examine in details previous actions and behaviors that you have experienced. Withdrawing from the world is usually just temporary, because you can never be totally disconnected from the world anyway, especially when everything is connected in life and the environment. And over 7 billion humans live on the same planet as you. So the problems that the rest of the world is experiencing can easily effect your quality of life anywhere you are on the planet. So it's a good idea not to burn bridges that you need to live, or is it a good idea to lose contact with the outside world that you need to warn you of dangers that are approaching. Sometimes when you withdraw it may be because certain relationships become toxic or unproductive. That's when you may want to replace some of your old friends with some new friends, friends that may have a better understanding of you and the world.

Personal Space or Proxemics is the study of human use of space and the effects that population density has on behaviour, communication, and social interaction.

Personal Boundaries are guidelines, rules or limits that a person creates to identify reasonable, safe and permissible ways for other people to behave towards them and how they will respond when someone passes those limits. They are built out of a mix of conclusions, beliefs, opinions, attitudes, past experiences and social learning.

How to Set Boundaries (ehow)
Mistakenly Seeking Solitude: Nicholas Epley and Juliana Schroeder - University of Chicago (PDF)

People who have lived Alone in Isolation
Solitary Confinement
Being Single
Technology Addiction
Over Isolated
Inner Monologue

The Quiet Revolution
Start With Hello Week

Psychopathy is characterized by persistent antisocial behavior, impaired empathy and remorse, and bold, disinhibited, egotistical traits. Behavior

Anti-Social Behavior are actions that harm or lack consideration for the well-being of others.

Antisocial Personality is a pervasive pattern of disregard for, or violation of, the rights of others. An impoverished moral sense or conscience is often apparent, as well as a history of crime, legal problems, or impulsive and aggressive behavior.

Anti-Social Behaviour Order

Loneliness and Risk of Alzheimer Disease

So what types of social interactions are healthy? And how many social interactions does a person need?

Being alone means that you can do what you want, when you want, and think what you want, without having to accommodate other peoples needs, or deal with distractions or any pressure or outside influences. But being able to do what you want and when you want without restrictions can be dangerous, especially if you have no control, or don't have knowledge of the causes and effects of your actions. You need to have certain responsibilities when you're alone as well as when you're with other people. Both can be rewarding, and both can have their dangers. Freedom is only beneficial when you can do beneficial things. Self-Analyzing is a skill that everyone should learn. Reality

Is being alone a form of Meditation?

What are some of the benefits of being alone and having time to yourself?

Overcoming Fear of Being Alone Meditation - How to Overcome the Fear of Being Single (youtube)

Solitude should be about replacing Neuroticism with Learning and Creative Thinking, so that processing new information encourages New Brain Cell Growth, as well as increased understanding of the self and the world around you.

Immune System can effect Social Behavior


About 50.2 percent, or 124.6 million American adults, are Single.

62% Percentage of unmarried U.S. residents 18 and older in 2013 who had never been married. Another 24 percent were divorced, and 14 percent were widowed. 18 million unmarried U.S. residents 65 and older in 2013. For First Time In 130 Years, More Young Adults Live With Parents Than With Partners. Americans ages 18-34 are more likely to live with their parents than in any other living situation.

Parasite Single is a single person who lives with their parents beyond their late 20s or early 30s in order to enjoy a carefree and comfortable life. Parasitism (social offense) is one who lives at another's expense.

Dating - Relationships - Population Growth

Single people are one of the world's greatest resources. Being Single should be looked upon as a honorable life choice. Single people can dedicate themselves to the world and provide a great service that helps the needy and helps the uneducated to become educated. This way families can focus more time and energy towards their family instead of having to spend precious time away from their family to combat the worlds problems that are over whelming families. As of 2012 there's about 32.7 million Americans living Alone.

Alone is being without other people or being included or involved with other people. Being alone is being isolated from others and lacking companions or companionship.

Being Alone does not mean that you are Lonely. And being lonely does not mean that you are insecure.

Loneliness is a complex and usually unpleasant emotional response to isolation or lack of companionship. Loneliness can be felt even when surrounded by other people, even in marriages, relationships, families, veterans and successful careers.

Greater wisdom is associated with greater happiness, health, and well-being, which would naturally reduce the depression and anxiety associated with loneliness.

