Don't make Comparisons
. It's easy to
make mistakes and make false
, because we rarely have enough information
in order to
Research can easily be skewed
, and our
could easily fool us into
then other people do.
It's your body, you need to learn how to love it so that you can
be comfortable in your own skin, forever and always.
Social Comparison Theory
the belief that there is a drive within
individuals to gain accurate self-evaluations. The theory explains how
individuals evaluate their own opinions and abilities by
others in order to reduce uncertainty in these domains, and learn how to
define the self
is any process of comparing entities in pairs to
judge which of each entity is preferred, or has a greater amount of some
quantitative property, or whether or not the two entities are identical.
The method of pairwise comparison is used in the scientific study of
preferences, attitudes, voting systems, social choice, public choice, and
multiagent AI systems. In psychology literature, it is often referred to
as paired comparison.
is a relation
in which one object designates, or acts as a means by
which to connect to or link to, another object. The first object in this
relation is said to refer to the second object. The second object, the one
to which the first object refers, is called the referent of the first
What exactly are you looking at? The surface? Or what's
causing the surface to look differently? Is it just your
? Or is it something that is
related to a cause and effect scenario that you can confirm? Like an
injury, or something hereditary, or something that indicates a health
problem? Don't ever assume that what you see is exactly what you're
looking at. There are many layers, and once you define these layers, then
can you avoid looking at yourself
narrowly, or so definitively. Stick with the facts, and skip the
comparisons, there's no time to
waste on that kind of bullshit anyway. Be a doctor, not a
is your status, now go, we have a life to live.
is a person's perception of the aesthetics or
sexual attractiveness of their own body.
My Body Image
people make when looking at other people
is the mental picture, generally of a kind that
is quite resistant to change, that depicts not only details that are
potentially available to objective investigation by others (height,
weight, hair color, gender, I.Q. score, etc.), but also items that have
been learned by that person about themself, either from personal
experiences or by internalizing the judgments of others. A simple
definition of a person's self-image is their answer to the question "What
do you believe people think about you?".
Self-image may consist of
three types: Self-image resulting from how the individual sees themself.
Self-image resulting from how others see the individual. Self-image
resulting from how the individual perceives others see them.
How our Body can effect our Thinking
Human Physical Appearance
is the outward phenotype or look
of human beings. There are infinite variations in human phenotypes, though
society reduces the variability to distinct categories. Physical
appearance of humans, in particular those attributes which are regarded as
important for physical attractiveness, are believed by
anthropologists to significantly affect the development
of personality and social relations. Humans are acutely sensitive to their
physical appearance, some[who?] theorize for reasons of evolution. Some
differences in human appearance are genetic, others are the result of age,
lifestyle or disease, and many are the result of personal adornment.
of objects is given by the way in which they reflect and transmit light.
The color of objects is determined by the parts of the spectrum of
(incident white) light that are reflected or transmitted without being
absorbed. Additional appearance attributes are based on the directional
distribution of reflected (BRDF) or transmitted light (BTDF) described by
attributes like glossy, shiny versus dull, matte, clear, turbid, distinct,
to show, shine, appear, to be
manifest or manifest itself, plural phenomena), is any thing which
manifests itself. Phenomena are often, but not always, understood as
"things that appear" or "experiences" for a sentient being, or in
principle may be so.
is the composite of an organism's observable characteristics
or traits, such as its morphology, development, biochemical or
physiological properties, phenology, behavior, and products of behavior
(such as a bird's nest). A phenotype results from the expression of an
organism's genes as well as the influence of environmental factors and the
interactions between the two. When two or more clearly different
phenotypes exist in the same population of a species, the species is
Nothing is Perfect
. Perfection is only a
, and achievable only in
But even then, most
are unnecessary and irrelevant. Perfection
is more of a desired goal, not necessarily a reality that
someone can achieve.
So even a dream about perfection is not perfect. To be Functional,
Practical and Healthy is as Perfect as
could ever get.
