is an emotion
associated with loss
or bereavement. Sadness associated with some wrong
done or some disappointment. Something that causes great unhappiness. The
state of being sad. Feel grief.
is a response to loss, particularly to the loss of someone or
something that has died
, to which a
was formed. Although conventionally focused on the
to loss, it also has physical, cognitive, behavioral, social,
, and philosophical dimensions.
refers to the state of loss, and grief is the
is intense sorrow
loss of a loved one
, especially by
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is a series of
that are experienced by some people after the loss of a loved
one, or when finding out that they're going to die sooner than expected.
– The first reaction is
. In this
stage, individuals believe the diagnosis is somehow mistaken, and cling to
– When the individual
recognizes that denial cannot continue, they become
, especially at proximate individuals. Certain psychological
responses of a person undergoing this phase would be: "Why me? It's not
fair!"; "How can this happen to me?"; "Who is to
?"; "Why would this happen?".
– The third stage involves the
hope that the individual can avoid a cause of grief. Usually, the
negotiation for an extended life is made in exchange for a reformed
lifestyle. People facing less serious trauma
bargain or seek compromise. For instance: "I'd give anything to have him
back." Or: "If only he'd come back to life, I'd promise to be a better
– "I'm so
, why bother with anything?"; "I'm going
to die soon, so what's the point?
"; "I miss
my loved one, why go on?" During the fourth stage, the individual despairs
at the recognition of their mortality. In this state, the individual may
become silent, refuse visitors
and spend much
of the time mournful and sullen.Acceptance
– "It's going to be okay."; "I can't fight it; I may as well prepare for
it." In this last stage, individuals embrace mortality or inevitable
future, or that of a loved one, or other tragic event. People dying may
precede the survivors
in this state,
which typically comes with a calm, retrospective view for the individual,
and a stable condition of emotions.
means to invest own conscious effort, to solve personal and interpersonal
problems, in order to try to master, minimize or tolerate
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is to conform oneself to new or different
conditions. Make fit for, or change to suit a new purpose.
enhances the fitness and survival
of individuals. People who face a
succession of challenges as they grow and develop, become equipped with an
response to the imposed conditions.
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is the feeling of dissatisfaction
that follows the failure of
to manifest. Similar to
differs in that a person feeling regret focuses primarily on the personal
choices that contributed to a poor outcome, while a person feeling
disappointment focuses on the outcome itself. It is a source of
psychological stress. The study of disappointment—its causes, impact, and
the degree to which individual decisions are motivated by a desire to
avoid it—is a focus in the field of decision analysis, as disappointment
is one of two primary emotions involved in decision-making.
is a feeling of sorrow (often
self-indulgent) over your own sufferings.
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is when someone endures
repeatedly painful or otherwise aversive
in which it is unable to escape or avoid. After such
experience, the person often fails to learn or accept "escape" or
"avoidance" in new situations where such behavior would likely be
effective. In other words, the person learned that it is helpless in
situations where there is a presence of aversive stimuli and has accepted
that it has lost control, and thus gives up trying. Such a person is said
to have acquired learned helplessness.
is not a sign of weakness. Crying is a natural response to pain,
discomfort or deep
is given to us at birth. Since babies are
born without an effective way to communicate, the
response of crying to communicate to its mother,
so the mother knows that the child is feeling discomfort or
pain. As we get older,
even though adults have mastered language,
is still used to
. But most adults stop
because of physical pain, mostly because they have learned over
time that there is no need for crying and also that adults have
built up a
tolerance for pain
purging of emotional tensions. The purification and purgation of emotions
that results in renewal and restoration.
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Some adults even avoid crying
because it's perceived to be a sign of weakness.
But besides physical pain, adults now have a new kind of pain,
Even though it's a
pain it is still
a form of communication. And there's nothing wrong with
communicating as long as it's honest and genuine. But if crying
is done over a long period of time, or recurring to frequently,
then it is time to
is a passionate expression of grief, often in music,
poetry, or song form. The grief is most often born of
mourning. Laments can also be expressed in a verbal manner, where the
participant would lament about something they regret or someone they've
lost, usually accompanied by wailing, moaning and/or crying. Laments
constitute some of the oldest forms of writing and examples are present
across human cultures.
is a type of affect characterized by
involuntary crying or uncontrollable episodes of crying and/or laughing,
or other emotional displays. PBA occurs secondary to a neurologic disorder
or brain injury. Patients may find themselves crying uncontrollably at
something that is only moderately sad, being unable to stop themselves for
several minutes. Episodes may also be mood-incongruent: a patient might
laugh uncontrollably when angry or frustrated, for example. Sometimes, the
episodes may switch between emotional states, resulting in the patient
crying uncontrollably when having sex. While typically caused by
physiological damage or disorder, emotional lability is known to accompany
certain personality disorders, such as borderline personality disorder.
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with people, but I don't feel sorry for people,
because feeling sorry for someone does not help them, or help
crying out load
, what are you doing?"
Only humans shed emotional tears:
Every other animal that produces
tears has a physiological reason for doing so.
The void after someone dies:
There is no
void, only a temporary space that will soon be filled with wonderful
memories. Life will not be the same after you lose a loved one, but
remember, life never stays the same. Life is always evolving and changing,
and every person who has ever live was an important part of this process.
An ongoing never ending continuum.
Some people believe that We Don't Fully
Grow Up Until We Lose Our Parents.
Some people also believe that there are some lessons that only
grief and responsibility can teach us. This is true and false.
Because we can learn either way. And we don't necessary need to
learn the hard way
especially when there is no guarantee that the person will learn
correctly or accurately.
And the type of changes that you will experience will also
depend on how old you are, and how knowledgeable you are.
"At the end of everyday we should pay our
last respects to the thousands of our fellow humans that have
died prematurely in the world today
. Let them know that they
will always be dear to our hearts, and that we will carry on, and we will keep moving
forward, till that one day when we meet our loved ones again,
on that beautiful day, a day
where everyone lives, and no one ever dies
before their time is done To bare the
pain without breaking is sometimes the best that we can do.
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What most people would like to say to a deceased relative or friend.
"I Love You, I Thank You, I Forgive You, Please Forgive Me."