Depression - Non-Physical Pain - Anxiety - Routines

Sociable introvert - Quiet Schools Network

Belongingness is the human emotional need to be an accepted member of a group. Whether it is family, friends, co-workers, a religion, or something else, people tend to have an 'inherent' desire to belong and be an important part of something greater than themselves. This implies a relationship that is greater than simple acquaintance or familiarity. The need to belong is the need to give, and receive attention to, and from, others.

Social Bonding - Relationships

There is a big difference between Solitude and forced Solitary Confinement.

Solipsism holds that knowledge of anything outside one's own mind is unsure; the external world and other minds cannot be known and might not exist outside the mind. As a metaphysical position, solipsism goes further to the conclusion that the world and other minds do not exist.

Mal de Coucou is a phenomenon in which you have an active social life but very few close friends—people who you can trust, who you can be yourself with, who can help flush out the weird psychological toxins that tend to accumulate over time—which is a form of acute social malnutrition in which even if you devour an entire buffet of chitchat, you’ll still feel pangs of hunger.

Sonder is a dream that each random passerby is living a life as vivid and complex as your own—populated with their own ambitions, friends, routines, worries and inherited craziness—an epic story that continues invisibly around you like an anthill sprawling deep underground, with elaborate passageways to thousands of other lives that you’ll never know existed, in which you might appear only once, as an extra sipping coffee in the background, as a blur of traffic passing on the highway, as a lighted window at dusk. We are the background and in the foreground at the same time and at all times. It's just how you look at it, and it's what you choose to focus on, and it's how much you understand, and how much you know.

Everyone needs someone in their life to share life with, even if it's only for a moment. You can live by yourself and still be social once in a while, so that you do not lose contact. 

Solitude is a Skill

Richard Proenneke (wiki)
Alone in the Wilderness (youtube)
10 Stories of People Who Shunned Civilization for Years
Christian Monasticism (wiki)

Agafia Lykova born 16 April 1944, is a Russian Old Believer, part of the Lykov family, who survived alone in the Taiga for most of her life. Lykova became a national phenomenon in the early 1980s when Vasily Peskov published articles about her family and their extreme isolation from the rest of society. Lykova is the sole surviving member of the clan and has been mostly self-sufficient since 1988, when her father died. In 2014, she wrote a letter that was published online, requesting anyone to come to her home to be her helper as her "health is waning".

Proxemics is the study of human use of space and the effects that population density has on behaviour, communication, and social interaction. Personal Space (alone time).

Uncontacted Tribes are communities who live, or have lived, either by choice (peoples living in voluntary isolation) or by circumstance, without significant contact with global civilization. Few peoples have remained totally uncontacted by global civilization. Indigenous rights activists call for such groups to be left alone, stating that it will interfere with their right to self-determination. Conformity

He Spent 40 Years Alone in the Woods, and Now Scientists Love Him | Short Film Showcase video of Gothic, Colorado—one of the coldest places in the United States. This ghost town has been abandoned since the 1920s, but there is at least one person who still calls it home. For more than 40 years, current resident Billy Barr has lived in a small cabin, recording data about the snowpack to pass the time. In this short film, Morgan Heim of Day’s Edge Productions profiles the legendary local who inadvertently provided scientists with a treasure trove of climate change data.

The 'Most Elusive' Man in North America (youtube) - maintains hiking trails.

Living Off the Grid in Paradise. Warrick Mitchell lives deep in one of the world's most remote locations: Fiordland, New Zealand.

French Artist Abraham Poincheval emerges after spending week inside a 12-ton limestone boulder hollowed out inside. Air entered the Rock through holes. Poincheval was supplied with water, soup and dried meat for the ordeal.

Isolation Tank - Space Travel

Biosphere 2 is an Earth systems science research facility located in Oracle, Arizona. It has been owned by the University of Arizona since 2011. Its mission is to serve as a center for research, outreach, teaching, and lifelong learning about Earth, its living systems, and its place in the universe. It is a 3.14-acre (1.27-hectare) structure originally built to be an artificial, materially closed ecological system, or vivarium. It remains the largest closed system ever created. Biosphere 2 was originally meant to demonstrate the viability of closed ecological systems to support and maintain human life in outer space, defining mission one as eight humans for two years.