So don't waste too much time
Fantasizing about things that are unnecessary and
especially when most dreams about perfection are
. There are much Better Dreams to Dream.
"Your life doesn't have to be perfect, your life just has to have
Understand how the Media Deceives
and Warps Reality
"Being beautiful can be a distraction and be more harmful then good.
And not being beautiful can a blessing in
"Everything has beauty, but not everyone can see." —Confucius
Superhuman - World's Smallest People
(youtube, Nov 5, 2015,
'Ugly': A Memoir Of Childhood, Deformity And Learning To Love A
Whether you feel that you look beautiful or ugly does not
matter, because they are both dangerous
has its dangers, and being
also has its dangers. We should all decide to
make Beauty or Ugly only in reference to
. We should stop using Beauty or ugly to describe a
human, even if that human is yourself. It doesn't need to be a
law, just a common courtesy and a collective acknowledgment that
beauty or ugly are illogical terms to describe humans. We should
not use words that separate humans or encourages prejudice
that's based on appearance. We shall use from now on "You look
better, you look good, you look the same, you don't look as good
as you use to," because of a particular condition, and not
related to old age or any other natural accruing human
phenomenon. Try using these phrases.. Does that look better?
Does that look the same? Does that look different?
When we stop
using words against ourselves
, everyone will communicate
more effectively, and not just to each other, but also to
ourselves. Language is truly one of our greatest gifts, and one
of our most powerful tools. But language comes with a huge
responsibility. Everyone has to learn to fully understand the
amazing abilities that language gives us, but we also have to
learn about the dangers of language, especially when a person is
not educated enough and lacks the skills and the vocabulary.
language to teach the importance of language
There are many things in my life that I am
not totally in control of. Even though I am getting better at
controlling things in my life, I am still not in
everything. I prioritize, but I have to learn how not to ignore
things that still may be important. So I have to learn how to
spend some more time on the lower priorities in my life, because
they still may have significance. How many things do I need to
be in control of in my life in order to feel that I am in
control of my life? Without turning into a
or becoming a
No need to feel
are to close to being
should only relate to the facts, there is no such thing as
perfect, and a beautiful mind is more powerful and more
important then a beautiful body.
And you don't want to be
for that will just cause more problems and more dysfunction. And
don't seek the approval of ignorant people who judge others
. And don't pay attention to others prejudice
of ignorant people. And don't let others
distract you from how important you are or let others cause you
to forget how incredible you are, you are not measured by other
peoples ignorance. You are better then that. So show them what a
great person is all about, by either ignoring them, or by having
a intelligent reply to their ignorance, like, "Your insecurity
and your disrespect towards others saddens me, I pray that you
overcome your ignorance so that you can see your potential
instead of wasting it on
Assaults on Women
Your appearance and your
image is irrelevant. If you feel that it is, then your
conceitedness will rob you, and others, of what's really
important, like family, friends, people and life. Worrying about
how you look will waste time, energy and resources and
disrespect the gift of life on the grandest scale. Your self
reflection and self worth will be so distorted that you will
cease to be human, and eventually become a self indulge
reflection of an
Someone who's' more focused on how they look then what kind of
person they are. So self-conscious that you will become
world around you. You need to see
the world free from judgment and experience the world honestly
and openly, without the constant
self reflecting paranoia that strips you of any humanity or
decency that you have left in your self loathing soul. This goes
beyond a false pride
or an exaggerated sense of
People who are worried how others see them, are blind to who
they really are, and they can never see people for who they
really are. You will live in a self induced prison and at the
same time be an insult to yourself. Not only will your
relationships be shallow and meaningless, your relationship to
the world will also be shallow and meaningless. When you let
this go, you will experience life as if you were just born, a
great awakening. You will become incredibly grateful that you
have finally become relaxed enough to enjoy life and see life
through eyes of empathy, sympathy and appreciation.
is the understanding of the nature or meaning or quality or magnitude
of something. Delicate discrimination (especially of
expression of gratitude. A favorable judgment.
is sharing the feelings of others (especially feelings of sorrow or
anguish). A relation of affinity or harmony between people;
whatever affects one correspondingly affects the other.
is understanding and entering into another's feelings.
