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Sorrow is an emotion of great sadness associated with loss or bereavement. Sadness associated with some wrong done or some disappointment. Something that causes great unhappiness. The state of being sad. Feel grief.

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Grief is a response to loss, particularly to the loss of someone or something that has died, to which a bond or affection was formed. Although conventionally focused on the emotional response to loss, it also has physical, cognitive, behavioral, social, cultural, and philosophical dimensions.

Bereavement refers to the state of loss, and grief is the reaction to loss.

Grieving
is intense sorrow caused by loss of a loved one, especially by death. Grief and Loss

Mourning is grief over someone's Death. - Burial Options

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5 Stages of Grief is a series of emotions that are experienced by some people after the loss of a loved one, or when finding out that they're going to die sooner than expected.

Denial – The first reaction is denial. In this stage, individuals believe the diagnosis is somehow mistaken, and cling to a false, preferable reality.
Anger – When the individual recognizes that denial cannot continue, they become frustrated, especially at proximate individuals. Certain psychological responses of a person undergoing this phase would be: "Why me? It's not fair!"; "How can this happen to me?"; "Who is to blame?"; "Why would this happen?".
Bargaining – The third stage involves the hope that the individual can avoid a cause of grief. Usually, the negotiation for an extended life is made in exchange for a reformed lifestyle. People facing less serious trauma can bargain or seek compromise. For instance: "I'd give anything to have him back." Or: "If only he'd come back to life, I'd promise to be a better person!"
Depression – "I'm so sad, why bother with anything?"; "I'm going to die soon, so what's the point?"; "I miss my loved one, why go on?" During the fourth stage, the individual despairs at the recognition of their mortality. In this state, the individual may become silent, refuse visitors and spend much of the time mournful and sullen.
Acceptance – "It's going to be okay."; "I can't fight it; I may as well prepare for it." In this last stage, individuals embrace mortality or inevitable future, or that of a loved one, or other tragic event. People dying may precede the survivors in this state, which typically comes with a calm, retrospective view for the individual, and a stable condition of emotions.

Coping means to invest own conscious effort, to solve personal and interpersonal problems, in order to try to master, minimize or tolerate stress and conflict.

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Adapting is to conform oneself to new or different conditions. Make fit for, or change to suit a new purpose. Adaptation enhances the fitness and survival of individuals. People who face a succession of challenges as they grow and develop, become equipped with an adaptive plasticity in response to the imposed conditions.

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Disappointment is the feeling of dissatisfaction that follows the failure of expectations or hopes to manifest. Similar to Regret, it differs in that a person feeling regret focuses primarily on the personal choices that contributed to a poor outcome, while a person feeling disappointment focuses on the outcome itself. It is a source of psychological stress. The study of disappointment—its causes, impact, and the degree to which individual decisions are motivated by a desire to avoid it—is a focus in the field of decision analysis, as disappointment is one of two primary emotions involved in decision-making.

Self-Pity is a feeling of sorrow (often self-indulgent) over your own sufferings. Don't Blame Yourself

Learned Helplessness is when someone endures repeatedly painful or otherwise aversive stimuli in which it is unable to escape or avoid. After such experience, the person often fails to learn or accept "escape" or "avoidance" in new situations where such behavior would likely be effective. In other words, the person learned that it is helpless in situations where there is a presence of aversive stimuli and has accepted that it has lost control, and thus gives up trying. Such a person is said to have acquired learned helplessness.

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Crying is not a sign of weakness. Crying is a natural response to pain, discomfort or deep sadness. Crying is given to us at birth. Since babies are born without an effective way to communicate, the Baby uses this Instinctual response of crying to communicate to its mother, so the mother knows that the child is feeling discomfort or pain. As we get older, even though adults have mastered language, is still used to Communicate Discomfort or Pain. But most adults stop crying because of physical pain, mostly because they have learned over time that there is no need for crying and also that adults have built up a tolerance for pain.

Catharsis is the purging of emotional tensions. The purification and purgation of emotions that results in renewal and restoration.

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Some adults even avoid crying because it's perceived to be a sign of weakness. But besides physical pain, adults now have a new kind of pain, Emotional Pain. Even though it's a Perceived pain it is still a form of communication. And there's nothing wrong with communicating as long as it's honest and genuine. But if crying is done over a long period of time, or recurring to frequently, then it is time to seek help.

Lament is a passionate expression of grief, often in music, poetry, or song form. The grief is most often born of regret, or mourning. Laments can also be expressed in a verbal manner, where the participant would lament about something they regret or someone they've lost, usually accompanied by wailing, moaning and/or crying. Laments constitute some of the oldest forms of writing and examples are present across human cultures.

Pseudobulbar Affect is a type of affect characterized by involuntary crying or uncontrollable episodes of crying and/or laughing, or other emotional displays. PBA occurs secondary to a neurologic disorder or brain injury. Patients may find themselves crying uncontrollably at something that is only moderately sad, being unable to stop themselves for several minutes. Episodes may also be mood-incongruent: a patient might laugh uncontrollably when angry or frustrated, for example. Sometimes, the episodes may switch between emotional states, resulting in the patient crying uncontrollably when having sex. While typically caused by physiological damage or disorder, emotional lability is known to accompany certain personality disorders, such as borderline personality disorder.

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"I sympathize with people, but I don't feel sorry for people, because feeling sorry for someone does not help them, or help me." "For crying out load, what are you doing?" Life Organizers

Only humans shed emotional tears: Every other animal that produces tears has a physiological reason for doing so.

The void after someone dies: There is no void, only a temporary space that will soon be filled with wonderful memories. Life will not be the same after you lose a loved one, but remember, life never stays the same. Life is always evolving and changing, and every person who has ever live was an important part of this process. An ongoing never ending continuum.

Some people believe that We Don't Fully Grow Up Until We Lose Our Parents. Some people also believe that there are some lessons that only grief and responsibility can teach us. This is true and false. Because we can learn either way. And we don't necessary need to learn the hard way, especially when there is no guarantee that the person will learn correctly or accurately. And the type of changes that you will experience will also depend on how old you are, and how knowledgeable you are. "At the end of everyday we should pay our last respects to the thousands of our fellow humans that have died prematurely in the world today. Let them know that they will always be dear to our hearts, and that we will carry on, and we will keep moving forward, till that one day when we meet our loved ones again, on that beautiful day, a day where everyone lives, and no one ever dies before their time is done To bare the pain without breaking is sometimes the best that we can do.

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What most people would like to say to a deceased relative or friend.
"I Love You, I Thank You, I Forgive You, Please Forgive Me."

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