Hawai’i Space Exploration Analog and Simulation

If people want to live in isolation they should be paid to document their surroundings and perform some basics science measurements. Then we can air lift a small cabin and then make periodic food drops using drones when necessary.

Survival Tips (emergencies)

Mennonites - Amish

Treating Depression with a Virtual Space Station

Physical Health

Everyone thinks a little differently and sometimes sees things in their own way, and in those differences is where we learn more about ourselves and learn more about the world around us. We need each other to learn, and sharing what we have learned is natural to life. That is how humans have survived and thrived for thousands of years, and also how life survives. Everyone exploring the world in their own way is like Bees scattering to find food for the hive, because it's more effective to have bees searching in multiple places, And bees never forget where the hive is or forget where they found food. So, I will tell you what I found if you tell me what you found. Choices, Options, Actions - Learn, Love, Live, Prosper, Repeat.

Demure is being shy and reserved. Affectedly modest or shy especially in a playful or provocative way.

Shyness is the feeling of apprehension, lack of comfort, or awkwardness especially when a person is around other people. This commonly occurs in new situations or with unfamiliar people. Shyness can be a characteristic of people who have low self-esteem. Stronger forms of shyness are usually referred to as social anxiety or social phobia. The primary defining characteristic of shyness is a largely ego-driven fear of what other people will think of a person's behavior. This results in a person becoming scared of doing or saying what he or she wants to out of fear of negative reactions, being laughed at or humiliated, criticism, and/or rejection. A shy person may simply opt to avoid social situations instead. Shyness Help

Diffidence is modesty or shyness resulting from a lack of self-confidence.

Self-esteem reflects a person's overall subjective emotional evaluation of his or her own worth. It is a judgment of oneself as well as an attitude toward the self. Self-esteem encompasses beliefs about oneself, (for example, "I am competent", "I am worthy"), as well as emotional states, such as triumph, despair, pride, and shame. Confidence

Modest is having freedom from vanity or conceit. Simplicity; Having a humble opinion of yourself. Exhibiting restrained good taste.

Reserved is the trait of being uncommunicative; not volunteering anything more than necessary.

Staying Home is sometimes better

Quotes About Solitude

"The best thinking has been done in solitude." ~ Thomas A. Edison

"Without great solitude no serious work is possible." ~ Pablo Picasso

"What a lovely surprise to finally discover how unlonely being alone can be." ~ Ellen Burstyn

"Solitude is the great teacher, and to learn its lessons you must pay attention to it." ~ Deepak Chopra

"When we cannot bear to be alone, it means we do not properly value the only companion we will have from birth to death, which is ourselves." ~ Eda LeShan

"Talent is nurtured in solitude … A creation of importance can only be produced when its author isolates himself, it is a child of solitude." ~ Johann Wolfgang Von Göethe

"Every kind of creative work demands solitude, and being alone, constructively alone, is a prerequisite for every phase of the creative process." ~ Barbara Powell

"To have never known oneself is to have never known anyone." "Sometimes there are more scary things inside of us than there is outside of us"

Reinvent Yourself to be Yourself

"There is no I, or You, or Them. You're me, I'm you, and we're everyone. A branch is not separate from the tree, the branch is the tree."

"I'm my own best friend, and just like most friendships, I sometimes ignore myself and disrespect myself, good friendships are never perfect."

I've Seen All Good People - Your Move by Yes (youtube)  "Don't surround yourself with yourself"

Another Saturday Night - Cat Stevens (youtube) - Another Saturday night and I ain't got nobody, I've got some money cause I just got paid, Now how I wish I had someone to talk to, I'm in an awful way....

"People are sometimes more about what they hide, than what they show."

Isolation is a frame of mind and not just the lack of contact. Having a person to talk to can make a big difference, especially if that person is a friend who you can trust and relate too. But you must have a strong mind either way. And the only way to have a strong mind is from learning, and also by having access to the knowledge and information that you need. So it seems that loneliness is not just the lack of human contact and friendship, but loneliness is also the lack of knowledge and information. So what would you choose, to always have a friend to talk to, or choose to have all the knowledge and information that you can get your hands on? Just don't end up like Henry..Time Enough at Last (youtube) The End of Time Enough at Last was an episode from The Twilight Zone series (1959-1964). Even the smallest addictions can do more harm then good.

The Thinker Man