"Life is more about the
gift, not the package that it comes in "
“What's the whole point of being pretty on the
outside when you’re so ugly on the inside?”
"The most beautiful quality in a person is their brains, beauty will
only take you so far."
choose the one who is beautiful to the world; choose the one who
makes your world beautiful."
master of your own image rather than letting others define if
"We may never be perfect,
but we can get smarter."
you’re busy looking for the perfect person, you’ll probably miss
the imperfect person who could make you perfectly happy."
may be married to a star, but that doesn't mean they'll treat
you like one.”
“Beauty is not in the face; beauty is a light in
“The ugliest thing in the world is a beautiful
woman without the brains or courage to know that [beauty] is
nothing more than an accident.”
“I know it's not the
clothes that make women beautiful or otherwise, nor beauty care,
nor expensive creams, nor the distinction of costliness of their
finery. I know the problem lies elsewhere. I don't know where. I
only know it isn't where women think.”
"I might not always have control how I look on the outside, but I
certainly have more
control of what happens on in the inside
"Being pretty or hansom is more of a curse then it is a blessing,
and not being pretty or hansom is more of a blessing then it is a curse,
so I guess I just got lucky, again."
When a women asks me "How do I look?"
Of course I say great. But what I
really want to say is "In reference to what? Compared to what?
And what is the actual question?"
Because I just don't want to be respectable, I also want to be
accurate so that we can both learn something about each others
self-image. So you're not just looking for encouragement, but
something factual too.
Does being pretty mean that you're more susceptible to being
exploited and being abused? Does being pretty also mean that
you're more likely to be undereducated, because education will
seem unnecessary and irrelevant because your good looks seem to
provide with everything that you want, but not everything that
you need? Of course mostly everyone is vulnerable to these same
problems, it's just seems that beauty carries its own added
"Basing your attraction to someone just using
superficial body dimensions is ignorant and narrow minded, that's just
mostly says that you know very little about humans, including yourself.
You're allowing your inability to perceive and to understand get the best
of you. Don't put ignorant limitations on your ability to learn, or stop
you from knowing someone. Your intelligence is waiting for you, and so is
can work against you, especially when you're aware of the wrong
things at the wrong time for the wrong reasons, which makes your
awareness more of a hindrance then a benefit. If it wasn't for
other people, how you see yourself wouldn't matter. Because it's
not so much what you perceive yourself to be, it's more about
what you think how other people perceive you to be. You
shouldn't worry about what other people think, but there are
times when you have to anticipate other peoples reactions to
certain things, because those reactions could complicate things
or make a particular situation uncomfortable or even risky.
So you're not worrying about what other people think, you're
mostly just being aware of the fact that other people do think,
and most of the time people are not thinking about you, but
you should be prepared if they do
think about you for what ever reason.
Nothing is ugly, Ugly
does not exist
. Something that is pleasing to the eye does not mean
that it is beautiful, and something that isn't pleasing to the
eye does not mean that it is ugly, beautiful and ugly are just
opinions, not facts or reality.
But that doesn't mean that you
can not improve something or make something look better.
But that is still just a personal
is a personality trait characterized by a person's striving for
flawlessness and setting high performance standards, accompanied by
critical self-evaluations and concerns regarding others' evaluations.
is a lack of self-worth, a doubt and uncertainty about the self, and
feelings of not measuring up to standards. It is often subconscious, and
is thought to drive afflicted individuals to overcompensate, resulting
either in spectacular achievement or extreme asocial behavior. In modern
literature, the preferred terminology is "lack of covert self-esteem". For
many, it is developed through a combination of genetic personality
characteristics and personal experiences.
is a neuron that fires both when an
animal acts and when the animal observes the same action performed by
Not Your Body: Janine Shepherd
is a branch of
that explores the nature of
, beauty, and taste, with the creation and appreciation of beauty.
is the degree to which a person's
are considered aesthetically pleasing or beautiful.
The Thin Ideal
Stella Young: I'm not your inspiration, thank you very much
What's Underneath Project: Melanie Gaydos
feeling disconnected from one's
body, feeling detached from one's own thoughts or emotions.
where one denies ownership of a limb or an
entire side of one's body.
Body integrity identity disorder
The Different Body Types of Athletes
Be Careful of Toxic Cosmetics
Ingredients of Cosmetics
Cosmetics to Avoid
of Cosmetics (2010)
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are substances or products used to enhance or alter
the appearance or fragrance of the body. Many cosmetics are designed for
use of applying to the face and hair. They are generally mixtures of
chemical compounds; some being derived from natural sources (such as
coconut oil), and some being synthetics. Common cosmetics include
lipstick, mascara, eye shadow, foundation, rouge, skin cleansers and skin
lotions, shampoo, hairstyling products (gel, hair spray, etc.), perfume
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clothes really make the man, or woman?
Do the clothes you wear
change your body image?
is a person who typically advises individuals on, for example, new fashion
trends, clothing styles, colours and make-up.
is the theory that many features of cognition, whether human or otherwise,
are shaped by aspects of the entire body of the organism. The features of
cognition include high level mental constructs (such as concepts and
categories) and performance on various cognitive tasks (such as reasoning
or judgment). The aspects of the body include the motor system, the
perceptual system, bodily interactions with the environment (situatedness)
and the assumptions about the world that are built into the structure of
Your Body Image
10 Steps for a Positive Body Image
in Hand Knot,
How to tie a tie - Quick and
Tie a Tie: Half Windsor
is a characteristic of an animal, idea, object,
person or place that provides a perceptual experience of pleasure or
is the impression of attraction or fascination that a particularly
luxurious or elegant appearance creates, an impression which is better
than the reality
is a popular style or practice, especially in clothing, footwear,
accessories, makeup, body, or furniture.
are different rules and expectations being valid
depending on circumstance and occasion. Clothes may indicate a person's
gender, income, occupation and social class, political, ethnic and
religious affiliation, attitude towards comfort, fashion, traditions,
gender expression, marital status, sexual availability, and sexual
orientation, etc. Clothes may also convey other social messages including
the stating or claiming personal or cultural identity, the establishing,
maintaining, or defying social group norms, and appreciating comfort and
functionality. And clothes may say nothing at all about a person,
especially someone who does not care what they look like as long as they
are influences, informs, and
Media & The
Distortion of Body Image
is generally one exterior side of a building, usually, but not always, the
front. It is a foreign loan word from the French façade, which means
"frontage" or "face".
is a set of attributes, behaviors and roles
generally associated with boys and men.
is a set of attributes, behaviors, and roles generally associated with
girls and women.
The Human Body
Why do people Act
more freely when at a
Could pretending that you're wearing
give you the same effect?
Mask: 1995 Film
is to assume a
Pretend to be someone you are not
sometimes with fraudulent intentions. Behave affectedly or
unnaturally in order to impress others.
Rick Quidotti: From Stigma to Supermodel
yourself to others you have to know why you're
comparing yourself to others and know exactly what you're comparing? Most
of the times you're not comparing, you're just
So called ' Imperfections ' are truly a blessing in
, or just
Beauty, can destroy a persons life and cause more
problems then originally Perceived.
Falling in Love with your own Reflection
. Narcissus was a
hunter from Thespiae in Boeotia who was known for his beauty. He was the
son of the river god Cephissus and nymph Liriope. He was proud, in that he
disdained those who loved him. Nemesis noticed this behavior and attracted
Narcissus to a pool, where he saw his own reflection in the water and fell
in love with it, not realizing it was merely an image. Unable to leave the
beauty of his reflection, Narcissus lost his will to live. He stared at
his reflection until he died. Narcissus is the origin of the term
narcissism, a fixation with oneself and one's physical appearance and/or
Simon - You're So Vain
"They say that
is a factor with good looks, but that's just math,
a person is still more important then numbers."
"Don't let the way you look effect
the way you see. To see yourself is one thing, looking at the
world is another. If you're so focused on the way you look, you
will miss most of everything else that you can see.
gift. If you truly want to see yourself than just close your
"Saying someone is ugly doesn’t make
you any prettier."
is an unhealthy and
with something or someone.
is a concept (in human psychology) that was
originated by Sigmund Freud (1905) to denote the persistence of
anachronistic sexual traits. The term subsequently came to denote object
relationships with and attachments to people or things in general
persisting from childhood into adult life.
Beauty and the Beast
is a mental disorder characterized by an
obsessive preoccupation that some aspect of one's own appearance is
severely flawed and warrants exceptional measures to hide or fix it.
Somatotype and Constitutional Psychology
is to categorize
the human physique according to the relative contribution of three
fundamental elements, somatotypes, named after the three germ layers of
embryonic development: the endoderm, (develops into the digestive tract),
the mesoderm, (becomes muscle, heart and blood vessels), and the ectoderm
(forms the skin and nervous system). His initial visual methodology has
been discounted as subjective, but later formulaic variations of the
methodology, developed by his original research assistant Barbara Heath,
and later Lindsay Carter and Rob Rempel are still in academic use, Ectomorphic,
Mesomorphic and Endomorphic Body Types.
is a fear (phobia) of nudity.
Alice in Wonderland Syndrome
is a disorienting neurological
condition that affects perception
People experience size distortion such as micropsia, macropsia, pelopsia,
or teleopsia. Size distortion may occur of other sensory modalities.
is a cognitive disorder of face perception in
which the ability to recognize familiar faces, including one's own face
(self-recognition), is impaired, while other aspects of visual processing
(e.g., object discrimination) and intellectual functioning (e.g., decision
making) remain intact.
is in the Eye of the Beholder
Most teens explore their
sense of self
experimenting with different looks, different hair styles,
different roles, new activities and different behaviors. But as
we get older we usually just pick a style that is simple,
practical and the easiest to manage. It is not so much about
, it's more about gaining knowledge and
information about yourself and the world to the point where you
just want to keep things
so that you can easily navigate
through life without being tied to a particular character.
Of course our explorations continue, except now it's more about what
see in yourself and what we see in the world, and it's not so
much anymore about what we see in the mirror, which was that
image that we thought was so important, that has now
taken a backseat to
is concerned with or
comprehending only what is apparent or obvious; not deep or penetrating
emotionally or intellectualy. Of, affecting, or being on or near the
surface. Of little substance or significance.
I like this song by Christina but I don't like the video,
the video would have been better if she was just looking in the
mirror and then walking in public then ending with the mirror
scene, because most of words that we use to judge ourselves are
So when Christina says at the end of the song "Don't you bring
me down today" she is actually talking to herself.
Aguilera - Beautiful
"Sometimes you are your own worst enemy"
Another good song about self image is the
Park called 'Crawling' (youtube)
So how do you see yourself? Does that reflect what you see in
? Does your
match the same image that others see? Does it
matter? Of course not. All that matters is how you see yourself
If you don't like what you see in the mirror you should only
look at your face for what it is, a
. Is your
face healthy? Does your face work? Of course you don't want to
look like a slob, we're not saying dirty is OK, it's just not
that important sometimes. Do what you can and just go with it.
A Year without Mirrors
A Month without a Mirror
What Do Strangers Think Of You?
Mirror mirror on the wall, who's the fairest of them all
Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs
"One positive thought in the morning can
change your whole day."
This is your theme Song
me to you, from you to me, from me to me, from you to you...
You Are So
Beautiful, To Me
(Sung by Ray Charles)
You Are So
- Joe Cocker
You Are So